Hey Ladies, I have currently the same but have been improving. I have been with my man for coming up 6 years. Our relationship started young with him spending considerable amount of time chasing me and him merely being obsessed with me but the tables shifted as time went on (2 years later) and i became more attached to him and staying at his house every night. i would call him over and over getting considerably worried when he wouldnt answer ( usually knowing he has been out night before and was sleeping off a hang over). I sat down and took a hard look at myself when spending a night without him was possibly the worst thing i had ever been put through. He is a bit of a dick and takes advantage of me being at his beck and call but i can see he loves me and does do things for me but as i was doing pretty much everything for him there was no chance for him to show any kind of affection or love etc as i was already doing it. I decided to get a hobby - riding a bike. takes you out in fresh air and you get away. its your time and your time only. I realised couple days ago that i rang him twice and he didnt pick up and i left it. didnt keep trying. He rang me back but i didnt actually hear it and when i looked at my phone i had 4 missed calls from. i actually got a little worried as this was out of his behaviour and figured something was wrong. when he picked up he had become worrried when i didnt pick up my phone and kept calling and become anxious. i actually chuckled a little as i figured out WOW - becuase i didnt lunge for my phone or hear it in this case he became worried. i realised ok so step back. make him chase me a little. i have been and he has been making more effort to call me. im a nurse and before late shifts i use to call him whilst he was at work and just have a quick chat. i didnt do that one day and he tried calling me (i dont have my phone on me at work)he got worried but figured i was working and then asked why when i got home from work. he likes talkin to me when im on lates. i had done something out of ordinary - i had done something that he may have done if i hadnt alwasy done it. he actually got a little worried yesterday that i was beginning to realise i didnt wanna be with him. i said no, i wanna be with you, i just wanna have my life and not live it through you. this confused him but i sat down and just said i was obsessed and now i am backing away a little. i love him very much but now i breath my own air and not his, our relationship is so much better. we have fun and enjoy life together and also when we have our own time. :-)
I have currently the same but have been improving. I have been with my man for coming up 6 years. Our relationship started young with him spending considerable amount of time chasing me and him merely being obsessed with me but the tables shifted as time went on (2 years later) and i became more attached to him and staying at his house every night. i would call him over and over getting considerably worried when he wouldnt answer ( usually knowing he has been out night before and was sleeping off a hang over). I sat down and took a hard look at myself when spending a night without him was possibly the worst thing i had ever been put through. He is a bit of a dick and takes advantage of me being at his beck and call but i can see he loves me and does do things for me but as i was doing pretty much everything for him there was no chance for him to show any kind of affection or love etc as i was already doing it. I decided to get a hobby - riding a bike. takes you out in fresh air and you get away. its your time and your time only. I realised couple days ago that i rang him twice and he didnt pick up and i left it. didnt keep trying. He rang me back but i didnt actually hear it and when i looked at my phone i had 4 missed calls from. i actually got a little worried as this was out of his behaviour and figured something was wrong. when he picked up he had become worrried when i didnt pick up my phone and kept calling and become anxious. i actually chuckled a little as i figured out WOW - becuase i didnt lunge for my phone or hear it in this case he became worried. i realised ok so step back. make him chase me a little. i have been and he has been making more effort to call me. im a nurse and before late shifts i use to call him whilst he was at work and just have a quick chat. i didnt do that one day and he tried calling me (i dont have my phone on me at work)he got worried but figured i was working and then asked why when i got home from work. he likes talkin to me when im on lates. i had done something out of ordinary - i had done something that he may have done if i hadnt alwasy done it. he actually got a little worried yesterday that i was beginning to realise i didnt wanna be with him. i said no, i wanna be with you, i just wanna have my life and not live it through you. this confused him but i sat down and just said i was obsessed and now i am backing away a little. i love him very much but now i breath my own air and not his, our relationship is so much better. we have fun and enjoy life together and also when we have our own time. :-)