I'm in love with my best friend

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Yes its normal because you get along so well and have a lot in comon

yes, this is how most relationships get started!

Yes it's very normal and yes if you tell her you love her chances are the friendship will be weird. But I know how you feel. Maybe you should just ask her out and if she says no just play it off like no big deal. When you say it's painfully obvious though, do you mean just to other people or does she also know?

Her sister knows, so I'm pretty sure she knows too. But I talk to some third party friends about it.

itll never happen..she looks at you only as a "friend"

it is soo normal...u sound like a sweet guy but she prob doesnt like u.

unfortuanately sweetseventeen is probably right. Same thing happened to me a couple of months ago with one of my female friends. You can ask her out but if she says no don't push it and then pretend like it never happened. I completely took things too far with my friend and long story short, we're not friends anymore, you don't want that to happen.

Well, comin from agirl with plenty of experiance. Does she flirt with you I.E Laugh at every little thing yhoo say, Does she constantly touch yhoo or want to hug yhoo?
Does she always fone yhoo up first to ask yhoo about problems? Does she even fone yhoo at all?
If the answers to these questions are all yes then i think its safe to say that you are in for a yes if you ask her out.
but if one answer is no then I strongly advise yhoo to not ask her out!!
Jorsha XxxX

well just tell her or hint around just ask and if u get rejected make sure u casn still be friends!

yeas it is as long as you are a boy! if yur a girl it may ruiin your friendship and a bit wrong!but follow ur heart and if it says tell her then do it !!! you dont know if u dont ask !!!!!! let us no how it goes !!! luckybabesxxxxxxx

If you like her, ask her out. If she says no, she's an a**hole because she's rejecting you.
Despite popular opinion, your friendship with her is already over, due to your new feelings. Don't worry about maintaining the friendship afterwards, if it doesn't work. It's because it won't work and it never has and never will for anyone. Anyone who tells you differently is lying to you. Your new feelings for her will either blossom into a relationship or die, it's that simple. The quicker you come to this conclusion the quicker you can get on with your new relationship or your recovery from the rejection.

What a goof to even say something like that shows your intelligence factor!

Well put, Shadow.

I hate you for continuously spelling it "yhoo". It's obviously spelled "you". Get it right, you moron.

smithee is right

dude, go for it. if she is hot and she likes you. ask her to go get some coffee and let her know

well I had the same probelm as you

Well..I like tis guyy named:alexandre chanpagne or w/e his last is
i told him my feelings to him
He fel the same wayy with me

Right now we been togethher for 7 months

soo dont worry about people thinkk
that is there comment
all you gonnna do what is right for you

do what is best for you

You never know what could happen
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..Love
Jusjus

I'm in the same situaltion, What are you going to do about it?

man i was in your situation. but tonight i was at a christmas party with her at my church and i pulled her away from everybody and told her "iv learned if you want somthing go for it" and then i leaned in for a kiss. im still waiting on her to tell me if she wants to go out but try it man!

Chances are she has feelings for you. Best friends often mean you tell each other everything and have things in common.So Why not

I know exactly how you feel, I have had feelings for my best friend for close to two years now. It's not fair, and I know i'll never have a chance. At times i just want to leave because I know I'll never find someone like her, and other times I always feel like by some miracle it will work. Truth is, it won't. Maybe your lucky though, tell her, see what happens. I told her not to long after feeling like that, and we were not as close as we are now, so who knows...maybe one day ill do it too

you know im in love with my best freind and i find it very hard to tell her..i dont want to ruin our perfect freindship.. she is the best thing that has ever happened to me and honestly i know i kan never be with her but in this world you never know. i realized that if itz meant to be it will find its way no matter wat..if she rejects me rite now itll be very painfull but if itz meant to be it will come bakk somehow..it will get throught all the bs and drama..im not talkn about some lil crush or anything im talkn about the kind of love that changes your life and makes you sure of wat yoo want...im so lost and deeply in loove i dont knoo wat to do.ima go crazy.aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I've been in love with my best friend for 4 years. It's tough, and I told him I liked him once, and he was surprised- but he was head over heels for another girl. So, you can imagine how that turned out. Our friendship is just now starting to be the same again, so I'd be careful if I were you. But I definately feel you and I wish you the best of luck :]

Completely normal bro, i think so many people will go through this in their life. I was in the same situation and i say go for it! It didn't work out for me but we are still friends, the not knowing ate me from inside! Good luck in what ever you choose!

I've been going through the exact same situation, i've been madly in love with my best friend for about 3 and a half years now, and i would do anything for him, and we are very close, but things got bit complicated when he started going out with this girl, and they both really like each other, and i found it really hard seeing them together, Especially when they would get off in front of me, and when i did tell him, i was expecting him to freak out in some homophobic way, but the exact opposite happened, he said he understood,and he never got angry at me and while he said he cared for me, he said that he could never the exact same way that i do for him, because he'll never be into guys, and although i was slightly heartbroken, i was so glad to just get it off my chest, and he just sat with me and comforted me and gave me a great big hug, and he said he'd always be there for me, so my advice to u and to anyone out there is to take the plunge and tell that someone how u feel, and even if it goes wrong then u won't be the only one who was in that situation, thats what i found out.

Yeah.... its normal, but if you want the truth is one of the most dangerous loves, but also it can be the most beautiful. In my case, it was terrible... I always question myself and sometimes regret about telling her my real feelings. Our friendship was based on affection, taht kind of affection that, if u don't have enough strength, can be misunderstood. She always hugged me, kissed my cheek out of nowhere, held my hand, walked beside me, told me everything, listened to everything I had to tell her, laughed for nothing, she also went out with me everytime I asked her to, we got jealous at some time of our lives of the other's boyfriend ( or my ex-girlfriend), we joked about being toghether and said we would make a perfect couple.
But it never happened. I think it was the time that ruined it all, now she's dating another guy and I couldn't stand it so told her the truth....terrible choice......
Now... she is distant, its not the same....feels like everything is lost...

And I miss her... it hurts me that we can't be friends anymore, not because we don't want to, but because everything has changed, and neither I or her can do something about it...
I miss the hugs
I miss the kisses
I miss the laughs
I miss the moments we could spend toghether
I miss her trust, now she whispers because she doesn't wants me to know
I miss the talks, we could spend HOURS talking, but now... we haven't had a conversation that lasts more than 3 minutes
I canīt stand to see her phone and see that the other guy now receives most of her calls
I miss that I don't get anymore calls from her
I miss those fights we had because I sometimes didn't answer my phone because I was training, eating or simply cause I didn't heard it ring... and the way we always ended seeing each other the next day in school, and ran at each other, hug each other and promise we would never fight again... even though it was like the 15th time.
Our plans, our "dates" we had because one of us had broke with its girlfriend or boyfriend, and that being with them was the only way to get over those relationships.
I don't know if she loved me once, all I know is that it took me too much time to tell her.
I put some serious thought into it for almost a month, and when I finally told her... she did't respond... and the next day I discovered that she had already started a relationship. I feel like sh**!! But it was the wrong moment...and it all went straight to hell.

So my advice is: yes it is normal, but you've got to tell her in the right moment, because.. the moment is everything man, I learned that the hard way.

Luck to you all if you face the same situation

It just happened to me like a week ago, so im sure its normal. My only problem is that her ex and i are really close and he's madly in love with her and idk if i should do him wrong. =(

hey""!! it must say "Our plans, our "dates" we had because one of us had broke with its girlfriend or boyfriend, and that being with each other was the only way to get over those relationships." srry, foolish mistake

Cepich, I could have written that myself dude..

Its normal I'm in love with my best friend and she knows, but i dont think she feels the same way, but it didn't make a difference i actually think it made us closer. the only thing is that i lover her and i have to keep it on the inside, and that my friend is the hardest thing to do. it is like torture. every minute i spend with im in pain wishing i could kiss her. in the end it is worth saying because you cant keep love bottled up.

Not only was I in your situation, but I'm back in it once again. I fell in love with my best friend a year ago. We know everything there is to know about each other. The funny thing was that we went from acquaintances to best friends in the matter of one random long phone conversation. We would talk daily for at least 6 hours a night. If one of us couldn't make it, something was wrong because it was planned and set in stone. Once I moved back into the area the phone conversations turned into spending every minute of the day with each other.

I started to fall for her. I kept it in for a little while only because I knew that I didn't stand a chance and that our friendship would change. Unfortunately my feelings for her got to the point at which I couldn't hold it in any longer and I told her everything. It didn't go as badly as I thought it would and nothing about our friendship changed. She accepted the fact that I had "more than a friendship" type of feelings for her. Things continued as it did but we started to talk about us and the future with the possibility of us being together. We would joke around about getting married and we would plan it all out.

It was easy for her to talk about those things because she didn't actually believe those things were going to happen. I on the other hand was praying for them. Well things got too tough and I started acting differently. I started questioning why she wouldn't be with me etc etc. It was too much for her to handle. So I made a decision. It was either push her out of my life in order and hope the feelings would go away, or swallow them up and just forget about them. Well it got harder and harder being around her but not being with her. So I pushed her away. It was the worst mistake I have done in my life. Not only did I lose the girl that I loved but I lost my best friend as well.

She started to date a mutual friend of ours and it killed me inside. I would run into them from time to time and I couldn't take it. Well luck had it that she recently came back into my life. Just like how it all started, randomly. We've started to hang out again and it's like things never changed. It's like the friendship went on a one year vacation. The only problem was even after one year and her still dating the same guy, my feelings for her haven't changed. It hasn't been brought up yet since I'm assuming she thinks I don't feel the same way. but this time I'm choosing to bottle up the feelings and keep her in my life.

I looked at it this way, it was either losing the love of my life that I knew would never happen or either losing my best friend that would always be there for the rest of my life. I don't regret telling her at all but I do regret driving her away. My advice to anyone out there in this predicament is to tell them. You'll never know what's going to happen. People will tell you that it'll never work out but you'll never know until you try. The only thing I can tell you is to be careful how you act if she doesn't feel the same way towards you. Because just like in my case, it may end up being you who ruins the relationship not her. Best of luck to you.

This is not necessarily true. I went through 2 years of being in love with my best friend. I know how agonizing it is, but holding it in will only make it worse, because eventually you WILL tell her. When I confessed, I did get the response that she does not feel that way about me. It was rough, but because we were true friends we didn't let it effect that area of our relationship. If things are meant to be they will happen. When I decided to go into the army, we talked a lot about how we couldn't live with each other, and it seems like fate is now working to put everything the way it is supposed to be. I sincerely hope we end up together, but even if we don't I will still treasure her as a friend, and I will NEVER lose hope that one day we will be together. Hang in there, don't lose hope, and without coming on like a creepy obsessive guy, let her know how you feel, honesty is a very important part of any relationship. :)

hey im in love with my best friend and i went over her house tonight at a bbq and she gets out of the pool and sits in my lap does she like me back i dont want to ask her again i have before and she always says no but has she have a change of heart?

Honestly, i believe that it's inevitable for most people to fall for their best friends. I have...it just happens. It's completely normal.

I just finished a 20 minutes crying time and I am a freaking guy. My friends look at me as the strong wise guy. But I have fallen to this girl. I am her best friend she trusts me and favours me to all her friends. We've known each other for two years and can't pass a single day without talking to each other. Ok, I know I am not her type of guy. She is about to get into a relationship and all I am doing is helping her out. I live in such pain. I am sure, 100%, she would never want me as a boyfriend. But, I have fallen in love with her and I can't deny it anymore. I cry with my self. I scream inside. Every time that I have to fake me being just a friend to her. Every time I have to fake how I care about her as a best friend or as a sister. I am totally in love with her but I can't lose her. And I will lose her once I tell her what I feel.

i am in that situation to boy..
im the girl, that's why it's awkward to tell him that i do love him, but i'll get the timing so that i could tell him what i do feel, but the catch here is that your the boy so it must be your move, you should tell her before its too late , you dont know she might love you too...but, you must be ready for the consequences .

Im the girl and i am going through this. im way too scared to say anything! Im literally dying inside, its so painful and i just feel so frustrated by it all. He does things that make me think he likes me but has currently been out with two friends of mine. I have no clue what to do. Hes told me im the most important thing to him and has told me things that he told me no one else knows or will ever know. I don't know what to do and just have no idea how this can end possitivly because i cant see why he would chose me. oMg im in the same sit and i just hope it works out for some of us. xx

i have been in love wit my bestfriend for about a year now. origially she said she didnt think she could date me because she was my bestfriend and that if im a bf i cant be a bestfriend. :S
but i cant help but feel how i feel. we tell each other everything and have no secrets between each other. but when the fact tat i am inlove wit her is in the open it causes lots of tension she dun feel the way i do. she has never had a good bf, always hurt her, beat her, cheated. and i just tried to show her there is some good guys out there, i was always there for her when she was down, and when she needed help. i always gave er compliments and tried as hard as i could to prove to her that shed be happy wit me, but it wasnt enough. or maybe i did/said too much. so lately with our tension we get into big arguements and get really mad at each other and i dunno what to do. the only way i could ever et over er is to drive her away and cut her off completely. but when i dun see her for even a few days im miserable. and yesterday i had the thought of doing so, until i read this page it totally changed my perspective and made me realise that the friendship is better than nothing. ill always love her and always have hope

That's so freaking cute. I'm in love with my bestfriend as well. Tell her! TELL HER MAN! she might feel the very same way.

I have a really good guy friend, we talk online every night until the very early hours of the morning. We talk about anything and everything, and he says that he would protect me from violence and stupid creepy guys, and we even have nicknames for each other. But all i can think is that he thinks of me as his sister, and nothing else. I don't know what to tell him thought, because every other guy friend i had a crush on, and i told them, they ended up ignoring me. I just feel that if things are meant to be, they will fall into place. If she feels strongly for you, she will tell you one day, just as i think i will tell him or he will tell me. Let nature run its course cuz it will turn out alright in the end. :)

im the guy, 3 or 4 months out of a 4 year relationship, i think im fallin in love with my best friend, shes defnitly not the rebound ive had a few of those already, i know her for bout 6 years but we've been best friends for 3 or 4, she keeps getting into relationships with guys that dont treat her right, always there 4 her but the feelings are starting to get 2 me, , she moved to another state bout3 months ago moving back here nxt month, everytime we c each other its like we havnt seen each other in years, im not sure if she feels da same 4 me as i do for her, things she does say yes but sumtimes no, i could be reading to much into sum things but other friends think otherwise, but i dont wana ruin nething we have, but im 100 percent sure that if she would give me a chance it would b exactly wat were both lookin 4, i feel as if im everything she says dat she wants, she's been gone 3 months and it feels like forever im alwaz thinkin of her, we've talked bout us as more than friends once b4 but we brushed it off, but that was a long time ago and things were very different then, i really dont think i can continue seeing her as only friends

I am in the same situation only I am a girl in love with my best friend, a girl. I am quite happy to cope with not really knowing whether I am gay or not because I have such a supportive group of friends and family. But its the most painful feeling to be in love with your best friend. She is actually a twin, and I used to have the same feelings for her sister too but she is getting married. I reckon my subconscious grabbed a hold of that and made me let go of one of them.

But still badly or madly in love with my best friend. I have never ever thought about telling her but she is on my mind 24/7 and it really hurts. She is such a good friend though, we are more like sisters. She knows I might be gay but just wants me to be happy. I have to do something about it though, cos whenever she talks about guys and having boyfriends (she doesn't at the moment) it kills me. My mind just keeps saying "no she still might be gay". All I want to do is let go of these feelings and go back to being best friends.

Would love to tell her but not sure about that. I have never told any one else either.

I've loved my best friend for 7 years.
We speak for 5 hours every day.
Do guys who want just a friendship do this?
I don't want to ruin anything because I can't live without him.
I nearly died trying a couple of years ago...
He makes me laugh when I think I will never smile again.
He listens when I fear I am all alone.
I love him.

A few months ago, I told my best guy friend that I used to be in love with him, all throughout the period he was dating my other great friend. He didn't believe me at first, but then promised not to tell anyone. It ended up being a sweet moment making our friendship even stronger. Now we're closer then ever, and I've realized I was in love with our friendship. Maybe you should tell her and just take a risk, you never know what will happen. And don't be odd about it either, find a good way to put it in the conversation...? Good luck.

thanks heaps, really appreciate it. I'll try and work up the courage to do it. I just don't know if it will achieve anything doing it. But I can't live trying to cover up my feelings all the time. Funny thing is I have told her how the exact same thing has happened to other good friends in the past, just never confessed that it is happening with her!! I am not particularly good friends with the others anymore because of other circumstances, but this time its different cos I know it is a healthy friendship if I could keep it as that. I am really hoping that I am also in love with the friendship more so than her!! Cheers.