I'm 20 and want a GF who doesn't party or drink?

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Yes! I'm with you on this one, Party girls (clubs, concerts, and bars, drugs etc...) are problematic. Girls like that are only good for one thing and since you want a girlfriend which means a relationship you probably don't want one of these girls not even for sex because you might fall in love with her well at least I'm like that. Yes I too want a girl thats fair looking and can use her brain. i don't want some dumb party hoe girl like when I come home from work shes drunk doing the next door neighbor, your normal and on the right path, don't settle for less and those girls are usually in college and have completed at least 8 classes. but every girl will or may have a story to tell if you know what I mean, youll just have to accept this its normal but as long as their on the right path it's okay, so good luck

You and me both only I'm looking for a guy who doesn't party, because I'm a chick and I like guys. LOL. Seriously though the best advice I can give you is try going to church or maybe your college library. You just need to find someone who has strong morals and maybe a shy girl because most shy people don't go out to clubs much, I know I dont.

I think you're normal,I guess, I just think too much and whenever I get close to someone I back away and avoid them-but That's my problem. I technically am not having a great college first year b/c I can't make friends easily at all and I don't drink-ever-one sip of champagne and find it bad. Party girls aren't all that bad-most of them just party on the weekends.But if you're looking for a girl that doesn't drink at all-like me-and you can't find one. Settle for a girl that drinks occasionally and still gets good grades and has goals . . .in the long run it doesn't really matter . . .

that is normal it means you want a normal girl who wont lose all of your money or passout all the time... til next time



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yeah, Its normal, all men and women like different types of people....

Most guys and girls your age are still kids experimenting. Try dating slightly older women (out of college).

Just because someone goes out and drinks does not mean that they are a 'dumb party hoe girl' who just wants sex. I know many, many girls (including myslef!) who are fair looking and can use their brains, but enjoy partying. Itv doesn't mean we are stupid and whoreish, just that we like to have a good time! But yes it is normal to want someone who doesnt drink and party... but don't necessarily outrule someone just because they enjoy going out! Good luck :)

a lot of the girls you meet in bars and clubs are shallow. if you aren't into that scene that's fine. it shows you mature.

It probably means you are willing to settle with someone rather than have a quickie or just a little bit of fun. I personally think that is a good thing because that way you can start you're life with a long term relationship with aa girl who likes you and you like back

Well, I am a straight girl, and I don't party or drink (and I'm just saying this for background info, I'm in a relationship) and my type of guy is the type who doesn't really do either as well.

So I think it's perfectly normal to be swapped. Not to mention my boyfriend admits he fell more for me when he learned of both of those traits.

Tch, there are plenty of girls who don't party.
You're probably just asking for hot sexy girls who don't party in particular.

in a way i would way rather have a girlfirnd who doesnt party or drink, but thats what everybodys doing now adays. when i had a girlfriend she always wanted to get drunk, we ended up gettign drunk so often that i got really fucked for a while, still trying to detox myself.....

Yes that's normal, each to their own.
lol no worries, you'll find girls like that - are you a party-ing guy? If so, find the girl who looks a bit awkward in the room or the one who isn't dancing much.
Just look around - just by reading this convo you can see that there are 2or3 out of maybe 8 (sorry i can't really tell with some of the names) girls that don't particularly like to party =)

Totally normal, i myself am 22 years old never drink or smoke evr and i can nver understand how a guy can kiss a girl with tobacco breath. I tend to do traditional things such as going to the movies etc. and my friends and i have a blast. Keep true to yourself man party chicks are highly overrated.

I know it feels like these types of "non-party" girls are not out there, but they really are! I should know being one of them! Keep searching and don't settle.

Stop looking for a GF at parties

Um, I'm not looking for a GF at parties. I never even go to parties.

What are you talking about, russellnb?

The guy who posted this topic didn't even specify whether or not he goes to parties, so why would you assume he does?

It would seem more logical to assume he doesn't go to parties (let alone search for girls at them), since he's hoping to find a girl who doesn't party.

I am so glad there are other people who think like this! I go to a girls' school and pretty much all of the other girls like to party and drink - they're not all 'hoes' as mentioned above, they're just into the modern culture of clubbing and drinking. Personally I find it distasteful and it doesn't seem all that fun to me...I'm looking for a true gentleman, and none of my friends' partying boyfriends are anywhere near my type! I'm happy that there are other young people out there who want a little restraint and class in their lives. 100% normal, my friend :-)

Good luck.....I want a duck that doesnt quack!

bruce is cool your lame party girls are the best especially if u can trust her their the shit bro

Assuming you hold the same standards for yourself, you are maybe looking in the wrong places. Network with friends, in clubs (social-rec, not drinking), school, faith community (if that way inclined) to find someone with similar interests & values.

I think you are stereotyping "party girls" but you should seek people with the same values as yours. Unless this is an indicator that you are quite judgemental, and that is a turn-off & another issue.

Its normal dude. Try older girls. heck thats what I did. Now I'm married and the wife is 3 years older. so try someone who is 23 to 30.

I've noticed girls in that age range still love partying/clubbing/bars. Most the girls I work with are in the 25 age range, and they are still like that. I think I'm SOL man...haha.

Drinking, not drinking, why be so judgemental and specific? Yes it is perfectly normal to want a person who does not act in certain ways, but you might want to take care not to have such a narrow, black or white scope. Choose a girlfriend for how she makes you feel, what she does for you, what you want to do for her and stuff, not how she chooses to spend her time.

Well said its good to have your views and morals on things but dont just burn tdown briges from acroose the lake i know alot of girls that like to party and drink but they dont go the extra yard to make it vulgar. Think like this if you watch porn there will be girls who think it dirty and will hate you not knowin that you could be a a gift from god to them same gose for girls who party just cause she dose that dont mean she wont come home or is not willing to ease up un that life style if you not willing to giver her the chance to try

right on man, party chicks are so boring and the sex is even worse. Geeky chicks are interesting and usually pretty willing to prove their not as innocent as people perceive.

Im like you dude!
Its normal XD

You need to check out the library, or somewhere else equally as boring. Churches.. ya go for the religious girls. maybe hang around religious schools and colleges haha.

My girlfriend and I are just like that. I had to go into the heavier category to find her though. But all in all, I am just like you and agree with you.

I'm not a guy like you, but I can assure you that there are girls who don't party or drink. I'm one of them.