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I come from a very rich caucasian family, and I am expected to marry a WHITE man of the same caliber. However, I find myself very much attracted to black men. I would be condemned by my family should they find out that I sleep with black men. Is it normal to have this kind of liking for black men, and if so, any advice on how I can go about telling my parents?
Do you think it's normal?
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Furionwarrior22 (24907)
2009-06-30 19:14:34
You don't want to be like this white lady I had a conversation with at one time. She wanted to marry a blackman , but against her will she married a whiteman. Then she ended up divorcing the guy that she really never liked in the first place. She said she pasted up a good blackmen for a nothing. She says she has been regreting it for a long time. She is my boss at work.. 52 years single with no kids. In the end it's really your choice..
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MzBeck123 (24128)
2009-06-30 21:49:25
Well....I grew up being told it was wrong to date anyone that wasn't white. Then one day something changed and I started noticing all the cute black guys I went to school with. It took a couple of years, but by the time I reached highschool I finally broke it down to my parents. I can say that they weren't all too thrilled, plus it didn't help that my boyfriend at the time was a total jerk.
But they are much more accepting now. They love my boyfriend that I have now, we've been together for 3 years.
What you need to realize is that it's your life. If you spend your every waking moment trying to make everyone else happy, you will never be happy for yourself.
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shadow776 (24491)
2009-07-08 16:38:16
dude who cares! a guy can be green, orange, white, yellow, black, blue whatever. if you prefer a certain color then go for it. no one can "make" you do anything. it all comes down to what pleases YOU, not what pleases your family or anyone else.
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ted1985 (25185)
2009-07-10 23:58:09
First of all, it is generalizations, not generalisations. And no one was making a generalization. My school is made up mostly of African Americans. I was strictly stating what I see every day. And I was also pointing out that a lot of the responses here are stupid and immature. I do not care about the color of the skin. Back to the topic of this forum. If a white girl is dating a black guy and it is for the right reasons then great! Go for it.
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Anonymous Story Author
2009-07-14 01:25:12
Dear All,

Thanks a lot for all your help and advice. Some of which I might add were completly useless - but nonetheless, thank you.

I am happy to say, that my black husband and I are now married, and are expecting our first child.

My parents were completly fine with everything. Ciao xxxx
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annada (25196)
2009-07-14 11:34:53
@: Anonymous
Congrats on your marriage and baby, i wish the two of you many happy years together and i am glad your parents were okay with it.
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annada (25196)
2009-07-14 11:44:47
@: ted1985
In the Caribbean, words such as generalisation, specialisation etc. are spelled with an 's' instead af a 'z' because our educatio system is wholly British, not American.
As to your reply, I have no problem with you stating your experience, that's cool. However, when you said "black people place value on the wrong things" and that there was not one "black guy" in your pharmacy class, I just thought that I would let you know that this is only a small sample of "black" behavior and that outside that environment things can be different.
I never thought you were racist though, and I do agree with you about the comments and that people should be with whoever they want to. But whether or not they are doing it for the right reasons, lets leave it up to those actually in the relationship cuz some people need to get burned to learn.
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Chimi (26015)
2009-07-24 10:42:30
Many not very self-confident white girls like Black or Latino men because of the perception of the and loyalty respect they get from these guys. They fail to pick the right caucasian men and the ones they pick, turn out to be unfaithful, exploitive, or misguided in one or another ways. Whatever it is, a girl has to do what is best for her. A Black love is perfectly normal nowadays, and their offspring is usually gorgeous. Congratz.
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wannarocktheworld (28982)
2009-09-26 08:54:58
well its good that u married him

its not colour ppl, its the mind and soul that should match when set out to live a life together with someone
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youwishyouwasme (35795)
2010-01-31 03:02:29
Good for you.
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