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I Hate Female Sexuality
What little mysogyny I have in me is directed at female sexuality. I can't stand it that females are attracted to males, ever. I hate them a little for it, just feel it in my gut. I thought for a long time when I was younger that females were basically asexual, not interested in sex, and that romance for them was something far removed from physical love. It didn't occur to me that anyone might find the male form attractive, and I always suspected males were using some form of deception or raping women in some way when they were with them. I don't understand this hate and distrust for my own sex. It really bothers me.
I hate that I feel there's something wrong with a female having an active sexuality when I know intellectually there's not. I'm a passionate feminist and attracted to females myself. I don't really understand this feeling.
I think maybe a small part of it is jealousy when I see a couple, and the rest mostly my wierd, incongruous hatred for the male sex.
I don't think females are doing something wrong but that something wrong is being done to them when they engage in sexual activity, even consentual, with a male, and they're allowing it to happen, are complicit in it. This is just a feeling I have and can't shake. It's not overwhelming, like I'm freaking out whenever I see a couple but it's there a lot, subtle but persistent. I'm atheist and I'm not someone who belives sexual promiscuity is wrong or even undesirable in male or females. This is just a wierd, lingering emotional problem, like fear of the dark or something like that.
Is it normal?
I hate that I feel there's something wrong with a female having an active sexuality when I know intellectually there's not. I'm a passionate feminist and attracted to females myself. I don't really understand this feeling.
I think maybe a small part of it is jealousy when I see a couple, and the rest mostly my wierd, incongruous hatred for the male sex.
I don't think females are doing something wrong but that something wrong is being done to them when they engage in sexual activity, even consentual, with a male, and they're allowing it to happen, are complicit in it. This is just a feeling I have and can't shake. It's not overwhelming, like I'm freaking out whenever I see a couple but it's there a lot, subtle but persistent. I'm atheist and I'm not someone who belives sexual promiscuity is wrong or even undesirable in male or females. This is just a wierd, lingering emotional problem, like fear of the dark or something like that.
Is it normal?
Do you think it's normal?
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Is it misogyny? I don't think it's as clear cut as that. Perhaps because the image you had of women (almost an idealised impression it seems) when you were younger has been destroyed (instead of having romance that is above sex, it turns out that women can be just as animalistic as men), you feel a sort of resentment and that mixes with the jealousy and then as you say "a weird, incongruous hatred for the male sex." This then becomes a strong dislike for female sexuality.
Why do you have these feelings abour men? Is it the people you've been surrounded with throughout your life and their behaviour/attitudes? Have you witnessed a man being abusive towards a woman at any point in your life? You don't need to answer those questions on here - I'm just hoping to help you figure it out.
You say that you feel as though "something wrong is being done to them," which could point to an urge in you to protect women, or perhaps it is more accurate to say to protect the _idea_ you have of women that stems from the concept you had when you were younger.
Anyway, the reason why I think that I can understand where you're coming from is because I've had similar feelings before. I can't recall when, but I think it probably involved someone I really admired or something.
Just out of curiosity - how do you feel about females who have sex with females? Hahaha
I know that I'm not really answering whether or not this is normal, but I've given up on that now because it's pointless really, so blah.
LOL.
Most of the time.
Or, put it like this, we may be just as sexual, but we don't tend to flaunt it the way guys do. We usually radiate inward, having been taught from a young age, usually, that sex is something to be cherished.
(and so it is! On the Other hand, I have spent a lot of time wondering about fems who only seem to give it out as a reward for something)
And here is the tricky part: You GUYS tend to get defensive, threatened and disbeliving when we act forward and uninhibited sexually.
I mean, if I am in a chatroom somewhere, and announce that I'm Female, I get hit on by guys ( :) ) - but If I Respond, if I get explicit (when I wish to) or get really nasty (on occation) guys seem to freak.
After a little bit of "COOL" guys start going "You're not really a girl, are you! No, No way are you a girl!"
And in real life it is worse. (shakes head)
Guys say they want a girl who is open and willing to try new things sexually - yet when we try and Be that way, we get called things like slut, whore and worse.
So, even when we DO wish to make love (and we do) we don't just find the nearest guy and jump on him.
Hope it helps
The Divine Ms. O.
Haha yeah, if all females were lesbian, that really wouldn't be to your benefit. Hopefully you wouldn't find reason to complain if someone were attracted to you though!
It's weird; I used to be borderline obsessed about anything to do with sex at one point, but after properly realising how transient and pointless it is (in my opinion), it doesn't appeal to me nearly as much as it once did. Really, it's not as important and big as everyone makes it out to be anyway. There are much more interesting things in the world.