I regret marrying my husband I want someone rich!

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It sounds like you did didnt you. You put him down because he doesnt earn much money you dont sound too bright yourself. Most people spend the first few years of marriage paying a lot of bills its hard all over these days. All I can suggest is you get a divorce and find someone else

But the sex is wild, right?

I dont know who to compare the sex with. He's the only person Ive ever been with and I'm the on;y girl he's ever been with. The sex is def not wild. Its ok.

We have been together for more than 6 years you think he'd understand me.. but whenever he has a little ectra money he buys things for his family but never for me! He wants to keep his parents with him because they dont have a place to go when they are old. I am all for it. But we are already poor! And why sudnt i be able to keep my parents with me too?

I still think divorce is the only answer for you sorry cut your losses before its too late

I agree with cab divorce is the best choice for you. If you are unhappy then why remain unhappy? You should have never had this "civil wedding" its just a load of crap there is no reason why you should hide your marriage to his family thats crazy. Just listen to your self.

i agree with cab and chris, especially chris's last sentence.

Yes you made the wrong choice, but from the sound of your post, princess, so did he.

You hook up with a guy in a chatroom, and basically marry him to humor your parents? Couldn't you have started smaller on the rebelling stage? Like getting a nose ring or something?

I agree that there is something goofy in that he hasn't told his family about you and the "Marriage" - he is either young or older and hoping to cash in when they kick it sounds like to me, but YOU sound like the kind of fem that gives the rest of us a bad name.

You are bitching because you want a RICH guy? Why not just cut to the chase and start working the streets? You obviously don't care about a guy other than for the bulge he has in his pants - meaning his wallet.

Here's a thot: Tell you husband (he IS your husband) that marraige is a commitment and that you have needs - work together. For Your lives.

Ether that or divorce the poor fellow, Anna Nicole, and find some guy who can treat you like the trophy you apparently want to be.

So mad I can hardly type.

Tobra Marie

All I can say is that you are nuts! You dont even know me! When I tell you the entire story you will regret typing this message!

Sorry but I must say love isn't all about money.

Yes you should divorce.you got married in a way that you regret and you regret everything since. you do not feel treated to your just value and sounds like you have no feelings left for the guy. For your own sake and his PLEASE ASK FOR DIVORCE. This relationship sounds ALL WRONG.

Here's a thought, WHY DON'T YOU GO GET A JOB? You haven't mentioned kids, so I assume you don't have any. Tell him you want to work a minumum wage job and your money is for what you want mostly and for savings. If he doesn't like that idea than you are both shit out of luck. If you want a laptop you can make payments on one you know. I hate to break this to you honey, but our economy has just barely begun being a crisis, pretty soon none of us will be able to afford to go get a pedicure or a haircut.

Ok yeah I agree with V there. Why don't you get a job? if you want something and your husband can't afford it then why don't u get a job and buy it yourself? If you have kids then I can understand why you dont want a job, specially if they arent in middle school yet, but if you dont have young kids that you actually need to look after a lot, then you should go out and work instead of sitting at home complaining that your husband doesnt bring in enough money.

Regret?

Lets see now - you are on a public access forum, where good advice is hard to come by, you (apparently) don't tell the whole story and then lash out when people give their opinions and advice to what you DO post?

Forget the divorce, princess, you need some therapy. You have issues.

Tobra - IIN Longtimer

I think you are an ungrateful little bitch. Sorry but that is the way I see it your husband is doing the best he can to provide for you and its just not enough. I agree with V go out get a job and buy your own damn laptop!

You got yourself where your at, and if you can't deal with it get a divorce! Yeah do him a favor.

amen

you told her

I dont care what you think. Everyone on this forum is a fucking loser! I have my own business. But coz I think all you guys are married to losers and you dont know wat it is like to be pampered. Thats all I was looking for, being a lil mollycoddled and pampered by the person who claims to love me!

Miss Oct- I hope you end up with no one coz anyone who gets married to you will end up killing himself anyway!

WHORE BITCH!! DIE AND ROT IN HELL!!

hey, i think tobra and others told you a little bit of harsh truth, but you know what? you should make yourself happy.

if you want a rich guy, divorce your husband and go for a rich guy. it's your life, do what you want to do, and good luck to you.

I think she is off her meds, Pooltoy.

She's plastered this over half a dozen or more posts and is comming unhinged. - Methinks that we've seen the last of her, though I hope she seeks therapy.

Tobra

i think a few sessions of Tobra-therapy would straighten her out really nicely. :)

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be treated nice by your husband once in awhile. Communication must be a problem in your marriage, but you need to express your feelings with your husband if you want your marriage to work, not us.

There was internet dating in 2001?! Fuck thats old lolz.

there were chatrooms though. i was in one the morning of 9/11/2001. then i heard a loud BOOM outside my window. i said "BRB, just heard something explode". then i went outside and saw all hell and smoke everywhere... but that's neither here nor there, is it? but there were chat rooms back then.

YOU GOT DO , WHAT MY SISTER DID,
GET OFF YOUR A.S.S AND GET A F-KEN JOB , THIS IS 2008 BE A INDEPENDENT WOMAN ..

YOU WANT RICH MAN , GOT GIVE SOME PUSSY FOR THAT BABES!!!!

uhhh yea chatrooms were even around in the 90s because I remember going into rooms at 10 or 11.

If you're seriously entertaining a divorce, don't take advice from a group of random strangers who have never met your husband and only have a paragraph-long rant about why you don't like him. You should be asking your friends, family, etc what they see when they look at your union.

I decided that you shoudlnt divorce your husband cuz then you'll take half his stuff and be an even bigger bitch than you are right now. Instead you could work out a way where you dont take what he has and only take the stuff which you worked to get not what he worked to get.

forget it, the bitch is GONE

have you tried stalking?

You are the only one who can solve your problems.Why would you stay with him if he doesent do shit for you i mean its not right to marry some small dick rich guy you will be unhappy to but there is a balnace that is a little bit of both worlds.First you have to make a decision and think if you really want to be with this man he sounds like a real pile of crap and a cheapass so if you are still looking good get out there and work your magic and try not to attract some loser who doesent even pay for a meal.

Your husband sounds like a gigantic loser. What most of the people here dont understand is that it is not really about money, it is about responsibility. Look at this spineless infraction of a man. He didnt even tell his parents that he is married (who does that?) and he apparently cant give himself and his spouse a comfortable life. He also doesnt seem to care much about her as he is clearly not respecting her or paying attention to her needs (emotional and physical). This guy is irresponsible and a loser.

Girl, get a divorce and move on. This person will never change, I promise you. Get out, live your dreams, write about them, explore the world, yourself, good people...get out of this marriage...believe me, when you are happy with a man because he really wants YOU, then you wont notice such things as little money and hard times so much.

Huh ... don't dare shouting at Miss October. She posted two of the wittiest, most helpful and, all in all, brilliant posts I have had the pleasure of ever reading.

I read your post and wanted to say what I think but now that I've read those gems, there's no need to waste words I reckon.
It sums it up.

We don't hate you and, um, even if I happened to, I wouldn't go and say (citing) "w**** b**ch!! DIE AND ROT IN HELL!!"
But I think there is loads wrong with your marriage. First, you don't love each other. Second, you married him for the sole two reasons of not slightly ruining the hopes of his parents you didn't even know and to be pampered by someone you, I take it, didn't believe to be getting any richer than he was in the near future. The marriage was a farse.

And all you want off of any type of marriage is to be (citing) "a lil mollycoddled and pampered by the person who claims to love me".
Well, yes, to a certain extent that's nice. But na-ah. You also state he has to be rich and all in all, give the impression he should give rather more than "a lil".

Now please DO give me any reasons to demand another human being pays for your haircuts, manicures and shoes when you can't even offer love in return.

You were 18 when you met? Now honestly, did you really age?

Let us know when you at least reach the Victorian state of mind. x

Thank you for your kind support, Elise.

Like me or hate me - and if ya stick around long enough I'm sure you'll do both - I at least Try to give a fair view of things.

Melissa...she is gone, but I do hope she's gotten therapy, and whatever she wants/deserves.

As for you, Elise, you strike me as someone with a good head on her shoulders. I can't promise to always agree with ya, if you post here for any length of time, but I will always treat you with respect.

Tobra Marie :)

and what do mean by "Victorian state of mind"? is that something kinky?

Wow. Don't I leave an impression lol.

Ok, well ... I might've been a bit funny. I like to take it out on my keyboard.

Miss October, I like the way you write. Almost like - Simon Cowell? Lol. You're welcome and it's ok if we don't always agree. I have a knack for opinionated characters. :D
Lotofjunk, you stalker! (Kidding.) I admit it's a kiss but I really just use it as a sort of personal signature.
PoolTOY. You were bothered to read my post right to the end weren't you. I'm flattered.

Erm I'm not saying anything. :D Lol. xxx

"PoolTOY. You were bothered to read my post right to the end weren't you. I'm flattered. "

yes. i could not tear my eyes away until I'd read every word. :D

he sounds like a dud.
but are you just regretting it cause he can't get you a boquet of roses everyday? or are you bored with HIM and not his lack of money?

(:
Hm hm. Is that in a good way then ? x

of course. i like your spunky writing style.

Why thank you. ^^
Sorry, I am used to people being sarcastic. I do wonder why. Lol.

Well then, I will hopefully see you around. You thought of a fascinating nickname, might I add. x

Thanks wildthing

you mean pooltoy? well, there's a story behind that. a story that played out here last fall and early winter. I won't go into the details if you don't already know, except to say that a racist sicko was pushed to the edge of his mental endurance before finally being banned for life from this site.

about being sarcastic - i was being a little sarcastic in my response. but i'm not being sarcastic when i say i like your style. (:D

Actually, I heard Spam is no longer here because he was arrested for molesting underage animals in the liverpool train station.

Not hard to believe, if you've ever been to the liverpool train station.

I have.

OMB

"Not hard to believe, if you've ever been to the liverpool train station."

not hard to believe if you know spam.

True, so true.

There IS a reason why brothers and sisters shouldn't marry.

T-to the-O-to the B.R.A.

If your that unhappy yes.

Lol, if its money you want, your a ignorant, sad, loser. Marriage has nothing to do with money, only love.

This is the reason why you should go to college, have a career...work for a few years, travel the world...and THEN get married. but it's never to late - divorce him!

You're the smartest person here! :)

When I have issues, I hope you give me Tobra-therapy.

do not be such a shallow bitch your one of the reasons why people hate america shouldn't have married him them either divorce him find someone you actually like instead of being a gold digging bitch.
with regards,
Michael

personally i think if you joke about your marriage then your marriage will be a joke.
marriage should be taken more seriously, marriage isn't just about you, it's about the both of you.

ask yourself: if you divorce him, will you be any better off then you are now?

and really think about it, in every aspect.
i think you could make this work, even if you're struggling ends meat.

What happened to working together? That's real marriage. Just because your a lazy, gold digging, miserable leach doesn't give you the right to insult your husband. You married him for a reason till death do you part, though thick and thin. No wonder why he doesn't respect you. He's most likely embarrassed that he's married to you thats why he didn't want to tell his family. I wouldn't respect you either if I work from home and all I see is you sitting there all day complaining. What you need to do is start helping yourself and your family. He can't do it alone and you are selfish and spoiled for expecting him to do everything. Most likely you were very delusional and naive when you decided to marry him. You made your bed so lie in it!

Why do you need someone to provide FOR you? Independence, please? Try supporting yourself. Way to give women a bad name.

Cheers to violent10dency. GET A JOB! Yes, it was a mistake to marry someone to please your parents, wtf were you thinking?? But you married him and you should try to make it work. If you are this selfish with this marriage no other marriage will be any better. Though he definitely should tell his family about you. It's always hard to make ends meet especially today, which is why in most marriages BOTH WORK. Don't bitch about him not makeing money when you are too lazy

You sound like you want to be a trophy wife, but I don't think you are the type.

You really need to re-examine your values. Stop comparing your life with your sisters, who seems to have all the riches. If you want to compare, look at the families where husbands beat their wives and children, molest them, and terrorize them on a daily basis.

You need to do your part and go out and buy what you want. No more waiting for your hun to come home and bring it to you. Stop placing these expectations on him and you will be happier. Go out and earn a wage. It will also take your mind off self-pity.

first off if you marry for money and not love you will never be rich enough to feel like it was worth it. if you marry to apease someone else you will never have enough peace to make it worth it. you got married for the wrong reasons. now you want to leave for the wrong reasons. you seem a little selfish. GET A JOB. Try providing for yourself for at least 6 months before you judge him. You might realize money doesnt come that easy. NOw onto my real concern, how is it even possible that his parents dont know you two are married? why has he not told them? there is something so wrong with that. he is either hiding something from you, like a previous marriage or children or something. Or he is embarassed by you and doesnt want people to know you are his wife? does his family like you? where do his parents live? have u talked to your family about all this? what do they say. do they know only his sister knows you are married. i cant see any well adjusted person agreeing to keep their marriage a "secret". you seem to be having a huge bout of sibling rivalry, jealousy is a dangerous thing. be wary. i am assuming your sister loved this guy and supported him and helped him. she didnt sit in resentment and wish upon a star that he would win the lotto. if you want your husband to be more aggressive or succesful you help them, you certainly dont degrade them or belittle them. I am betting he wasnt on the fast track to success before you were married so you should have known what you were getting yourself into. its ridiculous to marry a homeless man and then resent him for being homeless and divorce him. i would say go be a gold digger but i dont think you would put any effort into that, im assuming this because you dont seem to put in any effort into your marriage. i suggest counseling, being honest and telling his family and your family the whole truth and nothing but the truth, theres an old addage THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE. be truthful with yourself and hubby as well. and lastly get a job.

yes.

you aren't happy. go to marriage conciliating. if he won't go, go alone. if it really isn't working out, get divorced. your still young and can start over. you don't have kids and there's nothing worse then staying in a loveless marriage because you think you HAVE too.

27, male, soldier, fort campbell, ky.

Hit me up! :P

PROVIDE for you?! PROVIDE FOR YOURSELF, GET A JOB. THEN WORRY ABOUT CHOOSING A MATE. and by the way, weigh a person's financial habits VERY HEAVILY when you consider them for marriage.

You were too young and dependent to marry. And you are being taken to task for that (still expecting to be looked after).

But he's not ready either - won't even tell his parents?

You both made a mistake from the sounds of it. And so what if you've both made a mistake? Move on. Marriage can work later but you've both got some growing up.

just because ur husband is not rich u want to regret marrying him that is the wrong decision u make about ur life well i think u put him down he loves you for sure and maybe u do to just because of money dont let ur love destroyed if both of u works hard and earn enough money to support ur living u might save some money.. dont let him go believe someday u will sit down and ask why did i ever let him go ? who knows by the time u guys married he can find a good job and become a rich anything can come up in life so **dont let him go for money ...

If you love him stay with him. If you don't get a divorce.

Shallow.

Look. he's a jerk, I can tell right off. And you should get a divorce. you met him in a chatroom, for god's sake! Would you just dump the fool? And besides, he'll make more money by getting rid of you. Live with your parents for a while, get a job. Hey, maybe you'll get a good-looking co-worker.
Or do you love this guy?

Ask yourself this...Would a rich guy even have you? You might have to come to grips with the possibility that your no better that anyone else. You seem to think your entitled to certain things with little effort put forward. A grandiose view of one's self can be damaging. Most rich people got where they are with a lot of hard work and dedication. There are very few that would want a wife that does nothing but accept gifts and pampering. Most rich couples got together because they share common interests and goals. No ambition and being babied doesn't seem to fit in with a successful persons personality profile. Learn to be happy with less, drop some of your precious little needs, and toughen up. Your only setting yourself up for constant disappointment. Life's short, go with the flow.

Yeah. Get a day job, and a night job. Work hard for the next 3-6 months. Save as much as possible. In addition, find brilliant friends, go out, find new people. After you have an okay amount of money, and friends, leave your husband. Start again. Please dont not do anything.

not really much to say idk why i hit the post button but you need to think about how he feels why he acts this way what he is doing for his family ect, and you married him so this is your own dam fault, you should be greatful you have him, atleast you have food a house someone with you, atleast you aren't old and alone, you should get a job and learn that life isn't fair. anything can happen if you put your mind to it but you seem to not know that all things worth haveing are earned not given love isn't given it is earned so is happieness if you can't get throught the hard times you can't survive. you need to straighten up and fly right sister.

Ditch husband, get job.

I think you've learned your lesson and now should move on. 18 is SOOOOOoooo young and too tragic of an age to try and settle down, no wonder you regret the entire thing. Next time, meet the man somewhere besides the internet...there are so many rats out in cyber space. I agree with much that has been said though, but my personal musings will neither help nor hinder the fact that you need to move on and up or out or however you want to put it. Good Luck!

~Peace~

You're stupid. You are just an ungrateful, useless fucktard who probably doesn't do anything but rely on others to obtain what you want.
The idiocy from you radiates throughout your comment so it's really difficult for me to be nice, knowing that you're a gold-digger and a loser.
You married some nigga who you met in an internet chatroom because he made money, and you didn't? Have you EVER made any smart decisions in your life?
You should've stayed with your parents.

Get a divorce, relinquish your selfisness, learn that the world doesn't revolve around you, marry somebody because you love him, not because of his salary.

sounds like hes using you. leave the ass asap. move in with a friend or family till your back on your feet. do it now before he takes any more of your prime years. theres tons of men out there that arent rich but well off and that will treat you like a queen. do you have sex with him clean the house etc STOP till he changes or move on. dont allow yourself to be a floor mat.

dont be an ass TheJNY

Sorry, I just hate lazy women like you. Just for the record: I'm a girl, I'm 27 so don't get hissy-pissy with me.

You should stop moaning and GET A JOB. Are you just going to sit still, letting a guy 'provide' (vomits a little in mouth) for you?

Sorry, I am just not impressed. 100% Not normal IMHO. If he was my brother, I'd tell him to kick your butt! I'd consider myself lucky. Do you even know the value of the dollar? Mini laptops are expensive!

I'm sorry if I sound very harsh right now, but you should NOT rely on a guy financially. Not EVER. What will you do when you have accustomed to a certain lifestyle and he cheats on you with some chick and files for divorce? It will be so hard for you to adapt to a lower single income. It will be so very hard for you to start working againm because you are not used to it. You are still young, but you have to work to beef up your CV. You have to work and study as much as you can while you are still young.

Seriously, get a carreer and reward yourself by buying that laptop from your own money. It's very unfair of you to judge your guy when he's trying to make ends meet. You should marry someone because you love him. I can imagine it's hard to see your sister buying all these great things but honestly there's more to life than just money. You don't make out with your bank account.

Just my 2p.

divorce if your only alternative is to live a miserable life. and if you feel guilty about it, think of it this way, assuming he's a similar age to urself, divorcing him now would leave you both young enough to "start again", and also,without you he'll have more money because he won't be supporting anyone else.

What is wrong with you? You cold hearted, bitch?
Telling people to die? Are you an idiot?
Why the hell would you even submit your story in the first place if you're going to be bitching at other's opinions. They're at least trying to help you. (which is what you need) All "Miss Oct" ever did was write what was right, you're just mad 'cause you know it's true.
Obviously you don't know what the fuck you're doing.
And to be honest I feel sorry for you. I honestly can say you're never going to find "the one".
I hope you do end up in the streets.

Make your own money! Geez I hate how other women want to rely on men for their money. If you arn't happy in your relationship then leave. Make sure you tell the next man youre with why youre with him though. Its not nice to make someone think youre in love with them when it's really their money you are lovin.

The author of this topic is the kind of people that people with a very large bank account do their best, I guess, to avoid.

So basically her own mentality goes completely against the chances of actually meeting a rich man and to keep him.

A good lesson for her would be to meet a rich man, sign a prenup which leaves her with nothing if they divorce, they then marry, then he would notice her lazyness, and then dump her. Leaving her with nothing as the prenups stated.

After reading her first post, I wasn't surprised to see how negative was her replies toward the comments of others. And if people agrees with her, this is a sad world.

It's unfortunate for her husband that he doesn't notice it, because not only would I divorce from her, but I would fight as much as can so she gets what she deserves, which seems...it's nothing.

I do not feel sorry for you. At all. If you want expensive shit, get a fucking job, you lazy bitch. I hate it when women depend on a man for everything and can't do shit for themselves. It's weak. I can tell you are weak. Here's a thought, take your ass back to school, you need to. You need to learn how to write.
Also, I know plenty of people on here are telling you to get a divorce, but you won't do it. You won't do anything. You are just here to get someone to pity you so you can feel better. You're not going to get that from me.
You are 25, and you talk as if you can't support yourself. WTF!? You shouldn't need your husband OR your parents to support you at that age. Pathetic.
Most importantly, THAT'S WHAT YOU GET for being an idiot. People rush into marriage all the time. Then they are unhappy, they end up getting hurt or hurting someone else. Think before you make a major decision. I don't understand how someone can stay in a shitty relationship, let alone make it worse by marrying that person. This doesn't sound like it started out great, it sounds like you were young and dumb, (still dumb, not so young anymore) and made a stupid choice. FIX IT YOUR DAMN SELF.

I so agree with you. This girl is a piece of work. So pathetic...

You sound like an extremely materialistic, superficial person. All that you have to say about your marriage is that you don't respect your husband because of his mediocre earning capacity? I'm not trying to offend you, merely trying to be honest.

Take a minute to think about this fact: people with lots of money are NOT any happier than people with moderate amounts of money. In fact, rich people kill themselves more often than middle class people. Assuming you have enough to have your basic needs met, additional money will not make your life any more satisfying.

That being said, I'm sure you disagree with me, which is fine. So you should carefully analyze your next step. First determine if you are attractive enough to dupe a rich man who is as superficial as you into marriage. Be objective when thinking about these factors: do you have a nice figure, what do you weight, is your face pretty, are you at least college educated, what is your IQ? The higher you rate on these questions, the more likely your superficial needs will best be served by divorcing your poor husband and finding some rich guy who wants nothing more than a trophy wife to spend money on.

Unfortunately for you, my impression is that you are not very intelligent. The combination of low intelligence and rampant superficiality is harsh, because you likely will not be able to devise a master plan whereby you can leech off of a man's hard work, much less effectively pull the plan off.

My advice: start doing something useful with your time so you develop some self confidence. Read Atlas Shrugged, procure a meaningful job, do volunteer work, or even just exercise regularly; these steps will help you begin to feel like you are worth something and will lessen your tendency to rely on material things to fill the void within. Best of luck.

Do you love him. If you do, try to make things work. & if he does not do his share. He is not worth your time. You should find someone who values and respects you. Although, it is also your responsibility to do the same to that someone who values and respects you.

did he act like this before the marriage?
did you think he was gunna chnage, and gett moneyy?

money shouldnt be tht important to you, to divorce.
if there isnt love, divorce before kids come into the picture.

This seems to be an arrangement nobody really thought through. Both of you were completely retarded to get married so young/fast/under the circumstances.

GET A DIVORCE and move on. Try to learn something from this and don't repeat it.

It seems like your a fat pig who sits on your as all day dreaming for a labtop you dont even fucking need. GET a fucking job!

instead of ragging on your poor husband and wishing for something you can't have, why don't you just appreciate that he actually has a job and pays the bills.

poor you, not going to the salon in so long, your life fucking sucks i guess. the toughest times in our lives help bring out who we really are, and you're showing everyone that the real you is selfish, materialistic, and bitchy.

Hmm, i Reckon... That iPod's should have Condom dispencers... Any thoughts?

Well, marriage is about love, understandment, passion etc. It's not about how rich someone might be. If you don't love this man, then I suggest a divorce. Don't cheat, that would be way worse. But, what if you found a rich guy who you didn't love and treated you badly? What's worse? A life filled with money? Or love? Example: Before my mother had me, she was engaged to a rich man. He was handsome and smart. But he wanted way too many kids. And he wanted to move to Mexico. But, my mother realized that she didn't love him. About three years later, she found my dad and loved him and married him. So basically she chose the life filled with love, not greed. Do I think you're normal for thinking this? Of course. A lot of women do. Just do what is best for you. Who knows? Maybe the guy you fall in love with, may be rich.

You never really mention in your story if you love your husband. It sounds like to me that your more interested in money then marrige since you mentioned your sister being engaged to a rich man. I think that you should leave this man because you are obviously not happy and maybe do something for yourself for awhile, you said your family can support you better then he could. And if you do plan to marry again you should make sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this man. I think that you are completely normal I mean common you didn't have a decent wedding?! Now, that's unexceptable if you ask me. and they dont have to be expensive so that is not an excuse either. Leave him. =]

You don't sound mature enough to be married yet. Get a divorce, go get a job, some education, support yourself for a while until you grow up a bit. Then meet someone. In real life.

uhm ever heard of GETTING A JOB ? women like you just sit around all day doing nothing at all . AND THEN EXPECT SOMEONE WHOS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN TO BUY YOU LAPTOPS AND PAMPER YOU ? sweetie, this is REALITY not your fairy tale world . Please do him a favour and divorce him . You were only in it for the money .

You're young and think matariel objects are going to make you happy. You have a void that needs to be filled and you will be spending the next ten years unhappy because you'll put yourself in debt and wont understand why your so unhappy after everything you bought. 10 years from now, you will still be unhappy. Talk to a pro and et a dovorce. This guy doesn't deserve to be draged down with you.

Get a job. There is no excuse for you not to be working, unless of course you chose to be a housewife. But if you have children, do not fob it off on them. My mother was working 3 months after I was born, with my father also in full time employment. There is no reason for you to not be working.

While I don't think being married for money is right in anyway possible, I actually understand what you typed in your original message. So if you love him (doubting you do), set his ass straight, tell him its either you get a better job etc etc or I'm gone. If you don't love him, then yeah divorce him as soon as possible. Ugh I feel bad for you, these things eat away your soul. I have a friend who does things like this and it's just like shes not human to me anymore.

there's nothing wrong with wanting to be pampered and if you really feel this way about him then why not leave him.
you ARE 25 after all, you still your entire life in front of you.
that aside, I'm not going to call you a money loving whore because I don't know you well enough, but I really REALLY hope you have more than just that reason for leaving him.

lots of people do stupid shit, like getting married young, and lots of people have amicable ends to those kinds of relationships. if you try talking to him about it instead of posting it on a anon-site like this you'd get more sympathy.

-cheers, ricky

The first few years of marriage is not equal to the first seven years of marriage, as in this case. I hate this situation and you should get out of it as soon as you can. The only thing that matters is if you're happy or not, and you say you aren't, so fuck him. I don't mean "have sex with him" fuck him, I mean "get out of his life and make your own" fuck him.

leave him gurl!

You married him, if there's no infidelity how can you think it right to just leave him? If you want change you've got to go make it. Talk to him and tell him you want your lives to be different.

Well, no offense, but you married a guy that you met on the internet. [I dont think that was a good choice on your part, but...*shrugs*.]

Any way if you wanna dump him, do it. Don't let a guy hold you down making you unhappy, when you should be living life.

You only have it once ya know ;)

well to be honest you sound so cold hearted all you care about your husband for is his bank to be honest if he is paying your bills he should be aloud to treat himself and you should get a job if you want your own things but as for the fact his family dont know your married he should be buying you lots of things to make up for that shit wedding you had if i was you divorce its the harsh truth

Congrats, you've joined the rest of the dredges of society called "Weak minded, gold digging, empty headed, prostitutes".

Marry a millionaire. That is if he wants a poor ass like you. I am poor too and I know No millionaire would pay attention to me yet alone a leech like you.

Marry Mr.Peanut. He's got a monocle!

your 25. your young. find a Real guy

i voted normal, this is typical female behavior.

yes u did :(

I am going to have to do something I normally don't do, shout and insult. Please excuse me

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WILL YOU SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU WHINNY, UNGREATFUL BITCH.

There, let me explain. ANything worth having in life is worth working hard for and I am taking a tax preparers class so I don't have to work in a factory until I am forty. I am busting my ass and I know anything WORTH having doesn't come free or cheap.

My girlfriend is a cow but I love her and I accept her. YOU on the other hand want nothing but free stuff and are unwilling to work for ANYTHING. Just because you are a girl does NOT mean you are entitled to anything GIVEN to you, you have to EARN it.

GET OFF YOUR ASS AND GO TO SCHOOL. IF YOU WANT TO BE RICH, THEN BECOME RICH BY YOUR OWN FUCKING MERITS!!!! Lastly, rich guys aren't great guys, I know, my family is rich and I don't like them. You will lose the few things you like for money and money goes easily, a decent person in your life with a good heart is very hard to come by.

Civil Wedding, is that a common law thing or what. My state does not have a common law marrage thing but according to all of this tax crap I am studying, it is rather common and ACTS just like a real marrage. Or, did you get married at like the courthhouse?

Either way, it will be a huge pain to get out of so just work hard on yourself and become a better person, yourself. You want that laptop, earn it or find it on eBay and get it that way. Like I stated before, anything worth having is worth working hard for and this is something you truly never grasp.