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I have never slept with a "gay" guy.
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Ok so I'm 19, male, good looking. But I've never had a real relationship with another guy. I'm not a virgin though, somehow I've fallen into this habit of sleeping with straight guys. I know what your thinking, how can they be straight if they're sleeping with a boy? Well I don't know. I've slept with the same type of guys all the time, they have girlfriends, act straight, and say they are not gay.

So is this normal? Sleeping and having relations with what is basically a straight guy? I've never found a gay that actually makes me feel the way straight guys do.

Anybody else have the same problem?
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cabinet70
Sorry but a straight man will not sleep with another man these guys are obviously curious or Bi or both if theyve had sex with you they are not straight
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Have you any idea why it's straight guys that attract you? If it's just 'cos they're 'straight' it might be something you need to work on, as it might be that you're subconciously seekin out people who are emotionally unavailable to avoid having to deal with all the shit that comes with a real relationship (sorry if it sounds like I'm psycho-analyzing you XD). If it's cos they're more stereotypically masculine then you just need toi find a gay guy like that (they are there btw).
Maybe it's just cos you're used to that kind of relationship with someone, and aren't really used to the idea of it being any other way. All you can really do is find a gay guy you kinda like and work on building a relationship with him, and hopefully the more intense feelings should come with time.
(btw, all that was geared towards the idea that you want to start a proper, open relationship with someone. If you're happy sleepin around, continue as you are, I just think it could be damaging long term to stay with someone who identifies as straight)
Sorry if all that was a little long XD
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Yea what you said makes sense. I think part of me doesn't really want a relationship with the baggage and the problems but I hate living from hook-up to hook-up. I also think it's a little bit of the other thing. I don't like super fem guys, not to say that I'm this macho guy, but I'm not super sissy. I actually have this second problem that goes along with my post. I've recently moved in with some people and one of them is a straight virgin boy. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I get the feeling that we both want each other, he'll flirt a little, I'll flirt back. But then nothing happens. He says he'd never do anything with me though. But I still feel like he's curious. I also have to consider the fact that he's virgin, I don't really want to mess with that if he's really really straight. I don't want his memory of his first kiss to be with a guy. What should I do?
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Well, I think for now you've just got to respect what he says. It's possible he is curious, but might resent you a little if he felt you pushed him into something. If he brings it up to you someday though you shouldn't feel bad about it if anything does happen, just don't initiate anything or you could mess up a good friendship. Also, try not to read too much into flirting, many people just flirt for the craic, I still flirt with girls even though I'm no longer really attracted to them, and am in a relationship XD
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I think that's one thing that would really suck about being gay, finding people seems like it would be harder. Keep looking. He's out there somewhere.
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These "straight guys" that your talking abt. Aren't straight. No straight guy would sleep with another man ever. There either gay or bi sexual.
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OMG, I have the same exact problem, but can there be that many straight guys out there that want to sleep with gay guys...puhleez!! I have been in a relationship with 2 guys before, long term too, they are out there. Ya might want to not date guys with girlfriends, and try a different type of guy, go to a gay club or pride event sometime. Enuf with the breeders lol.
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i mean,as friends so many guys sleep together....

its just those feelings one gets after watching brokeback mountain *ing heath ledger...god he was such a gr8 actor
;-)
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its normal i think cause im a strait guy but every once in a while i fantasize about havin sex with another guy but only if hes strait.
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Hey, your normal you just have a thing for more macho guys. It's more of a thrill to land a "straight guy" than a gay guy. I had a think going with friends husband for years. He was straight more or less but while in his relationship with his wife he was very dominant with me he got to explore his submissive side. Fact is he was a great lay and could remove the crome from a trailer hitch!
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I have almost the same exact situation. I recently (beginning of January) moved in a new apartment with a couple other guys for college. One of them seemed to me to be gay, but he says he's not, and I've respected that. I consider myself to be bisexual, because I have really liked (maybe loved) both men and women. We are both 19 and very similar in too many ways (weight, height, interests, history, personality (shyness) politics, philosophy, etc.). Going into February, we were already very good friends, and we would be hanging out with each other all day. We would wrestle in our beds (we have separate rooms) and sometimes I would just lay on top of him or vice versa and we would just look into each others eyes. I wanted to see if there is any sort of sign that he wants to do anything with me, as in taking our friendship to the next level, but at the same time, if he says he's straight, I will forever respect that, even if I am crazy about him. Soon thereafter, we began sleeping in each others beds. To clarify, I mean that we would be in the same bed and we would fall asleep and wake up together. Here and there we would hold hands, or simply stare into each others eyes for what I think is a romantically long time (but I may just be blinded by love). Now, lately, we've been very touchy while in bed.
First of all, I am so confused! I don't think it's normal for two guys to sleep together and be as touchy-feely as we are without some sort of romantic feelings behind it. I don't understand what he wants, and whether he really is straight or not (but regardless, I respect that he says he's straight and haven't forced him to do anything). I want to kiss him, but I'm not absolutely sure whether he wants to or not (not too many straight guys I know want to kiss bisexual guys).
Second, I'm sure he feels confused too, even if he doesn't show it. I mean, he says he is straight, but he always comes to me, wants to be with me, looks me in the eyes like I'm the most handsome person in the world, and holds my hands while we sleep.

Lepetiprince: I'm glad I found your post here, and I'm glad you shared this with others. It's nice to know that there is someone else with a situation nearly identical to mine (age, moving in, sleeping together, etc).
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He probably likes you and is having trouble dealing with his feelings as a generally straight guy. Straight guys don't do this with people they don't like, even girls.
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Oh, and I forgot to mention: it would also be his first kiss (he is a virgin in a lot of ways, but I'm a bit more experienced than he is). Also, I've never had a gay relationship before. I have always dated women and still flirt with some of them, but I've started flirting with some guys, too.
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O.o u gotta post how it turned out or ima wonder for the rest of my life T.T
ima sucker for stories like these XD
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omg thats sooo sad =(

i want it to work out for u so much >.<

ima come find him nd kick some sense into him -.-

i guess hes just scared...i am to i always run away when people try to get close. ended soo many friendships with people bcoz they get to know too much about me ahah i fail at life -.-

dammit tho grr u guys woulda been cute together nd youd make a great bf.

i hope u find sum1 that appreciates u =(
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Yea, that's what my friends say, too. We ended what would have been great, and it was hard to let go.

Thank you zombiefish, for your kind words, though =).
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Ok, so dude I think your deal is that you like guys, but you don't want to be with a guy that wants to cuddle or all that sh!t, just to have fun with and then hang out like ur just two friends? Am I right?
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Ive had this same problem since I was like 13. Every guy that ive ever had a crush on, and even fell in love with one, were all straight. Most of the time I could get them to "mess around" though, but it made things even worse because there was never any chance for a relationship.
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Haha, I know what you're saying.
straight guys can be hot.
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I guess this would be considered being on the down low. Maybe u arent but if the guys have girlfriends they defenitly are. I know that this goes on alot in the black community and is a primary cause for the spread of hiv and aids especially if condoms are not being used. Are you attracted to women?
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I think you secretly want to be a woman so you can be with straight guys
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Ollieo
These guys can't be "straight" and be having homosexual encounters/relations. The door swings both ways - they are bi - not straight.
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There is no such thing as a straight guy who sleeps with other guys. Not now, not ever. You can get rid of that fantasy concept now. Only "GAY" guys sleep with guys.

The dude is as gay as the day is long, regardless of how he wants to frame it.
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You might swing both ways ?
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It may be that you are attracted to straight guys because you feel effeminate. What would be normal for a nice young lady than to be attracted to nice young men. Be careful though. If these young men are not admittedly gay they are probably hedonistic. Thinking of their pleasure and not your feelings.
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i had crush on guys too but i don't konw if they are gay o not then i won't talk to them again is it normal? =( ?
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either your a gay guy that wants to come out about being straight or there straight guys that needs to come out aboue being bisexual, or your a straight guy that needs to come out about being bisexual or your a bisexual that needs to come out about being metrosexual
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You like secretly bi guys, not completely gay but a little gay. Gay men can sometimes be too weird so you like to be with a guy who still acts normal as opposed to flamboyant. Are you a top or bottom though?
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@: sidknee
Strickly bottom! There is nothing sexy bout a mans asshole, except mine! It's the in and out action of a nice thick hard one that's got me thinking I'm bi!
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The guys you sleep with ARE gay otherwise they wouldn't let you pillage their backdoor. Well, actually they are bi but leans more towards women and just like sex with men, not relationships.

Try being more selective about who you sleep with. If you held out for a real relationship instead of a one nightstand you would find guys that were fully gay.

Be careful, being promiscious is not so fun when you get AIDS or anal warts.
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I think you like the challenge of going after a straight guy. Sounds like the ultimate ego boost.
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I think that the guys who you slept with really are straight! I consider myself pretty straight, but every once in a while i do get turned on by other guys and want to try something out with them.. They prob felt the same way and seized the opportunity
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sooner or later they'll be found out it's inevitable. then what?
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This is me.

Entirely.

Every bit.

I feel your pain and every day is so hard.

It's the feeling of me being the one to satisfy them as I've always felt rejected from the gay society. For them to want me... for whatever reason... and the hope that I'll be their "one true love" and we'll be together forever.

It's a tragic complex, going after what won't last and longing for it to be endless.

It's painful and uncomfortable and annoying and addicting.

What are we to do?
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femalepimp
so what your into straight guys. if they makes u feel happy then go ahead.(:
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...how do you do it lol I swear I'm only attracted to straight guys...but have never been with any guy
Call me haha
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You're hot.
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Its perfectly normal, i am an 18 year old gay boy, and i feel the same way. im not into the "stereotypical" gay guy, they make me feel uncomfortable, and i only like guys who act "manly". I am a guy that likes boys, and i think you want some guy to act girly you might as well be straight.
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michael4p5
why aren't you your bent
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michael4p5
so you like pounding my ass
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I am married 33 years old, happily to the same woman since age 25, but since I was very young I have always fallen in love with other boys. I do think it is very special to have friends like this to share intensly close relationships with, although neither one of us wanted anal sex from each other, though we bathed, sleep, cuddle, shared naked time and masturbated, and sucked each other all the time. All of us went on in later life and got married and some have kids As Well now. Although I doupt our friedships will ever be on the Same intense level, we try to keep contact with each other.
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no man is straight if he fucks a dude thats just nasty
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dont be gay sparky.. dont be gay..
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I say you bein' all willy-nilly.
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Wtf
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you're a fucking slut, stop sleeping with men who have girlfriend you little cunt.

go to some gay clubs and find a hot hookup
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your not sleeping with strait guys your sleeping with closeted gays perhaps you dont want word going around that your into guys i dont know how that works with your kind though so i may be wrong
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@: Bazaza
His kind? You're not a completly different species than him. Or are you not human? And by the way there are some straight men out there that enjoy the ocassional attention from another man.
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@: Bazaza
Bazaza's an ass.
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@: Bazaza
that was the wrong thing to say man "your kind" gay people are people too with feelings and how would you think if gay people were reading your post. they would be pretty pissed off at you.
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@: Bazaza
I'm not gay in any sense of the word, except that i'm happy happy to be straight(even if everyone calls me gay to insult me) but what you said is just plain insensitive. if i was allowed to use every word in my vocabulary(my very extremely"colorful"[no pun intended] vocabulary) right now you would be feeling just as bad as someone who just built up the courage to come out of the closet only to read your comment. seriously dude your kind. people have the right to be as they want as long as it doesn't hurt any person, animal, plant, insect, arachnaid, enviroment or machine(well you can destroy machinery all you want as long as you don't hurt the other mentioned beings)
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