I'm 20 and I've never had a boyfriend http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/ I'm 18 and have similar issues. I'm sure you're not unattractive, probably just really shy. Try taking up something like music. Throw yourself into one of your passions, it really helps self-esteem. Exercise could be good also, but you don't have to do it to lose weight, just to feel a little better. Exercise can have the same effect as an antidepressant. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-323905 2009-11-17 14:58:41 You're all a bunch of retards. JUST LIKE SHE SAID PLENTY OF FAT WOMEN GET BOYFRIENDS. In fact some men are MORE attracted to fat women and turn down any woman who ISN'T fat enough for them. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you that there is something beautiful about you. In fact to be honest I never usually feel like women have the problem you do! I thought it was just men for awhile cuz I was lonely for the longest time but now I'm really popular. WOW I CAN NOT BELIEVE how many RETARDS are posting on here. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-319891 2009-10-29 19:25:31 Now you know it's not normal, that is why you posted it. But that doesn't make it (or you of course!) bad or wrong. My bro didn't have a girlfriend til he was 18 and lots of girls like him now. Being fat is probably a reason and this you know too. It shouldn't of course be an issue and to some people it isn't but most people would be attracted to an average sized person more than a fat person (at first sight, without knowing their personality). Plus, have you ever tried asking a guy out' I know it's hard but you might be surprised. Maybe go for someone who you think is really nice but isn't so good looking' http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-309077 2009-09-05 01:22:36 your on border line weird but its ok http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-306532 2009-08-22 19:44:30 Simply put: you are young and there is time. I dated a bit in my 20s, but didn't have a serious relationship until my 30s. That may be a bit later than most, but it wasn't a bad thing. Be yourself, do what you love, and love will find you in its own time. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-305688 2009-08-17 12:08:55 Hi i'm 18 with no boyfriend and i know what you mean. I am no skinny model or a big girl i'm just right, I have meat on my bones (to specify- size 14 and proud) and I never want to be skinny but healthy. I don't believe a girl should change the way she looks for someone and that people should except you for who you are and what you look like an yet i do have my occasional "fat" days but I know that im no perfection and I'm only human. So girl, if you are "fat" as you say or big boned or healthy, whatever or however you look YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL inside and outside, ok. Like you I also have friends who encourage me guys are no good and yet they are in relationships, I don't let it get to me and bring me down because I don't like to waste time,I know they mean well and I know eventually "someone" worthwhile will find me. Yet guys are not exactly like peaches and cream, they to have flaws and there is no prince charming out there but somewhere theres a guy who is nicer then others and you'll know when you meet him. Sometimes I get emotional about it only rarely though, like - I wish I had someone and I feel like a loner and quite lonely too. I learnt if you want something to happen that YOU gotta do something about it, guys like confident girls who are fun to be around and these days girls ask boys out. If you like someone when your near them smile at them, laugh at their jokes, lean in when they talk and enjoy yourself! GUYS LOVE CURVES! right guys. OH and remember everything happens for a reason. :) good luck curvalious IS IN... http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-302551 2009-07-28 23:06:13 i could understand not having a boyfriend because i know a lot of girls in the same boat. but never having physical contact like kissing/touching etc seems odd. there are many men who love bigger girls and some who dont care at all what girls look like. maybe the guys you hang around are just lame' ever tried putting yourself out there' in the club seen. asking guys out. what harm can it do' rejection doesn't hurt if you've never been acepted as you claim. in any case, you can't get an STD. which is a plus. cheers! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-302520 2009-07-28 20:07:07 i totaly agree with you :) you dont need to lose weight, be confident in yourself :) besides its a primeral instinct for guys to like bigger women,more to hold onto and warmth in winter ;) so you having to lose weight to get men to be attracted to you is bull, it goes against science ;) x http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-301875 2009-07-24 20:29:03 legit, it has nothing to do with your insecurity with yourself. well if you arent outgoing and talkative to guys, how do you expect to date them' and if you think your "fatness" is playing such a crucial part on you unable to have a boyfriend then go to a gym, and watch you could maybe meet a guy there too. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-301813 2009-07-24 13:34:10 *hugs the poster of this comment* I'm a 20 year old man...you rule...I had to wait until about a year ago to find a girlfriend...and fat girls RULE, OMG I love love LOVE the way they keep you so warm when they cuddle with you :) and that yummy bouncy fat girl booty But to be fair, I also love skinny girls...like the way they can just pop in and surprise you haha. Yeah...physically I like fat girls for the cleavage and hiney, and I like skinny girls for the legs. Well maybe I love all the ladies, I can't help it. I want to find a stable relationship but it's pretty hard, I feel lonely a lot and it's hard not to get down on myself, and I have a PERFECT physique too...(almost). But a girl like you has got to find someone soon. I'm single right now and my heart crys for you on this one babe. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-298150 2009-07-03 14:00:27 im close to your age and ive never had a girlfriend, probably cuz im asian and i dont dig white chicks, but if ur white, hell u have a better chance than me http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-293131 2009-05-30 21:06:13 IF you are not comfortable with anything about yourself, you should change it, feel motivated, and optimistic. You could try finding someone from online. Though be careful. Half of the population today tries online dating. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-290897 2009-05-15 12:01:15 I'm so glad there was an intelligent comment here! Confidence and self-love are what it's all about. I lost almost eighty pounds a couple years ago, and I still couldn't find a date. Once I stopped worrying about it and started to see myself as the beautiful woman I'd always been, and it changed for me. Not overnight, mind you, but once I started believing in ME, just the way I am, other people started to notice too. Be patient, work on YOU, and the rest will come. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-290341 2009-05-10 13:55:51 Hey but isnt weight just a state of mind.... I mean fat chicks get guys too. what i have noticed is that any girl who is confident and outgoing will probably have a bf. So what you wanna do is build up your confidence, i suppose excercising increases the happy, and increases confidence. don't be afraid to flirt a little with any dude that looks relatively pleasing to you, because even if you find some dude who is mr. right you still have to be able to attract him. so you gotta learn those little skillz (yes, that was corny) that draw men to you. its like a science experiment, how to attact the menfolk. Just play around if you really want a bf, (play around as in see how you can attract the right attention to yourself) i mean any girl can be thin and decent looking but that doesn't necessarily attract men (well, men you want to attract.) Socializing, does, you gotta be confident enough to talk to guys and to flirt with guys. In the end, weight is not the issue and if you think it is, you are just getting caught in a cycle. If you want to improve your body and be healthy, cool. but don't let your weight stop you from feeling like you are the most eligible bachelorette out there. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-290238 2009-05-10 00:03:02 Hey. I know what you mean, I dont understand when really shit ugly girls get these guys. Its beyond me to be honest. I dont know what you should do, maybe do online dating, I met my Hubby through work so I dont know what you do for a living maybe try meeting new people. Your still young honey. Dont be stressing. Heidi x http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-289886 2009-05-07 03:34:37 I totally agree with Spyderr. And like everyone else said you have to be happy with yourself and NOT need to go SEARCHING for a boy. If you focus on looking, you will be always and constantly disappointed. Kind of like Murphey's law, you're less likely to find someone if you focus on it too much. Have fun, live your life, and someone WILL come along. Btw, have you ever seen a girl who, upon looking close, really isn't that pretty, but always has a boyfriend and everyone wants to date her' It's because she thinks she's hot and the shit. Like what's her name from Sex in the City. Is it Sarah Parker or something. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-288253 2009-04-21 13:16:38 I think that it may be a self-conscience issue. There are plenty of guys that like big girls. It may be that you are focusing so much on being fat that you are missing people who are sending subtle signs out to you. Confidence is a major turn on to guys - I have seen girls that I would not be attracted to pulling hot guys because they are so confident that he barely notices that she is unattractive. Dress your best features and work on you some more. Guys get better as they age, so at least you wont be a starter girlfriend. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-285840 2009-03-30 20:09:33 Agreed with you 100%! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-285515 2009-03-28 12:53:39 Whoops. I quoted myself on acciedent. Lol. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-285514 2009-03-28 12:51:18 Do not go to a dating site. That just makes you pathetic. By the way, if you're depressed then take a medication prescribed from your doctor. It increases your confindence. Working out in the gym is pretty fun. You should try it. Another thing to add. My friend who is a drug addict and used to be strong, has a girlfriend who is a little obese. Don't feel bad for yourself. From a guy who used to suffer from depression. Good luck. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-285513 2009-03-28 12:49:51 I'm a guy but I liked this anorexic girl. She rejected me. It's normal. Like the others said go to the gym and just do cardio related excercise to lose weight. Most guys don't dig obese, or strong women. Lol. ;) http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-285509 2009-03-28 12:41:59 No i think u should be more active and less shy,say what you think and go hang out more and dont be scared of ur body.even if u r fat go on a diet r something,but remember ur future bf should love u 4 who u r . dont be so desperate and stop feeling sorry 4 urself. xxxx http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-284187 2009-03-14 17:09:20 wow the world is so obsessed with being thin now adays thats probably why since ur fat u havent had a boyfriend yet or ur shy im genetically chubby cuz of my parents but i workout so i dont worry bout dat no more just start workin out take more risks dont be shy http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-281815 2009-02-17 14:57:39 sign op for an online dating servise, and don't isten to these a**holes who tell you to loose weight or anything, when you happy with youself, people will notice and atract to you http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-281628 2009-02-15 18:32:33 In this realistic world we are living in, many people judge others by appearance. So I'd say, appearance do matter...not only to others, but to yourself too. So, motivate yourself to lose weight! Exercise! This is not something impossible to achieve as long as you have the right attitude and the unwavering determination to do so! Exercise brings even more benefits than just slimming you down to your desired figure. It is also healthy and can definitely boost up your confidence to be the one approaching a guy (: Don't worry, you are still young! There are still many opportunities for you. Do not give up and believe that you can do it. Ignore your friends unhelpful "advices", and i wish you all the best in finding the right guy! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-280937 2009-02-05 06:32:02 Maybe you should be more confident. Dont go out looking for a relationship.When you do that it seems like you will never find one. Comparing yourself to your friends is not good either.And dont go around feeling sorry for yourself cuz your on the bigger side. Do you know how many big girls have hott boyfriends! Just live your life, a guy will come along sometime, dont sweat it http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-280113 2009-01-25 17:33:36 I am 18 and am in the same boat as you (never dated or kissed, all that stuff you mentioned). I don't worry about it because I'm still young and there's time for this stuff. Don't worry about finding someone else to share your life with before you know yourself. Also, I don't think being fat alone is a reason for men not to like you, that's ridiculous. However my friend if YOU would feel better after you lose the weight, then by all means go for it; but don't change yourself just for some guy. :) Basically yeah this is normal, don't worry, you're far from being the only one. P.S. I know I'm intimidating to guys, at least pretty sure of it http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-279990 2009-01-24 16:53:34 Reading your comment was like reading my own life, except I don%u2019t feel tormented about it anymore... I%u2019m 20 too and I%u2019m overweight though I`ve already lost 40 pounds with pure effort, force of will and medical assistance, and I%u2019ve never had a guy even be interested in me. I used to think something was wrong with me, that maybe I was just too ugly or too fat or that my personality was flat, or that guys didn%u2019t want a smart girl like me, or whatever...And I tried to change everything about me to suit other%u2019s likes, while feeling miserable inside. I saw a potential boyfriend in anything that had pants, I had a fixation with and it wasn%u2019t fun at all, my friends were of no help (they did what yours do) and my mom just told me that everything came when the moment was right and to be myself. Turns out: Mom%u2019s right. My advice is to focus on you: if you want to loose weight, do it!. If you like the way you are, great! That%u2019s already having more than most striking, stop traffic girls have: confidence. Get guy friends and concentrate on bieng their friend and getting to know them without feeling like a failure if they aren%u2019t interested in you girlfriend-like, be yourself at all times and you%u2019ll see how freeing and addictive it is. If you%u2019re meant to have a boyfriend you will and he%u2019ll love you for who you are because that%u2019s what you%u2019ll demand. Don%u2019t rush or you%u2019ll crash. Enjoy that you%u2019re young and flip off those guys that look down at you for whatever reason, since they probably have a peanut for a brain and we should pity them. And reading all of those comments that blame your %u201Cproblem%u201D on being fat: that%u2019s bull! You won%u2019t get a litter of boyfriends just because you loose weight, you%u2019ll get them because your confidence and your personality will show through and call out to a guy that will make the wait worth it. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-278434 2009-01-04 09:13:48 I would never have a fat women ( to start with, its ok if we had been married for 20 years and she became fat!) I dont care about her personality, or anything else, not many mens wants fat women. Just workout and go to gym and hope for the best http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-277167 2008-12-24 21:00:25 if you're fat ask a fat guy out... guys don't have to make the first move all the time. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-273270 2008-11-12 23:12:06 Start excercising. It WILL boost your confidence when you start to make progress and will help you to shed a few pounds. Also, eat healthy, people who eat nutririous balanced meal generally feel better about themselves ad IT SHOWS! If you want guys to like you, you have have have to like yourself! Your sel-cofidence will shine through and guys really do take notice! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267847 2008-10-03 23:06:49 send a pic and we'll assess your beauty. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267798 2008-10-03 20:36:16 good advice http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267673 2008-10-02 17:05:34 Well that makes two of us...... don't worry about it, I am 20 as well and have never had a bf either. There's nothing wrong with you just haven't found the right person yet...but don't worry you will. Just please don't rush it, don't just get into a relationship so you can know what its like. Find the right person and THEN do all that stuff. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267645 2008-10-02 13:46:49 I've never dated, or had sex with, a bigger woman. But i do have alot of chick friends that are woman and are heavyer set. I enjoy their company and am really close to them. If there's one thing a guy can't stand, it's not necceserally the woman being overwieght, but in my opinion, and most my friends, its that guys want a woman that is confidant in herself no matter what other people think. I've dated gorgeous woman in the past, that have great bodys, and are just plain attractive, but the relationship wouldn't work on my end, because they lacked self-confidance. Its a major part that is detrimental to any relationship, and if you master that simple self assurance, you have alot better chance of finding "Mr. Right". http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267636 2008-10-02 12:53:18 Just because something isn't "usual" doesn't mean something is rare. Thinking you're the only 20 year old out there who's never had a boyfriend is like thinking you're the only one who's never tried drugs or killed a man with their bare hands. Opposites do attract, but that's in terms of personality (likes and dislikes, you save, he spends, conflict ) in general individuals gravitate towards other like-minded individuals. If you let yourself feel miserable, you're going to notice the people around you feeling miserable too. Not by coincedence. Sometimes, you just have to smile, and be happy. Know you deserve good things out of life, and be willing to go out and get them instead of waiting for them to happen to you. Then, other happy people will shift towards you, and they'll know too that you deserve good things. And when they see you reaching for the things that you want, they might get the courage to do the same. And the thing they reach for might just be you.Then, you'll notice you're smiling and happy just because. You can't wait for someone to live your life for you. Sometimes the best example to follow is the one you set yourself. Nothing stops you from having a guy if you want one, there are plenty of guys who are just shy. Nice non-disappointing ones even, who probably just don't have guts enough to make the first move. Make lots of guy friends, pick the one you like best, and then molest him =D GUys like that, to be molested lol http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267634 2008-10-02 12:43:58 You want quality men you have to present quality yourself. Yes start going to the gym, dieting, do whatever it takes to get what you want. When you will see physical progress you will have great flood of confidants. Everything is interrelated. For you to change your life around will take time and will be difficult, but it can be done. I have witnessed numerous people pulling it off. Never give up never surrender. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267629 2008-10-02 11:30:46 get fit. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267611 2008-10-02 08:10:35 You said it your fat if you want a man lose the fat although Im surprised some pissed desperado hasnt fuked you yet thats usually how fat girls get a fuk http://isitnormal.com/story/i-m-20-and-i-ve-never-had-a-boyfriend-24484/#comment-267606 2008-10-02 04:05:41