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I hate my boyfriends son.
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I love my bf to death. by extension i should love his son right?
his son is an obnoxious spoiled rotten brat. he whines if he doesnt get his way. he whines if he doesnt like something. and he's ridiculously ungrateful like he doesnt say thank you for sh*t. he just complains. my bf bought him a slushie and he whined that he wanted water. he said he wanted a wii for christmas so we bought him one, and when he opened it he was like oh a wii and we had to TELL him to smilefor pictures. i cant stand to spend more than 5 minutes in the room with him or i just want to punch him.
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His son sounds like a jackass. I don't blame you for disliking him.
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I would tell ur bf. Don't listen 2 people who say
Oh no he's just a kid!
Cause kids can be evil too!
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mew
It's normal. I used to be one of those you can't blame the kid people that's very easy when you have never been in that situation. You just feel like giving them the smack they so clearly deserve.
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Then punch him and go to jail
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dang skippy
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I get so annoyed when I hear people saying, "you were a kid once" "how can you hate an innocent child?" When you were a kid, that doesn't quite mean much, kids see things differently, and don't have to deal with the same things as adults do. When I was young, I didn't like younger kids, they annoyed me. Children maybe innocent, but they still are obnoxious. Loud, messy, selfish, and a lot of times spoiled rotten (that can be placed on the parent). This is sickening to me, when parents don't say no to their kid. Great! Make the kid grow up to be a spoiled adult.
My boyfriend has a kid to his ex, and I want nothing to do with the kid. His kid, is all that I just described. Love my boyfriend, hate his kid. The spoiled part is on his grandmother, who has custody of him. But, whenever the kid is around me, I get so mad I wanna puke. He's not my responsibility, I used to try and mother him, but never had the love for him. His grandmother would let him get away with so much, that now I've just put a wall up between his son and I. When my bf wants to see his son, I leave. I never see myself loving his son. 1. He is annoying and spoiled. 2.He's not mine and never will be part of me.
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your story is very similar to mine its comforting to know im not alone
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Your best bet is to talk privately with your boyfriend and tell him your issues. He will either agree and then make changes or disagree, then you may have to change as in boyfriends because it will get worse. My kids rarely misbehaved as youngsters, I'd tell them what was right and what I expected and if they were good they (might) get something. If they acted up or did something I did't like I'd take them to a drive thru like Mc Donalds get ideas on what they might like to eat or I'd sit in the car outside of blockbuster and discuss what they might like to see, then I would drive off ,they'd get nothing and we'd further discuss what it was that was inappropriate.. If they had a fit it was room time until they could come out and talk to me not whine or cry...be consistant it works and believe me it doesn't take but a couple times to get the message clear. but always remember for good behavior tell them how proud you were of how they acted and sometimes got to the ice cream shop or ask them what they'd like at mc
donalds good luck
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In this situation, your boyfriend is mostly to blame for his son's behavior. When I would whine to my mother because of not having my way, she'd spank me hard! Your boyfriend is not being strict enough in his parenting skills. Talk to him about his son's attitude, and ask him if he could consider taking on the role of a more strict parent. If he has to resort to small spankings, so be it!
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oh amen!
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Yeah it's normal.
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The kid is testing the waters. He wants to know what he can get away with. He is probably a little unsure of things because of the life changes he has endured. Disipline will give him security. Hopefully both parents can do this so he can be emotionaly balanced. I have seen kids act like this when both parents live together. Good luck.
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My aunt married a guy with a son much like that...but worse, this dude was crazy dangerous. So, if you're having problems with him now, imagine what it'll be like if you stay with him, and the boy gets worse as he gets older. If you do decide to talk to the bf, good luck talking trash about his child and how he's raising him, I'm sure that'll go over well!
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its nothing personal on why the childs behavior is the way it is. its probably because he needs more DISCIPLINE. you and your boyfriend need to work together on this. before it gets worse. also be more assertive,make the child use manners like plz and thank u before giving him what he wants.
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Yeah it's normal, not appropriate, but normal. Be may be acting like this for attention since the attention he had all to himself is now divided. He may also feel his father doesn't love him as much or loves you more then him. It's hard to say without talking to him because a Childs mind doesn't work the same way ours does. Their personalities haven't quite solidified so they are essentially sociopaths. Now discipline is good for manners and teaching material value so he knows but there seems to be other issues that need addressed.
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Im in the same situation 4 yr old spoiled rotten!!!! daddy mommy or grandma buys him a new toy every time they go anywhere or else kid throws huge tantrom, kid pushes parents to let him stay up till 1 am, kids whines and cries about everything, hits other kids, pees and poops his pants constantly, has to be back in pull-ups again, hes super loud and obnoxious, does opposite of what you ask him or tell him... its frustrating. i'm debating on what to do about the relationship ive tried to introduce "discipline" and talked to my boyfriend (the dad) about how im feeling. but there are too many other people in his life that don't do the dicipline thing so... ya i'm thinking i just have to be done w/ the relationship. love the guy, cant stand the son
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@: anickh
me too
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Im in a similar situation.BF has custody of his son.I have 4children myself.His son 1st at age ten is a rotten ungrateful, spoiled brat, that taunts me and my children to no end.I try to love the kid and be the mother he hasnt had.I treat him the same as my other children. He is different, but I embraced that with him n helped his father embraced it with him as well.When I say hes different, hes openly gay, which is fine.But he has very inappropriate behavior like I had my family over and he danced for them provocatively, threw water on himself, danced up my brother in law's leg and then slapped him in the face..all as part of his dance.And thats just the tip of the iceberg!I love the guy, but cant stand the kid.He lies and is very manipulative. Every single day he gets his father to take him to a store to buy him something EVERYDAY!And when he doesnt get his way its war on and the night is over for everyone.I really really love the guy.Ive tried to leave but I stay hoping I can fix this with the kid.But i just find myself staying away until the kid is not around to see my bf.Its a nightmare for me and my own children.
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I have to comment on this because this is happening to me. I hate my bf's son. Never did I think I would ever say that but the child is impossible. He is overbearing, controlling, loud, mouthy, negative and I find spending any time with him makes me nervous, upset, I cry and I can't get away from him fast enough. He ruins everything we tried to do with him. For over 2 years I have tried several different tactics, sought counseling, avoided him, as he is only with bf 2 days a week. If I never see him again that would be ok with me. After my own nasty divorce all I want out of life is the most happiness I can find and peace in my life. I believe it's time to walk away from this relationship for my own sanity, but I really love this man. I just want all the people out there going through this to know that you are not alone. I have to say... why torture yourself? Walk away and move on, life is too short to be that unhappy. (Ps I do have 2 kids of my own that I raised with not much problem)
and to all of you who have negative things to say about our stories of these impossible children, obviously you have never had to deal with it to the extreme that we have or you would be crying too. It just rips your heart out.
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Wow thanks to all who understand what I'm going threw. My bf son makes me angry for no reason. I never met a boy at the age of 12 who is so disgustingly attached to their father. I could go on and on about this little bitch of a boy but I won't. I still even question is he his actually father since he looks nothing like him. He has a 14 year old daughter who I get along great with. She has another mother but is a spiting image of him. You would think her being a girl she would be a daddy girl but she's not. He's clingy, annoying, retarded and much more. This feeling is very normal.
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All I can say is your not alone! I'm relieved that I'm not the only one. Kids are way to spoiled and parents are enabling them by trying to out do the other parent to make sure their kid "loves them more". I refuse to play that game because it only hurts the child! It does cause friction in the relationship though...Good luck and Best Wishes!
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i love my boyfriend of 3 years so much i feel a hatred towards his kid i know its wrong cant help it, hes so loud he never shuts up hes mean, blows snot out of his nose all over the place he grosses me out, hes poured hot coffee on me , hurts animals,and he just stares at me and my kids hes 6 this is rediculous,his whole family is annoying loud people, but hes so great to me,, i should leave,, im afraid one day i will, thers no peace when hes around and me and my kids adore peace and happiness
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You're being unreasonable getting angry at child. Did you ever consider how he feels, he's probably acting out because he misses his mom? I'm assuming your not the biological mother.

You're not going to change the kid, the child is just baggage your bf has. If you hate him that much you have no choice but to leave your bf.
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he lives with his mom, next excuse please.
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