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I Secretly Hate My Best Friend
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I've known her since the fourth grade( I'm 16, so that would be 8 years), and we've always been good friends. We rarely fight, and if we do get into a spat, we make up less than an hour later. The problem is, half the time, I'm annoyed with her from the start. If I was asked to describe her, I'd say she was a spoiled, lazy, brat who's lucky enough to have good genes where she can do anything she wants and not have any conciquences (such as eating three full size bags of potato chips and not gain a pound). It's not that I'm jealous, because I have some good qualities myself, it's just that she constantly complains about how life is so hard for her because her parents won't let her buy that 300 dollar purse, after she got a 250 dollar one just a few months before.
Things really started falling apart when she got her first boyfriend a few months ago. All she would talk about was him and how much she couldn't stand him. I'd give her advice, but she wouldn't listen to me. She'd ask for advice, I'd give it to her, and she still wouldn't listen. I've always been alittle strict with her because I don't deal with anyone's crap, but sometimes I feel I'm only friends with her because of our history. I know for a fact I'm the only person in her life that doesn't baby her, because all of her friends and family do.
Also, she talks about success in her near future, about how her aunt is buying her a car, her father's going to hook her up with a job, and her grandfather is paying for college. Sometimes I even worry for how she's going to take being in the real world, when no one wants to help her anymore.

Anyway, I don't even remember my question. but is this okay?
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I hate my best friend to.
i meet her when we are kids, and she used to be nice, but i dont know when, she start to act like a b**ch! she really thinks shes a sun and the rest of the world is just sh*t.

She always reminds i'm not good enought, even when she doesn't say it.

I hate her so much! but she still my best friend, and i love her. I dont know why!
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omg finallyy people who fucking understand ..... like you have no idea how much this means to me and i feel so much better knowing im not the only one out there thank you god <333
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I find at times, more often lately, I hate my best friend but she's so much more than that, she's basically family. I don't know why either. I mean she irritates me and I think she takes me for granted but since we're family we're stuck together forever. I love her but hate her too, I don't know why entirely but I just distance myself from her a lot, that helps.
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I completely agree that this is normal. Sometimes you just get tired of people. I am actually in the same situation right now. I've been friends with this girl (lets just call her Jane) for about 8 years. We weren't that close at first but eventually it turned into the type of friendship where we were constantly together no matter what. I now have come to see that it was a very unhealthy friendship. Through years of putting up with all of Janes problems with her boyfriend, problems getting sick, and family issues I was constantly there to help. She just never seemed to understand that and would call me a bad friend when we argued. Being the single one out of our friendship, I always had to deal with janes boyfriend comming around. Thats understandable. But god forbid if I ever had a boyfriend it was the end of the world, and as Jane would say when we'd fight "Im tired of you putting d*ck in front of our friendship all the time" I of course would apologize(stupid me). As the years progressed I noticed that I didn't have that many friends anymore. Jane either did not like them,or her boyfriend did not want her to go out. So me being a good friend would stay with her and chill. Long story short ( I could go on for ages) I recently started a relationship with this guy whom I have been talking to for about a few months. Jane just called me today with her usual problem of me being a bad friend because I'm not glued to her hip 24/7 anymore. Well sorry Jane, people change. I obviously grew up, went to college, made new friends, and found a loving boyfriend. I want to succeed in life, not be dragged down by someone who is never happy for me. Well anyway, the answer to your question is yes it is normal, and you should cut that friend off as soon as possible. Now that I stopped associating with Jane I feel a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders.

**I went a little crazy writing this lol, I am just really mad right now
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im 16 and i hate my best friend too (if i can even call her that anymore) Im sooo sick of her!! just everything she does drives me mad! i cannot wait until i leave school, i will finally be free from the bitch. She is constantly moaning about how bad her life is at home and her ex boyfriend, i mean im happy to give her advice and everything but what annoys me is that she doesn't listen to me atall and if i want advice on things she just changes the conversation into something about her like she's trying to compete for who has the worse life! but to be honest she bring all the arguments that happen in her house on herself, its no one elses fualt but hers!!
None of her other friends really like her anymore either, shes always saying horrible things to us like commenting on how we look, what we say, how we do things so really she picks on every single thing we do!! she can never take a joke and i cant even joke around with her because shes soooo boring all the time, we're only allowed to joke around or even talk when she decides! She always starts arguments over nothing and i get the blame for almost everything. Just being around her is like treading on ice, i have to be careful about what i say incase she kicks off about it! i've helped her out soooo much and i'll do anything for her and i have in the past but shes never appreciated a single thing that i've done for her and im sick to death of it! I really really hate her and right now i dont ever want to talk to her again.
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and also she seems to find it soooo impossible to be happy for me, she always tries to drag me down with all of her problems and expects me to be as upset as she is! if shes ever upset or in a bad mood, i have to be aswell!! i cant stand her altall, shes just such a nasty and horrible person. She even moaned because i wasn't staying on for sixth form, just because i know what i want to do with my life already and she doesn't! she tries to control everything that i do!
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HOLY CRAP. SERIOUSLY THIS IS MY LIFE.

I've known my "best friend" for 9 years. We've practically been glued at the hip for 8 of those years. But 9 months ago I got into a relationship with a really great guy who is super nice to both me AND my friends. Problem is, my best friend seems to hate him and treats him like sh**. She even admitted to me that she was jealous of us before. She says she got over it, but I don't believe her.

And now she's telling me to break up with him because I never spend time with anyone else (which is bullsh**). She's just freaking insecure and clingy as f**k!!!!!!!!!!!!! And it sucks because she thinks the reason I don't spend time with her is because of my boyfriend, but it's NOT. I have just outgrown our friendship.

It's like I can't even be around her anymore, she gets on my nerves when she just talks. It's like I loathe her. I want to move on with my life and my boyfriend, but she is a freaking control freak. NOT TO MENTION MY ROOMMATE. BAD IDEA.

I want to cut her off. But it's hard as hell since we live together for the next whole year.

Somebody save me.....
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Gosh, mine is a total bitch, i've always wanted to get away and break free from her! Such a snake! This is supposed to be our last yera 2gether but then she followed me into High school. ARGSHHHHHHHHHHH
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i hate my bestie too. :( she's spoilt and a sh**ing bi**h. she makes me jelous and thinks i'm posh just cause when i speak i sound it. i'm not. also she thinks she's sexyer then me cause she's had 3 bfs and i'vehad none.(i set them all up with her)
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thank God im not the only one it must be totally normal. My best friend is a 2 faced ATTENTION SEEKING false bitch, she does anythign to get attention like laughing in a really squeaky voice at something not funny, or singin during class RANDOMLY. But shes more popular than me because she always has house partys etc (she does this for attention so people will love her) shes also soo big headed calls her self georgous all the time and in her house she is the boss litterally she bosses her mom and her lil sis and gets litterally everything she wants and has controll over her mom. shes such a SLAG havin sex with people who are 20 just as a fling always having people at her house and shes had the emergency pill about 4 times i would say and shes only 16 ? i wana get away from her but its hard to fine someone new as a bestfriend and im scared i wont find one and if i fall out with her she will still have allot of friends n ill only have less than a handfull (i mean ones i could hang around with). honestly i feel she treats me like shit and says i always have bad moods and infact it is her all i can say is i hope she fucks off n i enever hear of her again and i know tats awful to say but i do hope that i never hear of her again and that she fucks of n then when she gets there fucks off a little bit more and that i find a new bestfriend someone i can be comfortable around and confine in and not be around someone who demands something and gets what she wanst the spoilt bitch ! i really can say that i have got that out i hate her..... DO ONE BIATCH
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yeah i secretly hate my best friend too, she's self-centered and a bitch to other people... but oh well we have fun together...
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I totally know wat u mean, im in the same situation. she is always saying im her best friend and like how close we are but i feel the complete opposite. and whenever i talk to her its only about her, she never listens to what i have to say . and now that she has a boyfriend she is even more annoying. she asks for advice and completely ignores it. so time i just wanna tell her to get the hell away from me. and she always saying how she's not a girl (wat is up with that) like just cause u play sports and have a lot of guy friends doesn't make u a guy. and she's always changing her personality depending on who she's hanging out with it's annoying just be urself...god


sry to rant she just make me mad.
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I suggest you distance yourself from anyone who annoys you half the time as you describe. From your story, your relationship is a matter of convenience to you, not of true friends.

It's very common for people to find something about a close friend that is irritating, and we should overlook one or two things as just a flaw since no one is perfect. However,.....why on earth would you want to be around a person who has the traits your friend displays? Spoiled, lazy, brat, a complainer, a braggart??? I wouldn't have anything to do with such a person.

Make new friends and curtail the time you spend with this person or cut her off entirely. You don't owe her an explanation as to why you changed your behavior and are not available as you always had been.
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i feel the same way
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She just sounds like she needs a cold hard dose of reality, whuch is probably not something you can give her. Stay friends with her, but do not emotionally invest. Honestly I don't see what telling her off is going to do, it may olnly cause aggravation to you and fleeting anger for her. Remove your emotional investments, and just use her for company.
Life has a way of evening people out through trajedy and harship. Its probably only a matter of time until reality slaps her across the face and she will need a concerned friend.
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I have almost the same situation but she acts like she doesn't like boys, yet I know she does like this one boy in my class.

I don't want to be friends with her anymore but I don't want to make her feel really angry at me or sad. (Actually, it's impossible to make her sad, she only gets angry) And if anyone isn't her friend, she talks about them to other people and makes up rumours that are totally inappropriate but people believe. I don't want to end up being the subject of her rumours. And then she always thinks I have to think exactly the same as her, and when I like something different, she gets angry again.She's the third skinniest person I know, but she always complains about being fat, and I'm twenty pounds heavier than her, and she says I'm skinny. It gets annoying after a while.

I know it's technically not her fault, because her whole family does that too. I just don't know how I'm going to leave her.
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i hate my best friend too. well i only say shes MY best friend cause i spend most of my time with her and we've been friends for 4 years. but i hate her. she introduces herself as "hi im jessica's best friend vanessa." and i cant stand it. shes a bitch. every since she fucked my boyfriend last year i cant trust her. shes manipulative. shes back stabbing. and she always tries to one-up me. fuck her. she's fake as fuck and everyone always see's it. but apparently i was the last to. just tell ur "best friend" how u feel and maybe she'll change.
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Me and my best mate have been friends since we we're 3 that's a heck of a time. And i know how you feel. I love my best friend accaisonly but she can be a pain in the arse. She critisises me and up's her self. If you hate her do something about it. But you could just be plain bored of her. Take some time away. Or just explain how you feel. She'll either change or won't be your friend anymore. Win Win...
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I got a hint for you---if you hate someone they arent your best friend.
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girlfriend i have a similar best friend situation..i've been best friends with my guy friend since we were toddlers..and ill be 21 soon...in a lot of "real world" aspects he's a horrible person..but i try to give him the benefit of the doubt because he's a spitting image of his mother (who's completely crazy) and i'm sure that's rough enough...so i feel you on being aggravated and wondering if history is the only thing keeping you two friends..honestly, thats how i feel about mine..he's done some pretty fucked up shit to me, to screw with my life and not think about it for a second..he's just not really there for me like i want him to be..but his birthday came around and he thought he had all these "best friends" and me and one other girl were pretty much the only ones who showed up to his 21st birthday...point being: you may be the only one she really has..maybe she's a really lonely person on the inside, and you just don't know about it..but you can't argue with genes homegirl, and if she's as selfish as you say than it didnt come out of no where..and you gotta cut her a little bit of slack cuz it sounds like this is how's she's gonna be..and she just can't help it..that doesn't mean you have to take her shit..or even give her good advice that you know she's gonna throw away..maybe a litle distance would make her realize what she's taking for granted..im not sure if this advice helps you but just know that you aint the only one with best problems..friends can be bull shit, ungrateful, unappreciative, and unaware of how much you love and care about them..suck it up, people don't change..tell her how you feel and see if she straightens out..
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I don't agree with you that people don't change. If personalities were immutable then EVERYONE would still be acting the way they did in high school.

Your friend CAN and will most likely change, whether it's for better or worse is up to her though. Right now, it sounds like she doesn't appreciate your friendship. Take a step back from this girl and start spending time with your other friends. Then maybe she will begin to realize what she had taken for granted, and grow up a little. But, don't use the time apart to bash this girl to other friends because, if in the future you do end up resuming as close a friendship as you have now, everything you said in confidence to others could come back to bite you in the butt.
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dont worry yourself,

dont want to sound patronising but your 16. A lot things are going to happen for you yet.

college? university? job? maybe even family, all these things are going to be opening up for you and these events cause people to move away and after that drift apart, this will happen to you many times throughout your life.

thats life.
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yeah i totaly agree, me and my best freid fell out over this stupid thing...i wont go in to detail...she told all my other freids that i was calling her a b**** and a slut, when i dont call anyone that. she said that i was selfish, spoiled and alot more. i hated her and i was secretly helding back tears. soon all the aldults got involved and she came up to me and aid lets just forget what happend! i was in total shock because it was like i was the one being mean! but im not a mean person. i didnt no what to say because everyone in my school was watching. i was embarrased.. and i didnt want anyone to think that i was not making up with her because i wanted attention so i said ok... just last week my other freind went arround my clique and asked everyone how there best freind was (indevidualy) the girl i fell out with said i was her best freind, but i didnt no what to say so i said i didnt have a best freind... when i do... i guess im just a people pleaser and she has a really bad memory because she has completely forgotain what had happend the day. she also likes the same boy i like, she dosnt know i like him though. GGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRR...she annoys me!
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I know excatly how you are feeling! My best friend is a total spoilt brat who loves to make eveyone else feel like crap because apprently she's so "posh" and has "expensie" taste! she's an ignorant, spoilt, narrowminded idiot! sooo glad this is my last year with her. I would actually love to loose contatc with her. she is a bad influence in my life. I dont need someone to put me down and depress me eveyday! Thanks to her, my other friends, whom I love actually is starting to hate me. she is a two faced bitch!
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Eurgh, this is exactly how I feel! One of my closest friends is someone who I used to love so much. I'd text her 24/7 and we'd be round each others houses all the time, to the extent where I started calling her nan MY nan because I'd gotten so close to her family! At the time, I was going through the worst possible thing - I had lost a family member - and this friend of mine had lots of great advice and showed that she really cared for me. At that time, our friendship was amazing! But then, once I'd started recovering, she'd seemed to have changed.
She cared what I had to say before, but if I ever wanted to talk about something that had anything to do with me, she'd immediately change the subject to herself! She's always complains about her life, suffering from 'depression' and 'insomnia' and 'anoxeria', even though the bitch is FATTER THAN ME! And, even though I do care for her health, I don't want to discuss this depressing crap all the time. Sometimes I find it hard on certain days, and I need someone to talk to, but she made me realise its not her.
She also has become a lot more stuck-up and arrogant. We do completely different subjects, but she feels the need to snub mine saying they're crap, where hers are 'good'. She likes to make out she's super intelligent but I'm certain that every grade I ever got was higher than hers, so why does she feel the need to be that cocky when there is no reason for it?
She also comes from a family that doesn't have much money at all - you could technically class her as poor - yet she has no problem in insisting that her parents get her super expensive phones and loads of clothes. I just don't get it. She wont get a job because she says it'll affect her education but, I'm sorry, she's STUPID.
I just can't stand her narcissistic attitude towards everything, and her cockiness and self-indulgence. She doesn't even try to talk to me sometimes, I have to make conversation, it just annoys me that when she needed me, I was there, when I needed her, she was there, but now that we're both fine, and she suddenly realises that she doesn't need me, she decides she doesn't want me either.
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my best friend thinks shes all that and when i have new bffs she tryies 2 fit her way in and i get mad at her and then she tries 2 talk 2 me and tries 2 get me 2 talk back 2 her and im sick of it sometimes im her best fake friend bcuz shes a bithck and im not proud 2 have her as a bss
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So the same is happening with me right now. So I go to this catholic high school and she goes to a public high school. So I don't see her that often but she clings to me like I'm her mother. (We live a block away from each other.) I met her in kindergarten and have been good friends with her up until eighth grade. She was super spoiled so she had a nanny and the nanny was going through a rough divorce. So she would have a lot of phone calls from her friends to cheer her up an stuff. And my friend was always swearing at her and saying rude stuff to her. And then she would complain to me how much the nanny swears and her little bro was picking up on it. I was so mad because her nanny was the only one disciplining her and I had never heard the nanny swear in my life. She also encouraged her little brother to swear and be really perverted. And she would always use having her period as an excuse to be bitchy to everyone. She got the iPhone when she was ten. Has the iPad 1,2,3,4 two iPods a few beats and yells at her dad whenever he touches her stuff. She is always like yeah I'm a cool chick that plays guitar when all she does is yell at the instructor and pick out songs because she is never prepared. And she doesn't care about her school work at all. And she is always like "I am super pretty and am so skinny and beautiful." When she is really really ugly. She also thinks she starts every single style. she also is super judgmental to my friends because my friends are actually nice normal people. And she wiped out her moms work phone of all her work stuff and everything, and got one of her iPods taken away for the rest of the week. She has a 50 in tv in her room and NEVER uses it. I'm really worried that she will do awful in life. And she lies all the time. And her little brother looks up to her and has a iphone an iPad iPod tv and a bunch of other stuff and just turned five.
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MY FRIENDSHIP ALL OVER.

I have been friends with her, don't bother to call her my best friend anymore as she hasn't been for about 9 years, on and off. On and off for a reason. I'm not saying she's the devil or she's evil because she does have a nice side and she has been there for me sometimes but being honest I feel like she's poison.

I guess I have this golden image of what a best friend should be like and I've never really had that. There have been times in my life where I thought I had it until they stomped all over me. They either chose another friend over me who was bitchy and mean, one of them went out with my long term boyfriend as we had just broken up for a month and this one well she drains me. I feel like if we were in a comic I would be the sidekick and she would be the superhero.

I could be wrong but I feel like she's a compulsive liar, sometimes it's just IN.YOUR.FACE.LYING. She always has to have her dramatic moment. Her stomach would hurt and she would make assumptions on cancer just to get attention. She would always out do my bad day and most of the time I wouldn't believe that she had that BAD of a day. She would plan days out and they sounded perfect and great but when the day eventually came they were either A) Nothing like she described or B) She would cancel on me or better yet she would make excuses up so I would have to travel to her and let me say I have been to hers a hell of a lot more than she has mine. I can count the amount of times she has been to mine in 9 years. I'm always running after her. When she's upset and needs me I'm on the first bus to hers. When I'm upset and I need her she says "but I'm seeing you tomorrow" or she makes excuses that she can't come time after time.

There is a lot more to this story but I feel like I've wrote too much. However it's got to the point where I can't stand her. I want her out of my life but she won't get the idea. I must admit I am taking the cowards way out because if I spoke up to her about how I felt and why she would turn it on me. She did the last time I spoke up about her pissing me off. She just won't get the idea though. I haven't seen her in other a month and I only text her when she texts me which is every Saturday. She just texted me before and a big part of me just wants to delete the message like she never sent it and just get on with my day. Why? Last week she texted and I gave her another chance so I invited her over mine and she wanted to sleep and she made plans such as "what games should I bring over?" etc.. but what happens? she makes up some excuse that she's ill to come over and asks me to go over hers instead. On fb she was happily playing her game for hours. I knew she was lying out of her teeth because the next day is a day only when you have to get two buses from my place and hers. She doesn't like that as that was one of the reasons she didn't come over last time.
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I know hw u feel. I hav a friend who iz supposed 2 b my best friend and she is always talking about hw shes a model, nd hw she is workin on bein a celebrity nd s**t. Yh im happi 4 her bt wot getz 2 me iz the fact dat she dosnt pay ne attention 2 me. i fink dat ur frnd aint payin u da attention u deserve-bt datz jus my opinion. Bt dnt wori, at da end she will realsie dat life isn't all fantasy!!
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Yes, you are jealous; jealous because she will have what you can't. She has things handed to her. Let her live. Find a less spoiled friend that doesn't have more than you.
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You are the exact kind of person I talk about on here! You are a fake! You are not a friend and ought to be honest for one time in your life! Tell her you can't stand her!
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eeeerrrr i hate her so much i mean i cant a bag gust becouse her mom is geting one just like that for her and i liked it first thats why im going to get it tomorrow befor her and that should shut her up and very month she gets a laptop or a new disgner bag i mean she achely was showing off how her dad id the n1. seller of some thing in the uk o yeah by the way im from the uk its not my folt my dad dosen have a job as secsesful as her dad.bitch.
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I totally understand. I hate my best friend too.
I've known her for a really long time. At first I actually didn't really want to be friends with her (good idea!) but I was kinda forced to because I didn't have any friends since I was new. She is annoying, is friends with a girl that hates me, is disgusting (greasy hair, dirt under her nails, doesn't wash her hands after going to the bathroom), isn't interested in the same things I am, is very competitive and I think kind of jealous of me cause I get good grades and never get in trouble. Sometimes I just want to tell her I hate her but I can't cause then my other friends would think I'm crazy and stuff. And my other best friend is awesome but she has tons of friends so I can't be with her all the time so I can't get rid of the annoying one. OMG I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I hate my best friend too! Everytime I do something,she goes ahead and joins it to make sure I lose when I'm really good. She always brags about how good she is and how much medals she won. She turns my friends against me and tells lies to make them really hate me! I don't know who she is anymore and she's just a b*tch!
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I joined this new school and this girl sorta became my best friend. At first she was lovely but now she's just fricking annoying! She's always negative, a closed book really. She's really judgeful and doesn't think about how her words will affect ME. She always talks about how she hates things I like and she starts crying and getting in a strop and the tiniest thing. She overreacts all the time and constantly feels sorry for herself. She's really weird and cocky, so I tried to hang out with some other people. So I made friends with this group of really nice girls and then my 'bff' gets jealous and bullys them then feels sorry for herself and cries to get attention. I'm sick and tired of her. She also hates the idea of love so whenever I get a boyfriend she messes it up. GRRR.
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oh my god.. i do too! i literally just binged this cause she was talking to me! she LIES TO EVERYONE. she is FAKE! and a bxtch! god.. she had her phone taken away for a week and i have to say.. BEST WEEK OF MY LIFE. i HATE talking to her! but.. the thing is. i would completely ignore her.. and stop being her friend.. but she would ruin my life! she does that all the time! and she's obsessed with my actual best friends.. she talks to them ALL THE TIME.. she practically stalks me.. and she says mean shxt to me all the time! UGH I HATE HER. .. this is going to sound terrible.. but she's on probation for vandilizing her ex's car.. and so she steals from this grocery store ALL THE TIME.. and she's gotten caught atlest 8 times.. and my friends mom works there.. and she says the next time she comes.. shes calling the police.. and then she'll be sent off to juvi.. umm.. i just want to tell her to go there so i never have to see her again!!
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YES I WOULD SAY ITS TOTALLY NORMAL. I have to agree with everyone else's experience about hating their best friend. My so called best friend is everything what you people said about your best friends. I've been best friends to this bitch for five years, but I've been friends with her since I was 6. I am 18 now. She has always been a stuck up, little bitch to me throughout our friendship. She makes a whole fucking tantrum for everything. She acts like a fucking princess when she gets a paper cut. Come the fuck on bitch, it doesn't even fucking hurt that bad. Put on a fucking band aid and stop whining. She is also very greedy and selfish. Every time we hang out, it's about her boyfriend not talking to her ALSO BECAUSE SHES A BITCH TO HIM. When it's my turn to talk, she always interrupts me and says something irrelevant. Also when I'm telling a good story that happened to me and when I'm at the peak of telling her the funny part, she gets a text from a friend and starts texting them. It's fucking rude as hell. Most of the time I continue telling the story when she's texting her friend, and I ask her, "Are you listening?" and she's nodding her head yes and laughing... so I think she's laughing at my funny story. Then she looks up from her phone and says, "Wait what? I wasn't listening." SERIOUSLY SHE PISSES ME OFF. Everytime I talk, it seems that she always turns the conversation back to her. It's always about her, her, her. When I give her advice when she's sad with her boyfriend, she never listens and the cycle goes on until they broke up. She also lost her virginity to this dumb loser because she wanted to please him. They went out for a few months and never even knew his real age. The guy constantly lied about his age and she believed him. She believed everything he said and not me when I told her that he's not a good guy for her.
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@: Numnums
After knowing this guy, she was all of sudden into the party scene- drinking, drugs, slutty, trying hard to be popular, and outgoing. She is such a slut and she tries really hard to impress guys. She thinks she's hot shit everytime we go out. You're not that pretty as you think you are, conceited whore. Guys only like you because you're slutty! When guys says nasty things to her, she pretends to get mad at them and cusses them out. Wow, really? What did you expect for wearing a tank top that exposes pretty much your whole body and little mini shorts. She used to manipulate me and guilt trip me every time we had an argument. Now, I am much more mature than before - I don't deal with that kind of shit anymore. She respects me more, but she still doesn't appreciate the shit I do for her. I've been nothing but nice to her. She takes and barely gives back, that's how she is. I remember I wasted a whole summer going to summer school with her when I didn't need it. She didn't pass her Alg2 class, and I did. She made me go because she didn't want to be "alone". Selfish bitch right?? She also thinks people are always copying her style or some shit. She got this floral shirt and I got something similar and she said I was trying to copy her... Um no I am not, the floral trend was in and like every store had floral shirts... The clothes were not just made for you bitch, anyone can wear it. No one is copying you. I also hate that she says she hates people who lies and she lies constantly.
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@: Numnums
She usually talks crap behind her other friend's back and acts like the best friend ever in their face. It pisses me off because she also says really snobby comments about me and her friends laugh. When we're together sometimes, we have lots of fun, but mostly when we hang out, she talks mainly about herself. She never asks about me. When I do talk, she changes the subject back to her. I have never done so many good things for a person in my life, but her. She took me for granted. So today, we are officially not best friends anymore. I'm sick of her shit. I'm sick of her putting her drunk friends in front of me. I'm tired of being ignored all the time. I tried to ignore her once, but her ass came running back to me because she had problems with her boyfriend. I forgave her and let her in again and now she wants to be with her drunk friends more. When she hits rock bottom, I know her ass will be running back to me again. Fuck you bitch.


Sorry, my rant was a little too long. Also sorry if this is confusing, I go back on forth on talking about her and talking to her. I really hate my "best friend". I secretly dream of me beating her ass up sometimes.
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I'm having the same problem with my "best friend". She moved here a year and a half ago and we instantly had a connection, but lately, she's been so concerned with the publics few of her: she has to date all the right people, and tease all the right people(including me), and she just is trying so hard to fit in that she doesn't realise what she's doing to her real friends, like me. Just last night she dumped her boy friend, a super sweet, adorable guy, because she's been trying to get into the Senior Hero's pants and he is finally letting her even though he has a girlfriend who would lasso the moon for him. She doesn't care if what she does hurts others and she always complaining about how mean and awful her mom is just because she could go out Saturday night because of church the next morning. Heaven forbid you skip out on banging the next door neighbor just so you can go to church!
In any case, I'm pretty sure hating your best friend is actually normal. Everybody grows apart and eventually, no matter how good of friends you were, you're going to move on from each other. This posting has actually helped a lot with my own problem, so thanks!
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i think i have this prob too like i dont hate her but she just bugs me soo much. i have a best best friend that ive known since grade 3 but shes not the prob the prob is my best friend that i met in grade 7. i feel bad for her sometimes and i deal with her and shes told me she has self-esteem problems ive confronted her sort of bout this before but she doesnt get it. i feel like she just always wants attention from everybody its gotten to the point where i just feel like everyobdy cares bout her and im just standing there like its pissing me off. i have self esteem isssues too but i dont go around complaining every minute of the day bout how i look. everyone babies her and tells her omg ur so pretty what r u talking bout and i always tell them not too cuz its not helping her shes not gunna be independent and confident if they keep doing that. she always keep saying the same thing anyways! shes told me before how im confident and know who i am or something but trust me she does know who she is and im really not that confident i just act and try to be so that i can get through life and i deal with it myself i dont try to make pple feel bad for me. Example she came to my bday party the other day and she just went and took pics and shes like omg i actually look good in this pic and she kept asking questions like omg do i look good? and of course a few of the my other friends completely ignored me for the night and payed attention to her telling her how gorg she was. and theres soo much more but i dont feel like typing it all i just dont know what to do anymore it didnt used to really affect me because i felt bad for her all the time but now i just feel even worse about myself becuz of her she doesnt realize it. im really mad cuz i was getting a grip over myself and starting to build my confidence, but its like im back to square one kind of.
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@: Din341
:( so sorry that that happened to u 2
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Yeah, I feel like that too! D:
It's friggin hard, 'cause I love her and hate her at the same time.
She acts like she is more mature than me just because she lived in USA for a few years (we are both from Mexico) and I dont want to show off or something, but I have traveled a lot and I know the real world too.
Anyway, she got mad at me for some stupid argument and now she doesnt want to talk to me anymore, and the thing is... I dont want to lose her friendship either.
Sometimes I just want to forget about her, but we've been friends for 10 years!
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Same here! She drives me nuts... sometimes she's okay but most the time she talks about her and her "terrible" life at home. I do soo much for her, and she confronted me last year about how I wasn't giving enough. Bitch please! She gave me nothing. Todays my birthday, and she treated me like every other day, talked about herself, ignored me for a bit, and barely acknowledged my bday. My friends gave me presents, and she barely gave me a happy birthday. She actually kinda forgot... but someone said it right in front of her yesterday. She doesn't appreciate the gifts I give her. She insults me and asks me for stuff but when I say something jokingly its rude and bitchy. She lies to me allll the time. I can't talk to her about anything because she just starts talking about herself all the time. If I hang out with another friend, she gets mad. But, she never even asks if I want to do something. I'm NOTTT JEALOUS. I jut needed to vent.
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I think I hate my best friend too. She's always complaining about everything. Her family, herself, her other friends. She's a big spoiled brat, too. she uses 'anger issues' to get money out of her parents. To her going somewhere with only $50 is like being broke when I usually have about $15 AND she always overspends and needs to borrow from me. She's gotten $20 from her dad because he ate her popsicle once. She's a brat and everyone else but me thinks she's amazing and so talented at everything. I'm not jealous, I'm just sick of her.
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I actually started to hate my best Friend too. At first she used to be really awesome almost the same person as me and I loved her. But this year she got a boyfriend who is like really popular but a bad influence on everybody well she broke up with him because she had. Feelings for someone else?! Who does that well I was actually happy they broke up cuz he was changing her. Anyways now she goes out a lot (that's not a problem but what she does) and flirts with everybody including guys who are way older than her! She knows that I hate people who do that. Plus I had this best friend before her and she was a slut and the friend I'm talking about right now judged her for that so I stopped being friends with the other one and this one is turning worse than her. Now when she talks to me all she says is "omg guess who I'm talking with?!" And its always a diffrent guy well anyways ive told her I'm sick of her attitude and she agrees she changed but yet doesn't change back to the old her-.- I don't know as if to "dump" her or stay friends with her because in my school almost every girl is either a slut/bitch/or two faced. And school is going to start again soon but honestly I don't wanna see her.

Ik I wrote a lot and there's more to it but its just I'm really angry and have developed a lot of hate towards her.
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I hate my 'best friend' too.
We used to be really close but I feel like I grew up and she stayed completely immature. I've known her for 10 years but now every time I look at her I just feel really angry. You know when someone's face just really annoys you?

She's pathetic and attention seeking to the extreme. She calls herself an introvert but shes the biggest extrovert I've ever met! She thinks she knows everything and its got to the point where I enjoy correcting her on everything in order to shut her up. She glares at me for it. For example she chose cooking at A-level whereas I didn't and now she thinks shes an expert - hun your cakes are flatter than a Frisbee. UGH. She thinks she so smart. NO YOUR NOT. Oh and she obsesses over things to the point where it becomes unhealthy. Its a new actor every week and she has hundreds of photos of them in organised folders. She also likes spending hours in toy shops such as disney and smyths when we go out together. Like wtf I went to shop not act like a 3 year old.
And every so often I might bring up a new show that I like or talk about a funny interview I saw. She said to me 'Oh my God your so fickle - it's a new show every day.'. I rarely even watch TV! I only really watch 4 programmes. Stupid cow.
Oh and the latest is she likes to bring up her new found lesbianism (is this even a word?). She brings it up all the time. I have nothing against lesbians but does she need to remind me about it all the time? LOVELY IM PLEASED FOR YOU. But seriously, I don't care.

Anyways, this question was done years ago but I needed a rant. anyways.
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I do think i am starting to hate my best friend. We where always me(lets me call her Gerry) and my other friend (tina) So i'm extremly close with tina i love her to death but with Gerry it's complicated. We've all been friends for years and always close and that's the reason i stay friends with her cause Tina and her are really close as well and i dont want to stop being friends with Tina. But gerry is so ... i can't talk about boys when she's there cause she gets all jealous and when i talk about my problems she's always telling me my life is perfect and i can't have problems. She is so wrong, i just am not always upset like her. She always tries to leave me out of things, and than makes me feel bad about leaving her. For example she didn't want to go to a psrty my crush was going too and when i said i',m going she kept telling me how depressed she is that i always go to partis without her so me and Tina went to her house instea dto cheer her up and i missed the party and i didn't mind expect she know ends up always doing it, and Tina always says lets go comfort Gerry and now i'm like wtf? It's always poor Gerry she doesn't want to go out so lets go over to her house. And when i make new friends shes mean to them and she likes being alone and i don't example at school i like going to the cafeteria and staying with guys and girls and having fun she always want to go places where there are no people. I think we are too different
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But I've come to realise that the friends I have are amazing and I don't need people like her, because my life is stable now and I'm happy again - and I can do it without her.
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I know right! How can your friend call you her/his bestfriend and treat you like shit! WHAT A SHITT FRIEND THAT PERSON IS! RIGHT? ugh. i hate my best friend yet i love her too. i'd be devasted if i lost her, but it's just not working. she has got to go. or if not go, she needs to stop callig me her bff! cuz i dont feel the same way! i need to tell her how i feel cuz i dont think she knows whats going on in my head. only thing is, im afraid to lose her, cuz she is my only friend, and im her only friend. im the one always trying to get conversation going and she just is ugh... im getting tired of it. i do want to however save this relationship but i see no change in her. ive alrdy told her how i felt of her TWICE and cried my little eyes out. but i cant do this no more. she's a crappy friend. i quit. i want to quit but i know i have hope she'll change. or is it what i want to think to happen? idk until i confront her about my feelings of her a THIRD time. well you know what they say, third times a charm! right? pft... right.... sigh. id even ask her if she has anything she wants to complain of me. she says no. what a lie. or does she really not? ugh. all i know is tat she makes me sad and i still feel lonely when im with her. who the fuck is quiet with their bff or only friend? its like she doesnt even try. i see how she is with her cousins. yap yap yappin her trap and loling all together. makes me feel like the odd one out. why isnt she like that with me? i gave effort. she didnt. im getting tired of it. if we're bffs or that close. wouldnt we be comfortable enough to just fart in front of echother now? lolol. maybe its my fault. i know it is partly my fault too but i see it as more of her fault. i do have trouble being myself. i keep being nice. am i the bad friend then? sigh. i should just tell her how i feel and be honest with her. thats just it, im scared ill lose her if i am honest. or maybe tatll strenten our friendship if i just be mean to her like how i want to be. cuz if she really does care then she'll try to fix it. tats just it, idk if shes the kind of person who just throws away someone who doesnt fit her. i dont enjoy her company. shes so quiet and acts like she doesnt wanna be my friend but is just using me for company but i know thats not true but its starting to feel like it...sigh. plz stop calling me ur bff. u know nothing about me and i know nothing about u. im so mad at her. sigh. what to do. i alrdy know, but i need to comlain of this. lol cuz u all r too. so why cant i? :P i notice im frowning a lot too when im with her just hanging out. sigh i need to just end this unhealthy relationship. its nothing but sadness. maybe we both deserve to not have any friends rather than pretend to be friends with eachother. she's so irritating! i hate her. wtf is compatability? is it that we're just not compatable? shrug
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My best friend is also my roommate in college. We may have only know each other for about 6 months but we became so close. Our other friends are nothing like we are. They smoke and do some drugs. They have managed to peer pressure into her smoking pot. Which is why I am alone in my dorm on a Friday night. I have also taken her to my home which is two hours away from college. She never said thank you or has offered for me to come home with her. My family is very poor and hers is very rich. I'm tired if hearing her whine about how her mom never gives her money when i go to classes and then go to work all day. She also eats all the food I buy without asking. She will get mad with me for no reason at all. I'm thinking about telling her I'm not rooming with her next year.
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My best friend is terrible. We used to live together. I moved out a few months ago. I helped her when her boyfriend broke up with her, because I hated it that she was all sad. She told me she didn't like him anyways, because he was a pothead. So then I went through a super hard time and I cried and what not, but she simply told me that I should stop crying so loud because she couldn't hear the song playing on Pandora. Really? I honestly think I was mentally abused or something. She would tell me to stop doing something cause I was stupid and all stuff like that. I didn't understand it. She would call me out everywhere and I don't think half of the people in town would have known my business if she would have least said something about it in the car, but no. She had to say it in front of everyone?!? WTF? We had our problems, I moved out, and she got a boyfriend. I have never ever liked him. He isn't a good person. She disliked her other bf cause he was a pothead and this guy does pills & smokes pot. (That I know of) She told me to be nice to him, so I simply stopped hanging out with her. I hung out with my other friend, I've been visiting her at work all the time. Me and her are so alike. We never get tired of each other, literally. We do the same things and she listens. Now my "best" friend is all upset because she is losing me over my other friend. No, you lost me when you decided to be a bad friend, I'm sorry. In order for me to be nice to her bf, I have to stay away from him because, well, let me give you an example. I was in the same place with both of them tonight and I was there for 10 minutes and hadn't said a word to him. He called me a dumb bitch. My "BFF" did nothing. So I left. I saw her at the store after that, and she didn't say a word to me. Yes, I love you and all, but you're kinda a bitch. I can't hang out with you and you're BF because we do not like each other. She doesn't tell him to try with me. Why should I have to be the only one being told what to do? I would hang out with you, but your with him 24/7. Oh, and I think what really makes me angry is that after they had been together for 4 days, 4 DAYS, she texted me and told me she knew about my plan to break her and him up and that she was probably never ever going to talk to me again. There was no plan. I have no idea where that came from. Were best friends, shouldn't you ask me before you explode??? She is terrible. She won't even say 2 words in front of him unless it's to him. Sorry it's so long.. I was just venting!
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You're a shitty shit piece of shit friend.. Don't be so two-faced. If she saw this post you would definitely be down a friend because I know if I saw one of my friends post something as fucked up as this they would definitely not be considered a "friend" after that. You sound like a bigger brat than you make her out to be. If she's such a bad person don't waste time on her, simple.
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To all of you who say you hate your best friend. Than how are they your best friend? And for those who called them two faced. What were you being when you wrote that? I came on here trying to see if it is normal for best friends to get mad at each other. Not hating each other. I love my best friend. We have our ups and downs but she's my best. Friend.
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I hate my former best friend so much hes a fucking dick ive known him since 3rd grade and he always has to beat me.
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