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I have fallen for her
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I need advice, I found this site looking for the answers, and have decided to post. About 8 years ago, I met an older woman who I was attracted to, we dated, still live together, have 2 little ones of our own, and live a "married" life. When we met, she had a 10 year old girl, whom I tried my best to father, and befriend. We never had a real close relationship, but as she matured, my feelings became almost MPD like. When she turned 16, I realized I had an attraction to her, and began fighting internaly attempting to convince myself that its a silly infatuation, or a bad obsession, or even its because her mom and I aren't as intimate anymore, and shes a pretty girl. The more I tried to talk myself out of it, the stronger my feelings got. Here we are more than 2 years later, shes 18, getting ready to go off to college, and about a month ago I realized my worst nightmare, I am totaly head over heals in love with my "step-daughter". To make matters worse, a few days ago her mom and I had a huge arguement, and I realized that although I do still care about her, it wouldn't hurt me if we were to break-up. I haven't told any of them yet, and don't know if I should. My "wife" does suspect though, and I highly doubt that her daughter feels the same about me, I have rather sabotaged any chances I might have had tring to hide my feelings and mutual interests from the 2 of them. And before anybody asks, yes, I have thought about what will happen when my blood-related daughter gets older, and I don't think it is an issue, its just different. I don't think I could develop an attraction to her if I did want to. Should I tell the adult women in my life how I feel? Should I try to start somthing?
Do you think it's normal?
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Bus_Driver_Dildo (9579)
2007-07-29 19:20:08
No, Telling ANYONE About this will get you knocked the fuck out!
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Bus_Driver_Dildo (9579)
2007-07-29 19:20:21
Get a fckin life!
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alsoconfused (9661)
2007-07-29 19:31:29
@: Bus_Driver_Dildo
hey, if you want to get abusive, why don't you come over my house, I got a 2x4 with your name on it.
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gizzie57 (9539)
2007-07-29 19:54:32
I think you should forget about any type of relationship with your step daughter.I really doubt she has any attraction to you.Im sure she just looks at you as a father figure.You say she is 18 and getting ready to go to college i think shes got a great future ahead of herself and hopefully she will get a good education meet a nice man get married have children and live happily ever after.I think you should get these thoughts out of your head post haste they ARE NOT NORMAL.Maybe you should try and rekindle your relationship with your wife and raise your children that you share together.Its sound to me like your on the verge of really messing up your life,i think you should rethink this situation.
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alsoconfused (9661)
2007-07-29 20:46:07
@: gizzie57
Thank You for your input, the problem is that I know some person someday will make her happy, I just wish it could be me. As far as fixing my other relationship, its hard to do when your the only one trying. We have been falling apart for a long time now, we're in a rut, and if you know a lot about relationships, you already know you can't do it on your own, both need to work together. (main reason I am posting on this website, I have no support structure in my personal life)
Thank You again
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WHYme (8965)
2007-07-29 21:46:04
If what you say is true sounds like you need a bit of professional help. Both one for your marrige and one to develop a support structure so you get over this step daughter thing!

I split with my ex years ago and had her daughter live in my home for 6 months... it was nice to have her here and to give ou an idea how good looken she was she was a stripper.

I never looked at her past the fact that she was a daughter. And, you can't either. She has to be able to find someone her age and get her education!
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singinsensation (9674)
2007-07-30 05:04:14
no don't tell anyone as they will probally thinkur a weirdo but even if she is a step daughter she probally think's of u as a father but mayb 1 nite go 2 her room n she wat she's doing while ur wife's out or summin
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alsoconfused (9661)
2007-08-01 12:09:53
@: WHYme
Yes, I agree I need help, that is why I posted on this site. No offence intended, but I have yet to find a stripper that I thought was so super hot. Good looking yes, but telling me she was a stripper if anything would bring it down in my mind. Again I mean no offence. I also agree on her persuing her education, although I feel like I am kind of her age. I think that is what complicates things so much, there is only 10 years between us. (like I said her mom is a bit older than me.)
Thank you
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alsoconfused (9661)
2007-08-01 12:15:54
@: singinsensation
OK singing, I noticed on your profile, your a bit younger, imagine for a minute if your stepdad started hitting on you, would you like it? creeped out? would you want him to spy on you while mom was out? The big issue I am having is how would she (no you) react. I don't want to wreck her life because this is looming over her head, but I don't want to feel like I am lying to her by not saying anything.
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thank you for your comment
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O________O (9745)
2007-08-03 16:45:25
Well, to most people they'll see it as gross of course but, at least there's helpful people around. You got saved sir!
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