I hate myself.

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I feel for you. You have been steadily gaining weight. You don't know why it's happening or what to do about it. People tell you to do this or do that, and nothing seems to work. You see others around you gaining weight, and it seems inevitable that you are predestined to live a life of corpulence.

Don't despair. You can be skinny again. I've done it, and so can you. It just takes reliable information and a bit of persistence.

The cause of obesity has been discovered, but few people actually know about it. It has nothing to do with overeating or lack of exercise. Obesity is caused by eating foods that are abundant in carbohydrates, particularly refined carbohydrates. Such foods raise the insulin level in the bloodstream, which promotes fat accumulation in the majority of people. Sadly, most nutritionists don't know or appreciate this.

You can get rid of this excess fat by eliminating the cause, by going on a *low-carbohydrate* diet. This means eating foods that are very low in carbohydrate, high in fat, with moderate amounts of protein. Don't eat bread, potatoes, pasta, rice, pastries, or anything containing sugar or flour. Do eat meat, fish, eggs, cheese, and butter. Get one of the popular low-carb diet books to help you with this. Join a low-carb online forum.

A low-carbohydrate diet is the only solution that will permanently solve your problem. Low-calorie and low-fat diets do not work, and are very unhealthy. Exercise will help you tone muscle, but will not get rid of the fat.

If you want some inspiration, search the net for a guy named Jimmy Moore. He used to weigh 410 lbs, went on a low-carbohydrate diet, eventually going down to about 230 lbs. Look at his before and after photos. He now runs his own web site. If he can do it, so can you.

eh, chillax, i'm heavier than my father, it's nothin

What you're describing is normal. But you should still be thankful for what you have. Most people want to be skinny in order to be attractive to others, and you have a partner who is attracted to you. He probably gets depressed when you talk about it because he hates seeing you so unhappy with yourself.

Listen to me and listen closely:there isn't a single human being who is "ugly", even the ones who are like deformed or whaterever can look really good! I knew a girl with a weird lip thing I don't how is it called in english (in spanish is "labio leporino") and she still looked gorgeous in her Qunceañera party.
What I'm trying to say is that no matter how big you are you are still beautiful. And drop that "I'll look ugly in pretty clothes" anybody can look good in the right clothes. And maybe you should loose weight for health sake, but that's not the end of the world.
If anything you should be grateful that you have a boyfriend that loves you and thinks you're beautiful, and a baby (I mean you were pregnant). Gorgeous folks would kill for that.
So, don't hate yourself; you're marvellous just in the way you are.

P.D. BTW there are many guys who think big girls are better, think about it.

"What I'm trying to say is that no matter how big you are you are still beautiful."

Sorry, Maki_P, but this is complete BS. It is useless advice like this that keeps people stuck in their current situation. The fact is that as a woman gets bigger and bigger (especially in the waist area), she becomes less and less attractive to men. As a man, I can easily see this, directly. You can't see this yourself, because you're a woman. But, if you observe social situations carefully, such as dance events, you can see this indirectly.

This problem can be solved. I've posted practical advice, above.

You sound a bit down on yourself. Have you talked with your family doctor about your feelings postpartum?

:( Why be so down in the dumps when we have The Beatles :):) They always make me happy and forgot my worries. I love you, George!!