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i hate MY FAMILY
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hey..i'm 18 and I DONT have my own room...how ridiculous can that be? i keep tellin my mum to shift from this house but she doesn! okay i undrestand that houses are a bit expensive here but atleast repect me !!!
i have a curphew and it is 12 am ..i cant sleep at my friend's houses i can't go clubbing i cant do nothing...i have two brothers who are of ages 20 and 23 ..they can do EVERYTHING i mean sometimes my mum even tells me she wishes i was never born ..she tells me " i'm very happy with my sons but you, mandy you always give me a headache." why i give her headache? because i want my own room i want my own privacy..when i come from shower i want to relax and wear my clothes not while my brothers are in the same room ...my house is always full of guests from overseas...and when they come here to stay they dont stay for one day or one week they stay atkeast 1 month or sometimes more..it makes it even worse.
I always have fights and arguements just because i want to go out with my friends late on a weekend..i'm not saying i want to stay out late everynight but atleast once a week..my family dont respect me at all..they think if i do house work or stay home everyday only THEN im a good girl? what the hell does that mean? i dont even take pocket money from my mum i earn my own money i buy my own clothes ..whatever i want to do it is with my own money..i feel like commiting suicide sometime but i really want to make my dreams come true and acheive my goals in life..i wish i could live alone for a while so i can take a break ...i want to decorate my own room my own kitchen my own bathroom..is that a crime????all im askin is for them to be fair ..doesn't mean that just because i am a girl i have to be protected !

NO! No! No! Thats my proregative..i want to feel more free in this place and when i come home i want to feel that it's the sweetest place on earth for me but its not i wish i never come home because when i do come home it is like hell...
do any of you people out there feel the same???
Do you think it's normal?
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farad (2287)
2006-08-18 19:55:49
lol
poor girl
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Moi (588)
2006-08-18 20:46:25
When living under your parent's roof (even if you are an adult) you still have to abide by their rules, after all it is their house. If you don't like it you can leave, you're an adult. Why not share an apartment with a friend, the you can have your own room.
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cabinet69 (3089)
2006-08-18 20:59:12
Move Out
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CrazyMoFo (1953)
2006-08-18 23:55:58
Get over it, ur not that important.
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EccentricWeird (3314)
2006-08-19 23:15:31
God damn, at least you get to go out at all.

-Bitch
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Superwang (3310)
2006-08-20 16:18:02
Sounds like you're trying to gain some independence, but you're held back by lack of funding. Not to mention your family is living in the 1950's.

Unfortunately, you're fucked until you're making enough money to support yourself.

"i mean sometimes my mum even tells me she wishes i was never born ..she tells me " i'm very happy with my sons but you, mandy you always give me a headache.""

Did she really say that, or are you simply thinking she implied that by what she said?

Besides, words are words. Sure they hurt, but at least it's not fists to the face, like some people had/have to live with...

"i feel like commiting suicide"

I don't recommend this. Suicide can lead to asthma, diarrhea, and an abrupt end in life, and then you're really boned.

"they think if i do house work or stay home everyday only THEN im a good girl? what the hell does that mean?"

I all ready told you damnit, they're living in the 50's. Tell your mom "Bitch please. Get with the times woman." That's what I'd do, But you probably can't because: Lack of funds.

"i want to feel more free in this place"

I got my own place, and now i'm free to walk around nude anytime I want. It's awesome.

"i want to decorate my own room my own kitchen my own bathroom..is that a crime?"

I found this so unbelievably cute. You can come over and redecorate my bathroom and kitchen if you want.

"do any of you people out there feel the same???"

In all honesty, I never felt like this. I'm 20 yrs old now, but my parents were very lax when I was younger. They didn't care if I smoked or drank, as long as I wasn't driving. I didn't have a curfew, I just had to tell them what time I'd be home, or call them when I didn't show up so they wouldn't get worried. My parents didn't know what "grounding" was, but boy did the old man know how to punch :/ .

Anyways, what you're looking for is independence, what you need is money.

Good luck with that.
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EccentricWeird (3314)
2006-08-30 01:45:24
I agree that it's not a crime to want to decorate your own home, but I think there's a Universal law (morals) that inhibits people from being constantly nude, even in 'privacy'.
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Retrardedjackass (3524)
2006-09-01 11:52:19
its normall to hate youre parents i think
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Consequence (3660)
2006-09-09 04:21:38
Save money and rent an apartment.
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fido00000000000000000000000001 (3645)
2006-09-09 04:57:45
1. Get a job
2. Find a root
3. Move out
4. well who really gives what ya fuckin do.
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jismcreme (3723)
2006-10-02 07:55:56
Too long to read, normal.
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youngandconfused (3939)
2006-10-06 19:18:43
umm i think that you should make sharing a room so miserable the ppl you ahare a room with move out.. start walking around naked, masturbate with them in the bed over, have sex with the person you share a room wiht in the bed next to yours,,, if you cant move out then maybe your room uddy can... get creative, dont be so modist.
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youngandconfused (3939)
2006-10-06 19:19:38
wow i typed that sex one worng... have sex...while your roomate is in the bed over******
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bouncexmysoul (3948)
2006-10-07 20:05:58
If your excuse of a mom gives you a headache then why does she still keep you in her house? You're 18 honey. Do what you want and don't let her bring you down. You are free and don't committ suicide, cause if you do then your mom had already won this war and gotten the best of you. OK I sound like Dr. Phil now. lolzz
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leobutrkurnel (810)
2006-10-11 00:48:54
You're 18 and don't have your own room? Hey, at lest you don't bathe 'Japanese-family style.' Christ, you're a girl. The bathroom is your room. If they put in a little TV for soap operas you'd never leave.
I agree, they should repect you. For repect is almost as coveted as restect.
If they refuse to get a new home, you could always become one of the subterranean mole people.
Also, how dare they not let you go clubbing. I'm sure all the other cavemen taunt you mercilessly for that.
At least YOUR mom didn't get you a job at Planned Parenthood--as an example.
I'm sorry your mom frequently denounces you for giving her headaches but at least she isn't like half the inhabitants of Alabama and frequently denounces you for giving her syphilis. Perhaps it's HER fault for giving you the drum set and 'My First Jackhammer' for Christmas.
Just out of curiosity, if you have no area to be your designated room, then where exactly do the 'guests' sleep?
Is one of your goals in life learning to spell?
To answer your question; of course you have to be protected. Dishwashers have warranties, you know.
I do hope 'you people' isn't a racist slur. My minority, the New Guinea hairy pygmy bushmen has been oppressed long enough.
May I suggest an 'underground tunnel' of sorts leading to your friend's houses. Either that, or, as you're 18, you could...I don't know...MOVE?! Either that or give the old hag a surprise when you 'accidentally' lock your laxative-filled cat in her room.
Peace.
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sisophous (3738)
2006-10-19 15:01:53
I hear you, and understand why you are so annoyed, justifiably so. Sounds like your home is a living hell and you need privacy, especially at age 18. You don't mention whether you are going to school or not. If you are going on to further education, you can room on campus, any campus, find a suitable roomate, you would be far happier. At least you would have more independence, more privacy. If you are not going to school, I suggest you find a job. Check classified ads for those looking for a roomate. If you split costs you should be able to afford it. It isn't easy to find a compatible roomate, but it is worth going through several if need be to get some independence which you seem to have none of at home. Another thing to consider, is to find a place near your home if possible. That way you can possibly get a free meal at home, do laundry at home, while having more privacy sharing an apartment with someone else. Food isn't cheap, so this is another way of making ends meet provided your folks help you out somewhat. Put up with the aggravation for the time being, you are so young, things will get much better in time. Time is on your side.
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Shaka_Zulu (3938)
2006-10-19 21:45:28
kinatro@hotmail.com i'm looking for a new flat m8. run away to NZ & flat with me & my chck! lolz!
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shadow_gt (6154)
2007-02-25 01:34:20
I'm in almost exactly the same situation, only I'm male and my parents can't fall back on the safety excuse.... just stick it out.... besides, in a year or two, if you decide to go off to university or whatever, you'll have all the privacy you want. Then again, by then your youth will be a thing of the past and it won't matter anymore...
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ratcangaidep (8108)
2007-05-01 03:48:33
your family is suck. My family is too. You better kill them or leave that heel.
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ratcangaidep (8108)
2007-05-01 03:53:48
my mom always goes to my room. Moreover, she uses my room as a storage. Now i am moving abroad, I will never see my family again. So lucky.
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YoZitNormal (8167)
2007-05-04 11:26:39
I feel the same, even though i'm a boy and you are a girl. I TOTALLY hate them, and the worst thing about my family is that we're muslims ! they totally worship disciplin and there's nothing they love more than when children obey their families and fulfill every need, and that's literally impossible !!!!! further more, they've just destroyed my sixteenth birtday on a fake basis. their story is that I got angry and started to talk trash, but the real story is that my mom made me totally freak out !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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lilyshine (17664)
2008-11-13 08:25:00
only u can find a way out 4 this prob
mums never change

pretinde like an emo and cry a lot
thats may help
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