I haven't had a girlfriend in a while

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Does every girl you talk to mean you need to ask them out? I hope not. Maybe you should find a friend that's a girl. Honestly, if you've had a girlfriend, you're quite capable of talking to a girl. If you can't...you, my friend, need help.

You should Go out and try.....

I feel the same way with guys. Haven't dated in FOUR years. Ummm just be bold and go for it or become friends first with the girl and see where it goes from there?

It is normal, but not healthy. I have not ever had a girlfriend (I'm 23 years old). You just feel that you suck (and maybe we do). But the fact is that you must recognize that you're not very skilled in the gf department and work on it. I'm still without gf, but at least I've overcome the shyness. Don't start with anything big. Start with something small.
You can't talk with a girl you like? Try to at least say a passing hello smile.
Can't start conversations with a good looking girl? Start conversations with regular looking girls.
Can't get a date? As a female-friend for a friends date. You'll get experience and fun.
Can't get a date with the girl you like? Just ask her out (ok, this is a very advanced one for us who are very shy).
This has helped me a lot. I hope it helps you too.

Not that I am an expert on women or anything, but people can almost smell a person who lacks confidence.

Confidence does not necessarily mean that you have to be bold all the time either. I am a shy person, but I don't have problems talking to anyone, including women (or asking them out).

Just practice talking with people, all kinds, either sex, everywhere--about anything...the weather, the news, etc. Then work on the little things. Establish and maintain eye contact. Really look into their eyes, really listen to what they have to say (while maintaining eye contact). Smiles are contagious, and imply confidence. Be seen. Do this often.

Next go to places that interest you, chances are you will find people there that share the same interests. Talk to them. Share your interests. Once you have established an easy going friendly relationship then you can expand the relationship by grabbing a coffee at Starbucks or something, then lunch, etc. you will find that it will grow from there. But it is much easier to ask women out when there is some modicum of a relationship (however fragile it may be in the beginning).

Cold, just ask-her-out questions out of the blue only works in the movies.

We all have our downfalls, don't go around putting yourself on a pedestal.

i have never had a proper bf i can get really nervous round gys esp the ones i like but you must forget about the fears and go for it you may regret it later

You might want to check out the seduction/pickup community. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community

Im the same

first do friendship.. and slowly trying to make a relationship with a girl into well gf material. if you take things slow, you'll be so comfy. that you'll barely be nervvous

how old are you? you can go out with me! =)