okay this is kinda the same problem .. i have been with my bf over a year now, its my first serious relationship and the 1st 6 months months were the best... but after that we fought every single day. when we would fight he would call and apologise even if it was his fault because he seemed so clingy but now im the obsessed one, i do something wrong he gets totally angry and ignores me for ages, even though it was something small, i wud ring he wud turn his phone off, i get really upset that he doesn't want to see me all the time and i do ... at this minute i decided we need a break.. i just said it to see would he care and he just never txted back so i assume thats what he wants .. or does he want to break up ?? is it normal im this obsessed or are most girls the same ??
if u asked to go on a break and he didnt text back either its because he does want that or because he just expects you to back down and change your mind first...its clear he thinks he has the control in your relationship. Sounds like it would be better if you took a break and made an effort not to contact him at all and really try to keep yourself busy and happy without him. He will end up realising what he is missing and, hopefully, make the effort to talk to you so you can explain what is making you unhappy and make an effort to help fix the problem. I had the same problem in my first relationship and when you let the other person have all the control they take you for granted and aren't there for you like they should be. being obsessed with your partner is generally down to a lack of love and affection on their behalf, which was usually there to begin with, making you needy and obsessed with trying to get back that feeling u had at the beginning of the realtionship.
wow, this sounds like me! i think i am obessed with my boyfriend and i have been struggling with how to handle it,i've been with my bf for over 2 years. when we started off, he was the obssessed one, calling me 2-3 times a day, would want to see me everyday,he would talk about marriage and ask if i would want to marry him,he'd tell me how we can afford to live in a big house and have 3 kids.. needless to say, he told me everything a woman my age would want to hear, not to mention that he is adorable, very sensitive,a good listener, a good communicator etc.. so before i knew it i feel in love with him, but then he started getting distant and i was the obssessed one. Now,for me i think im obssessed with him because i think about him literaly all the time, ALL day at work, at home, when im out with friends all the time, im constantly thinking about how tomake him happy. he even told me once he thinks i love him more than i love myself. I cater to his every need but i also knew how to give him space,i only called him about 4-5 times a week, i never ask him where he was, he goes out with his friends and give him his own space because lots of books out there said space is good in relationship. But, he used that space to make time for another woman who he cheated on me with, i was hurt broken, i wanted to leave but i love him somuch i couldnt so i forgave him. ever since then, i became not only obssessed but insecure as well, not being able to tell between right or wrong, at times i felt deatah would be a sweet relief from the pain i felt from the betrayal and from feeling trapped by the love i have for him. i cried almost everyday even tho he said he loves me. so now he is taking me for granted again because he KNOWS i love him and he has always been in control, he tells me not to call him if he is busy,forget seeing him, but i always make time for him no matter how busy i am, i think the only time i will not make time to call him was if i were in a battle zone in a war with bullets chasing me, but he says he tried everything to make me happy, i guess maybe to him this is his best of how to show me love. ijust have to accept it. so, i think obssession is a product of lack of attention from the other side. When you dont obssess and u ignore them, if they love u they will try hard to get ur attention, right now we are making it to easy for them by giving them attention ALL the time, they dont have to do any work for it, so they wont appreciate it, they wont feel the need to do anything back for u because they are comfortable. but please dont suffocate the person, if they ask for space give it to them, calling them constantly will make them get further away from u, give them time to actually miss u and contact you. I know how you feel, but if you are christain, pray every morning on it
i know exactly what you all mean. it sux and its like nothing will change. we girls care and worry way to much. When they go out with their friends or when your not with them we think they might get hurt or die or jail or sumthing. it sux caring way to much about the love of my life. In a way its kinda obsessing but its overcaring.
Sounds like it would be better if you took a break and made an effort not to contact him at all and really try to keep yourself busy and happy without him. He will end up realising what he is missing and, hopefully, make the effort to talk to you so you can explain what is making you unhappy and make an effort to help fix the problem. I had the same problem in my first relationship and when you let the other person have all the control they take you for granted and aren't there for you like they should be.
being obsessed with your partner is generally down to a lack of love and affection on their behalf, which was usually there to begin with, making you needy and obsessed with trying to get back that feeling u had at the beginning of the realtionship.
it sux and its like nothing will change.
we girls care and worry way to much.
When they go out with their friends or when your not with them we think they might get hurt or die or jail or sumthing.
it sux caring way to much about the love of my life.
In a way its kinda obsessing but its overcaring.