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I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's ex - 67% Normal
I think I’m obsessed with my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend. I think about them together all the time, I can hardly even look at him without thinking of her. He’s never cheated on me with her or anything and he doesn’t even mention her, it’s just me. She’s a fashion designer and has (in my mind) an incredible life, she’s beautiful and creative and I guess I’m jealous, but it’s not that I’m jealous of him and her together, I’m jealous of her life because mine is so boring. I’m always trying to get myself to do more so I stop thinking about it, but it never fails, something will trigger it and then I just want to go away. It’s so bad that I look at her profiles and stuff online (not all the time or anything) and if I find out that she likes a band or movie I like, I feel like I can’t like it anymore, that I’m not good enough to like it because she does. It’s really messed me up I feel like a stalker and I hate myself for it, I’ve never been super confident, but I’ve never been this bad either. I mean, I can’t even hear anyone with her name without immediately thinking of her. I think about breaking up with my boyfriend because this stupid thing has been tearing me up inside and I don’t know how to stop feeling this way.
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i'm really obsessed with my fiance's ex...like i stalk her on facebook all the time.
i think it's because ex's have shared a part of your sig. other's life that you can never share with them. It creates jealousy.
One thing to keep in mind though, is that men and women look at past relationships differently. For your bf, the ex is part of his past. Something that is over and done with. To him, she has no relevance to the present.
Whereas, you (like all other women) look at ex's as something that was part of his past but still has an impact on who he is now. The ex is more "alive" and relevant to you than she is to him.
Understand that she is the past, you are the present.