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I need sincere advice - I am jealous of married people.
Hello everyone, I am a 20 year young woman and I am a undergraduate student at a university. I am extremely confused about my view on marriage. Ever since I moved down here from Massachusetts to North Carolina, I noticed a huge cultural difference - almost EVERYONE is married! and they get married so young! I am so confused, because now I want what they have too. And I feel this about other things too - when the majority of a group does something, or has something (you know, like a fad, clothing, whats cool, etc), I feel the pressure to fit in and I think "oh! if I have what they have, THEN I'll be happy!) But I feel I am WAAAAY too young to even think about marriage! I am still a student! I don't even know what I want to be yet (job-wise)! I can't even decide on a major - how am I going to be able to handle a marriage???
I am a Christian as well, so I feel pressure with that too. I choose not to have sex until marriage ( I feel good making this decision and I really dont need to be pregnant right now either) But I feel so teased with many young girls around me who are married, and it seems like they have something to fall back on, and someone to hold them at night, and they can have sex and not feel guilty or feel immoral. I wish I didn't feel this way. And I don't know why, I don't even WANT to get married right now. But I feel bad that I don't have someone like a husband. It's so confusing. I wish I could just stop looking at what others have and enjoy being single and loving life as a young, growing adult!
I want to be confident without being married or having a guy. As a Christian, I should only need God to satisfy me and make me happy. But the world pulls me the other direction. I have faith that one day I will get married to an amazing, beautiful man and I'll have a family and children, but I feel now is not the time at all. But I still feel jealous of married people. Can anyone help me out with encouraging, inspiring words?
I am a Christian as well, so I feel pressure with that too. I choose not to have sex until marriage ( I feel good making this decision and I really dont need to be pregnant right now either) But I feel so teased with many young girls around me who are married, and it seems like they have something to fall back on, and someone to hold them at night, and they can have sex and not feel guilty or feel immoral. I wish I didn't feel this way. And I don't know why, I don't even WANT to get married right now. But I feel bad that I don't have someone like a husband. It's so confusing. I wish I could just stop looking at what others have and enjoy being single and loving life as a young, growing adult!
I want to be confident without being married or having a guy. As a Christian, I should only need God to satisfy me and make me happy. But the world pulls me the other direction. I have faith that one day I will get married to an amazing, beautiful man and I'll have a family and children, but I feel now is not the time at all. But I still feel jealous of married people. Can anyone help me out with encouraging, inspiring words?
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First off, its okay if you dont want to get married right now. Im also twenty years old, I have been dating my bf for almost five years now and I am still not ready to get married. Im sure that no one is looking at you like you are the odd one out because you are not married. & I am also sure that not EVERYONE is married. It may seem that way but it may just be a coincidence.
I really cant comment on the sex before marriage thing and you being christian, because I do not study any religion. I do believe in God though, I just choose to keep an open mind and not label myself with one religion.
Plus its not that easy to just get married. You have to meet someone first that you think would be the one for you (which is HARD). It takes time to get to know someone and figure out their real self. My point is... you dont need to get married to fit in.. and if you do get married when your not ready it may make you more unhappy then you already are.
Hope this helps.
This isn't a help line.
You are a Christian. I could never love anyone who is foolish enough believes in fairy tails.
I hope you are not a Christian. You show no love or empathy in your response. And that's a problem.
Being satisfied with what you have is easier said than done, but remember that God can do all things. You should probably spend some time in prayer, and ask God to strengthen your faith, and teach to you to rely on Him rather than your own feelings.
If you rush into things.. especially marriage, you'll make your life a lot harder than it's mean't to be. Marriage is great, but it's certainly not as easy as it looks. It takes a lot of work. Honestly, I think getting married too young is just what some christians do as the alternative to falling into sexual sin, but it's not really a good answer either. I admire than you want to abstain from sex until you are married, as a Christian, this is what you are called to do. But prepare yourself, because it's going to get a LOT harder to do in college. I know christians who live with regret now, because they didn't hold out until they were married. This is all the more reason to keep your faith in God.
Being a young christian college guy myself, I can tell you you're not alone.
hope that helps