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I hate my boyfriends son.
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I love my bf to death. by extension i should love his son right?
his son is an obnoxious spoiled rotten brat. he whines if he doesnt get his way. he whines if he doesnt like something. and he's ridiculously ungrateful like he doesnt say thank you for sh*t. he just complains. my bf bought him a slushie and he whined that he wanted water. he said he wanted a wii for christmas so we bought him one, and when he opened it he was like oh a wii and we had to TELL him to smilefor pictures. i cant stand to spend more than 5 minutes in the room with him or i just want to punch him.
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His son sounds like a jackass. I don't blame you for disliking him.
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I would tell ur bf. Don't listen 2 people who say
Oh no he's just a kid!
Cause kids can be evil too!
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mew
It's normal. I used to be one of those you can't blame the kid people that's very easy when you have never been in that situation. You just feel like giving them the smack they so clearly deserve.
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Then punch him and go to jail
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dang skippy
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I get so annoyed when I hear people saying, "you were a kid once" "how can you hate an innocent child?" When you were a kid, that doesn't quite mean much, kids see things differently, and don't have to deal with the same things as adults do. When I was young, I didn't like younger kids, they annoyed me. Children maybe innocent, but they still are obnoxious. Loud, messy, selfish, and a lot of times spoiled rotten (that can be placed on the parent). This is sickening to me, when parents don't say no to their kid. Great! Make the kid grow up to be a spoiled adult.
My boyfriend has a kid to his ex, and I want nothing to do with the kid. His kid, is all that I just described. Love my boyfriend, hate his kid. The spoiled part is on his grandmother, who has custody of him. But, whenever the kid is around me, I get so mad I wanna puke. He's not my responsibility, I used to try and mother him, but never had the love for him. His grandmother would let him get away with so much, that now I've just put a wall up between his son and I. When my bf wants to see his son, I leave. I never see myself loving his son. 1. He is annoying and spoiled. 2.He's not mine and never will be part of me.
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your story is very similar to mine its comforting to know im not alone
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Your best bet is to talk privately with your boyfriend and tell him your issues. He will either agree and then make changes or disagree, then you may have to change as in boyfriends because it will get worse. My kids rarely misbehaved as youngsters, I'd tell them what was right and what I expected and if they were good they (might) get something. If they acted up or did something I did't like I'd take them to a drive thru like Mc Donalds get ideas on what they might like to eat or I'd sit in the car outside of blockbuster and discuss what they might like to see, then I would drive off ,they'd get nothing and we'd further discuss what it was that was inappropriate.. If they had a fit it was room time until they could come out and talk to me not whine or cry...be consistant it works and believe me it doesn't take but a couple times to get the message clear. but always remember for good behavior tell them how proud you were of how they acted and sometimes got to the ice cream shop or ask them what they'd like at mc
donalds good luck
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In this situation, your boyfriend is mostly to blame for his son's behavior. When I would whine to my mother because of not having my way, she'd spank me hard! Your boyfriend is not being strict enough in his parenting skills. Talk to him about his son's attitude, and ask him if he could consider taking on the role of a more strict parent. If he has to resort to small spankings, so be it!
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oh amen!
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Yeah it's normal.
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The kid is testing the waters. He wants to know what he can get away with. He is probably a little unsure of things because of the life changes he has endured. Disipline will give him security. Hopefully both parents can do this so he can be emotionaly balanced. I have seen kids act like this when both parents live together. Good luck.
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My aunt married a guy with a son much like that...but worse, this dude was crazy dangerous. So, if you're having problems with him now, imagine what it'll be like if you stay with him, and the boy gets worse as he gets older. If you do decide to talk to the bf, good luck talking trash about his child and how he's raising him, I'm sure that'll go over well!
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its nothing personal on why the childs behavior is the way it is. its probably because he needs more DISCIPLINE. you and your boyfriend need to work together on this. before it gets worse. also be more assertive,make the child use manners like plz and thank u before giving him what he wants.
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Yeah it's normal, not appropriate, but normal. Be may be acting like this for attention since the attention he had all to himself is now divided. He may also feel his father doesn't love him as much or loves you more then him. It's hard to say without talking to him because a Childs mind doesn't work the same way ours does. Their personalities haven't quite solidified so they are essentially sociopaths. Now discipline is good for manners and teaching material value so he knows but there seems to be other issues that need addressed.
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Im in the same situation 4 yr old spoiled rotten!!!! daddy mommy or grandma buys him a new toy every time they go anywhere or else kid throws huge tantrom, kid pushes parents to let him stay up till 1 am, kids whines and cries about everything, hits other kids, pees and poops his pants constantly, has to be back in pull-ups again, hes super loud and obnoxious, does opposite of what you ask him or tell him... its frustrating. i'm debating on what to do about the relationship ive tried to introduce "discipline" and talked to my boyfriend (the dad) about how im feeling. but there are too many other people in his life that don't do the dicipline thing so... ya i'm thinking i just have to be done w/ the relationship. love the guy, cant stand the son
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@: anickh
me too
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Im in a similar situation.BF has custody of his son.I have 4children myself.His son 1st at age ten is a rotten ungrateful, spoiled brat, that taunts me and my children to no end.I try to love the kid and be the mother he hasnt had.I treat him the same as my other children. He is different, but I embraced that with him n helped his father embraced it with him as well.When I say hes different, hes openly gay, which is fine.But he has very inappropriate behavior like I had my family over and he danced for them provocatively, threw water on himself, danced up my brother in law's leg and then slapped him in the face..all as part of his dance.And thats just the tip of the iceberg!I love the guy, but cant stand the kid.He lies and is very manipulative. Every single day he gets his father to take him to a store to buy him something EVERYDAY!And when he doesnt get his way its war on and the night is over for everyone.I really really love the guy.Ive tried to leave but I stay hoping I can fix this with the kid.But i just find myself staying away until the kid is not around to see my bf.Its a nightmare for me and my own children.
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If you are having difficulty coping with your partner's past relationships try reading I HATE HIS EX by Alex Cooper. I had loads of issues with my fiance’s ex and I have now resolved them thanks to the advice in this book! You can get it on Amazon! Definitely worth a read! :)
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I have to comment on this because this is happening to me. I hate my bf's son. Never did I think I would ever say that but the child is impossible. He is overbearing, controlling, loud, mouthy, negative and I find spending any time with him makes me nervous, upset, I cry and I can't get away from him fast enough. He ruins everything we tried to do with him. For over 2 years I have tried several different tactics, sought counseling, avoided him, as he is only with bf 2 days a week. If I never see him again that would be ok with me. After my own nasty divorce all I want out of life is the most happiness I can find and peace in my life. I believe it's time to walk away from this relationship for my own sanity, but I really love this man. I just want all the people out there going through this to know that you are not alone. I have to say... why torture yourself? Walk away and move on, life is too short to be that unhappy. (Ps I do have 2 kids of my own that I raised with not much problem)
and to all of you who have negative things to say about our stories of these impossible children, obviously you have never had to deal with it to the extreme that we have or you would be crying too. It just rips your heart out.
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Wow thanks to all who understand what I'm going threw. My bf son makes me angry for no reason. I never met a boy at the age of 12 who is so disgustingly attached to their father. I could go on and on about this little bitch of a boy but I won't. I still even question is he his actually father since he looks nothing like him. He has a 14 year old daughter who I get along great with. She has another mother but is a spiting image of him. You would think her being a girl she would be a daddy girl but she's not. He's clingy, annoying, retarded and much more. This feeling is very normal.
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All I can say is your not alone! I'm relieved that I'm not the only one. Kids are way to spoiled and parents are enabling them by trying to out do the other parent to make sure their kid "loves them more". I refuse to play that game because it only hurts the child! It does cause friction in the relationship though...Good luck and Best Wishes!
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i love my boyfriend of 3 years so much i feel a hatred towards his kid i know its wrong cant help it, hes so loud he never shuts up hes mean, blows snot out of his nose all over the place he grosses me out, hes poured hot coffee on me , hurts animals,and he just stares at me and my kids hes 6 this is rediculous,his whole family is annoying loud people, but hes so great to me,, i should leave,, im afraid one day i will, thers no peace when hes around and me and my kids adore peace and happiness
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OMG! So glad I found a place I can vent. I think what I find extremely frustrating and annoying is that my job is VERY stressful and I have to work with people I can't stand all day. In addition I have to pretend like I like them and eat s$&@ from them at times. So then I come home and just want to relax, but I have to kiss my boyfriend's son's butt too and I really don't want to have to be phony on my downtime. He's so annoying, this kid, and insulting at times. And everything is a problem. We can't go outside because he's scared of plants and bugs. He starts screaming snd runs into the street and fakes being stung by a bee. He lies constantly. He talks at an incredibly loud annoying volume, all the time. He is constantly making demands and his dad just obliges him constsntly. It's like he's not even a dad, but a servant. This generation of kids are a bunch of narcissistic, unable to handle anything individuals. And I really resent on some other sites where I've read stuff like, "well, they're kids, that's how they are, you're selfish!" Screw that. No! Maybe your kids are like that, but not all kids are like that! I wasn't. I didn't order my parents around. People constantly glorify childhood like it's this "angelic or perfect" stage of life. Oh please!! Kids can be incredibly mean and cruel. And going through a divorce is difficult, but not the worst thing a kid can go through. I don't know what will happen ultimately. I do love my boyfriend, and I don't totally hate this kid, but in all honesty I would not recommend for anyone to get involved with someone who has kids. It's so not worth it at times. (Sorry people with kids, but I'm being honest) I think having your own biological kids at times must be incredibly challenging, now imagine you've got to "be nice" to a kid who is not even yours, but the child your significant other created with another person, not as easy as it sounds. And if your bf or gf has the kid half or full time, be prepared because your bf or gf will leave early in the morning or at night to get the kid. You'll close to never get long periods of time with just him or her. And you'll always be wrong no matter what the brat does.
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@: HeyJay
Fully agreeing with you here. Dating someone who has kids is one of the hardest to deal with; especially when they are not on 'their best behavior' type of kids. My bf's kids are older. I thought hey this is great. They all have their stuff together. DEAD WRONG!!! 24yrs old this guy acts like a fkn kid! I am sick to my stomach. Everyone caters to these kids like a servant. I believe in tough love. I believe in it because it worked on me growing up.
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Wow it's so awesome to see people in my same position and feel the same way I do. I was seriously wondering if I needed to see a psychiatrist. Lol. I'm 21 yrs old and while I do care somewhat about my boyfriends son, I'm not sure that I love him. He is 4 yrs old and the most spoiled whiny brat there is. I've been around since he was 1 1/2.. But for the most part he has lived with his bio mother full time up until recently and now we get him every other week. This is when things started to spiral. It's so bad that I absolutely dread the Monday when we I go to pick him up from daycare. My issue is, yes you sign up for children responbilities when you enter a relationship with someone with children, but not single parent responsibilities. My boyfriend sometimes has to go out of town ALL week on his week with his son so he just assumes that I will take care of him during that time (I live with him). He does this because he and his ex are going through a custody battle and he doesn't want her to think he can't take care of him full time. But that leaves me to me feed him, bathe him, care for him etc. take him to daycare 30 min away everyday when I'm in school full time and work nights. But it's "selfish" of me to complain about doing these things. I don't believe it should be my responsibility to act as a single mother on HIS WEEK. Now to the child, he is whiny, bratty and talks back constantly. Poops in his pants at 4 years old. In underwear. Just because he is lazy! I whoop him when it's just me and him.. But when dad is around.. Oh no. He lets him get away with whining and talking back and just sits there and ignores him.. And then when I step in and try to take action, my boyfriend protects his son and yells at me and I end up being his trouble for his sons wrong doing. He calls me "heartless" and a "sorry a** stepmother" at times. When I'm taking of his bratty son while he is out of town! But yeah. I'm sorry. His son will then hug him and say "I love you daddy" while looking at me angrily. This infuriates me! I feel like I do so much because I care about my boyfriend and get sh*t on in return. We have argued so much about the situation and I believe it will eventually be the end of us if things don't change. I do believe his son should be #1 but I always feel like I come last and am not important bc they always team up on me. It should be me and my boyfriend against his son, not he and his son against me. It makes me very unhappy and I can't take much more! Also the potty thing. I don't believe a 4 yr old should be pooping in his underwear when he pees in the potty and knows how to poop, just won't cause of laziness. Am I wrong for wanting to punish him for pooping in his pants? Cause lord knows I'm the one who is going to be cleaning him up. My boyfriend thinks he shouldn't. I think he should get his ass whooped. He isn't a baby anymore. & he will never poop in the potty if he thinks it's acceptable to poop in his pants. But yeah I'm evil so what do I know.. There are times when I want to hurt his son for no reason just bc he is such a snotty brat. I do know one thing, my children will not act the way his son does! Ever. My boyfriend and I were raised differently. He never got whooped and I got whoopings with a belt. I feel as if our parenting styles are incompatible.. My kids will get the belt. That is what's wrong with today's generation. Not enough discipline. But hey, "they're just kids!", right?
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Sounds like a smaller child. The biggest thing I have discovered dating someone with a child is no different really than having your own kids with the main difference being you need time to get attached to said child. But parenting the same either way. If both adults are not on the same page and have come to an agreement on how you both wish to raise the child then that helps solve a lot of problems. My other questions and I think your boyfriend is being very very selfish in this why do you a gf have the child when it should be with the mother if dad is unable to care for the child on his week. Looks to me as though he is using you to fool the courts. And it's sounds to me like you're finding out why he got divorced in The first place
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I am so glad i found this site. I am going through the same thing right now. You are not alone. My bf has 3 kids. 12, 21, 24yrs old. The 24yrs old is a complete mess. I was walked on by him in my own house. He came for the holiday and then never left. Finally i questioned my bf and said 'wth is going on with him?' I thought he was staying for 2 days for Thanksgiving. Come to find out. He was kicked out, lost a job, lies continuously, has zero money and does things to get my bf's attention. The ex wife won't let 'C' stay with her and she is trying to make my bf say his son can permanently move in with us. I am putting my foot down. My rent goes up. Food is extra. He can't pay his way but expects a hand out. I can't sleep at night. I am ready to say F' this. I just don't have it in me to try and make this situation better nor should i be the one. My bf should be telling him, 'i love you but you cannot stay here; get your stuff together'...
I hope you have a better situation...i'd love to know the outcome since you wrote this post.
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I think the best way to get a grown child out of your home is to make living there not comfortable for them. They will eventually get fed up and do something to get away but I would buy a drum set and practice early in the morning near the big kids bedroom and refuse to coo anything for him and constantly bag him about cleaning. I would take the power cables to their electronics until they pay their part of the electricity bill. Like I said I would make sure they are not comfortable. Comfort creates complacency
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My bf and I live together. I have a daughter who lives with us. My daughter and my bf get along great and I love it. My bf as two sons, a 5 year old and an almost 2 year old. I love the 5 year old, he's such a good kid, he's so smart, he listens, and he just hangs out when he's over. The 2 year old on the other hand, omg!! He's so bad, my bf is constantly telling him to stop and spanking him because he does whatever he wants. He curses, yes at 2 years old her curses, he's really loud, he throws things at my daughter, he takes my daughter's toys away from her, he takes her pacifier and teases her, he tries to drink from her bottle, my daughter is almost 1 years old. I dont want her picking up his bad behavior and if you're a mom you know how it is when another child is mean to your baby. Whenever he son comes over for the weekend I just leave because I can't stand being around him and I really want to spank him but I cant. My boyfriend's ex, the one to the 2 year old, (both boys have different moms) is not a good mom. She laughs when he's cursing and I dont think its cute nor funny. She lets the little asshole do whatever he wants. I haven't told my bf yet and I'm dreading the conversation. I dont want to be around his son. I hate spending the weekend away from my apartment just because he's coming over.
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They're called the terrible twos for a reason!
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You should definitely never tell you partner you don't like their child it's much better to tell them you don't like their child's behavior. I could never look at my partner the same if I knew he felt that way about my child. You're angry at a two year old because you're being protective but who really is to blame the two year old or his father.
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I don't dislike my boyfriends daughter but I hate her behavior. She is a princess after all. I cannot stand how his family let's a five year old push them around. My boyfriend doesn't like it either as I have asked him a few times are you okay with her doing this or that. I have a seven year old son and while I can tell he enjoys having someone to play with sometimes she is very demanding she insists on me giving up whatever seat I'm in for her and loses instrest in that seat as soon as you find another one. This is a power play and o don't lay that you're a child I'm an adult and you're in my house not your dads house. But I've told my boyfriend. You just have to get on the same page and exude you're gonna parent the same and stuff if you can't then this children will be a source of stress regardless of biological parents or not
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You're being unreasonable getting angry at child. Did you ever consider how he feels, he's probably acting out because he misses his mom? I'm assuming your not the biological mother.

You're not going to change the kid, the child is just baggage your bf has. If you hate him that much you have no choice but to leave your bf.
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he lives with his mom, next excuse please.
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