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I get really nervous in social situations and do not know what to do..its to the point where i cant barely speak because im so shaky and people can hear my beating heart. I have servere difficulty in making anykind of eye contact...i feel like i see too much when i look into people's eyes, i see what they are really about, what they are really thinking. i never used to be like this and i want to move on its a sad way to be. any advice? SERIOUSLY
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It sounds like you might have a social anxiety disorder. You might want to try getting counseling. I have the same thing and have went to counseling, and my counselor said I needed to purposely put myself in social situations and talk to different people. Doing that has helped me, though I still get nervous around people sometimes.
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it happens to me to but no one believe's in me and thats because I dont go to stores or out side so no one see's me shake i will only go out with my friends and i like swimming but me and my friend break into the pool at night because i dont like people one time i started to shake so bad i couldnt stand up and i really hate it.
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I used to be unbelievably nervous/anxious around people up into my late twenties. One day I stopped and looked at myself in the mirror and said why? Life is too short to be living like this. At that moment I said to myself I am just as good as anyone else I shouldn't get nervous around anyone. Nobody is perfect. Listen to me carefully, I made some changes in my life praying asking God to help me overcome this social anxiety. I prayed and said, "please Jehovah God give my the strength and confidence to face this world and not be afraid/nervous around people. Please control my breathing, and thoughts. When I look people in the eye and talk may I not have any fear." I also changed my diet (eating healthier) and started exercising because that also has an effect on your mood. It all comes down to loving yourself, believing in yourself and in God that you can overcome this.
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@: fola31
It's interesting that you mentioned Jehovah God and getting his help. He wants us to be comfortable in our own skin in order that we can feel at ease in healthy social settings. The principle at Phillipians 4:6 can be helpful with anxiety in general. Also jw.org offers a lot regarding social interaction on its online library piece on the website.
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Something like this happened to me too, I broke down and could not talk to people at all; turns out that my 'friends' were manipulative jerks who excluded and talked about me for kicks.
You may find what helps is to think quite profoundly about the people in your life and around you, every little thing they do and memory or memory of feelings you have of them, and to analyse that without thought-blocking your self. If a thought sounds crazy or strange to you; don't stop.
Also try exercising to help get a better psychosomatic control over yourself. A subconscious fear of others based on strength/speed may factor in.
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Adolf_Hitler
Klonopins. Get them.
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I could relate to your post.

It's called Social Anxiety Disorder and yes you probably have it (I do too).

But don't let the name scare you, it really can be overcome (I overcame most of mine). What helped me more than anything was actually telephone support groups (free groups offered by the nonprofit Social Anxiety Anonymous): http://www.healsocialanxiety.com
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you probably have social anxiety. I have it, you can go to the doctor and get some medicine for it, it helps a little, but i still get nervous around people.
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i havee this problem and i find the only thing that turns it around is hiking for 2 hours up a mountain or hiking 4 hours on flat ground that same day. I kno wit sounds kinda intense but its worth it because it cures your social phobia
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don't worry, people cannot really hear your heart beating. also, you don't have to make eye contact, just look right between the eyebrows. try going to a non-stress social situation, like just go to the mall and ask people the time.
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Me I get nervous reading websites other people have written...
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he sees what people are thinking because he has ESP right?
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How do you see what people are thinking? I'm sort of the same way when I'm out. I don't really talk to anyone unless I have to, and when confronted, I get really nervous and generally I can only answer with one-word answers. I usually just try to avoid people if I can, and I suggest you do the same. I've always been a quiet person, but this all started when I started spending the majority of my days on the computer. I wonder if there's a connection there. Regardless, internet friendships are better, and you can live just as much, or possibly more, of a social life on the internet as you can off.
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@: Fred
Amen to that xD
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Its normal be a little nervous, but what you described is not normal. The reason it is happening now is because of stress or nervousness for a long time that has turned into severe social anxiety, it can also be because of a stressful event, that causes extreme nervousness in future. I know people who were very good with social contact etc but hardly interact anymore. So - you are not alone. It happens with almost every 2nd person but it can be from mild to sereve. You must go to a psycologist or a doctor to guide you or help you with your anxiety by counseling or medicine. They would all encourage you to be socially active, but only be socially active at places with few people, and not in large crowds to start with. I would advise you to go to places that do not have a large crowds, but just few people, to begin with. Also try taking short-walks, and eat balanced meals, with no sugar or caffeine with mild exericise. If all this does not work you would need social anxiety pills that would help. BUT REMEMBER, You must wait for a few months or a year or two to get fully cured from it, It seems you have a severe social anxiety disorder, which will only get better with time.
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so er... please stop.
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well let's say u are at a buss. you don't just stare at peoples eyes then.
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now quit yer bragging about all your social disorders.....these losers in here would love to get out of their crummy little houses and be able to have a social disorder.
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I'll beat your ass for saying that
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