I've never been kissed or drank am I a loser? http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/ Noo, you are most likely better off than most of teens who would class thselves as cool because they drink and have sex etc. If I could change anything I would probably want to put myself in your shoes because although kissing may not seem a grea deal, its nice to do it with someone you care about, same with sex, I wish I waited with my virginity. I have never been drunk either, why should young people rely on a liver and brain damaging substance to have a good time' They are the losers if alchol is the only way to have fun. Are you happy' If you are then that is all that matters, in 10 years time when you have your perfect hubbie and life, they would be the ones waiting for liver transplants, so whoede better off in the long term run'' Its sooo you http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-302857 2009-07-30 17:14:41 the problem isn't that i haven't found anyone i would like-it's that i run away when i do-and can barely look at them =/ it's been happening forever-all throughout high school-tons of guys wanted to talk to me but whenever i noticed they had any interest in me i would avoid them. and now none of them I talk to anymore b/c I never became friends with them (only on facebook) and they went to different schools. I'm about to start my sophomore year and feel like such a loser. I don't even know how to put on makeup =( The makeup isle at target was horrible-I was so confused. I think things get worse as i write about it. Whatever. I'm just gonna go about my life avoiding ppl-it's worked so far. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-301480 2009-07-22 19:33:53 no I don't like girls-I considered that- I'm just shy an have no foundation to grow upon-or support. Most my friends have gone to separate colleges and now I avoid the opposite sex-i sonetimes wish I could just walk around all the time with a bag over my head and baggy clothes so i can be myself and no one would thing anything. No one would bother me . . .and i'll feel more confident going up to ppl. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-300454 2009-07-16 13:46:52 From 400 persons in your band you can't find somebody you would like ' You can always try to draw or imagine the perfect guy. There are a lot of people in the world and you are only 19 years old, the ways of god are incalculable. Another problem could be that you simply like girls or guys who are different (shy) ... http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-300030 2009-07-13 13:24:48 try online dating. but be honest or the sitiuation might get worse http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-299571 2009-07-10 08:23:02 I'm sorry that i gave you the impression that not partying makes you a loser, that wasn't my intention.maybe if i give you a little background you will understand better. My experience is parallel to yours and i am now 23 and in a great relationship with a guy for the past 3 years. I am really shy and also a person that is considered very attractive so the combination of the two led to a miserable existence in my teen years. I have the same hobbies as you do and i'm in my last year in college. Also i had my first kiss at 21 and i still don't drink, i now have a quality circle of friends. My point is that you need to realise that your attributes are what makes you you and quite frankly to me you sound great. Confidence is what you lack but lucky for you confidence is easy to gain. Try make up convos in your head and thnk of what you would say and what you think the other person's response would be. Think about the response objectively and you would realise that your fears are irrational and that they are all what you think and not what others think. I know this is difficult just take it one step at a time. Just remeber great girls like you are rare these days so who you choose to be with is your choice no one else's take your time and be selective because at the end of the day only you know whats best for you, not your friends. Hope i helped;) http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-299384 2009-07-09 10:20:51 I enjoy soccer, running and I do marching band (huge 400 person band). I play the drumset and trumpet. I like writing and plan on becoming a novelist/writer etc. I have plenty of opportunities but I always screw them up by being awkward and not knowing what to say. (being naive). Most of my friends don't know where I'm coming from A b/c in high school I generally hung out with the "not so populars" and B they think i can handle myself. I can't even talk to I guy at a party. I ook to them for help and they don't think I need any so don't help me. Some ppl laugh and think I'm joking when I saw i've never been kissed (that's when I get depressed). I evidently do not fit the role. Ther have been plenty of guys in high scool that really liked me and a couple of them not just b/c of looks and I blew it. Now, I'm in college and don't know what to do. But I also have problems having conversations so that adds to the fact. Thanks for telling me the right guy will come around. But that's only if I don't run away from him first. And basically you said that it's more fun to drink and go crazy and that yes I am a loser b/c I refrain from it. I don't have many friends to begin with so not having any real ones after partying wouldn't be a surprise. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-299249 2009-07-08 18:54:38 yeah- that's my problem-they flock to me- I don't know what to do so I just avoid them and/or leave. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-299247 2009-07-08 18:43:51 You're not a loser, things just happen at different times for different people. Believe it or not with all the loose slutty girls that are glorified by the media you are the pretty, in control of her destiny type of girls the guys will flock to, great guys not the hit and run losers out there. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-299010 2009-07-07 21:05:57 Listen, I've done the whole partying, drinking, blah blah, but I've found that after it all, sure it was a good time, but it's just a phase and true friends are hard to find. I used to be the man in high school, not to be coneceited either, but I had the girlfriend, broke up became the bacehlor throwing the best parties at my house, and had a huge top friends on myspace, because of course those were the people in my circle. Then I came to college, I tried to get that going again my first year but when I came back my second year I've felt so isolated, and I've become...well you. and I don't mean loser, i mean everything you've described, and i don't consider that being a loser. That's called maturity. Do you have any hobbies you enjoy' I've isolated myself on purpose and am working on a theory, finished an album, wrote a book, and am finishing up a movie script. I've done a lot with my time instead of wasting it bullshitting with people that are only in your life to use you because they're bored...i suggest going out and trying it, but trust me you're not missing too much/will get over that shit real quick. The best times in my life were with those people, so I can't compeltely say it was bad, just sad to know how much can change in just a year and what you "want" changes. Let me know if this helped kid and please cheer up, you're so priviliged. There's people that don't have food, water, shoes, in other countries, there's bums in the streets iwth no lives. like, just be happy you have your health, beauty, and youth. some guy will come along and make you feel worth the great amount you are worth. I swear, a good girl like you doesn't come along everyday and if you were at my University I would smother you with flowers, hugs, and love! lol not to sound over dramatic, but i just mean i wish there were more girls liek you because it's all turned into lust, that's what this world is now and it's sad. you can't find love, and it's all about status, being better than the next man what not. be happy, things will look up and when you're 21 hit the bars, you'll meet dudes but make sure they're down for your heart not just your pussy http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-298020 2009-07-02 18:08:51 those things are really fun thats like saying iv never had fun am i boring so yes http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-296062 2009-06-20 06:48:56 Thanks http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-294400 2009-06-09 16:56:26 Thanks. .. the disappointing thing is that I've had plenty of chances but am too shy when guys come and talk to me. I usually avoid them. It should've happened like when I was 15 but again too shy or trying to play "hard to get" and ended up getting nothing. Now, it's college and i should move on from my daydream/fantasies about "what ifs". It makes me sad. One guy i swear was in love with me (which i find hard to believe since he barely knew me). http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-294398 2009-06-09 16:55:52 I had my first kiss at 19, and I'm currently a 19-year-old college student as well. I respect you for not drinking at your age, but.. it's my personal choice not to drink until I'm of legal age. My advice is to chose whether or not drinking is something you want to do or not. But you are in no way a loser because you want guys to like you for who you are, and because you don't drink. I've met a lot of people who respect me for my choice not to, and for my choice not to jump into bed with the first guy who offers - both were a shock the first time, because they came from someone I never expected. Just, continue being yourself and you'll find someone you can share everything with. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-293203 2009-05-31 02:34:37 YOU ARE NOT A LOSER IM 20 I HAVE NEVER BEEN KISSED EITHER I HAVEN'T HAD A BF EITHER I AM PRETTY TOO NOT TO BE CONCEITED BUT I HAVEN'T FOUNF THAT GUY THAT STANDA OUT FROM ALL THE OTHERS AND AS FOR DRINKING I THINK ITS COOL IF YOU DON'T DRINK I ADMIT I HAVE TRIED SOME ALCOHOLIC DRINKS BUT IM NOT A FAN A LOT OF PEOPLE THAT WANT TO BE COOL LIKE DRINKING BUT I DON'T THINK IT IS BECAUSE WHEN YOU GET OLDER YOUR INSIDE WILL BE ALL DAMAGED GROSS!! YOU CAN BE COOL AND NOT DRINK OR SMOKE BUT BE HEALTHY!!! AS FOR DATING I THINK WE WILL FIND SOMEONE SOONER OR LATER (HOPE SOONER) BUT IT WILL COME FOR BOTH OF US!! :) http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-291053 2009-05-16 18:01:43 Yeah. Taking some risks at this point can be good or bad, but your age is the perfect time to experiment. I'm not saying to do anything TOO crazy, but live a little, at least. If you're looking for a good R-rated movie, I'd suggest Watchmen. :) As for the "never been kissed" thing, well, if you keep your eyes open, someday it will happen. Don't worry about it. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-289507 2009-05-03 09:57:06 my dear you will find some one so soon if not do not be sad you better be alone than being with some one who do not deserve you if not call me modey78@yahoo.com http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-286902 2009-04-11 20:10:58 I'm also 19 (a guy in this case) I've only been drunk once, and have only had one girlfriend. So I don't really have much more experience than you. I prefer girls like you, but they are hard to come by. You are NOT a loser, you seem like a great girl with morals, which most people around our age can't say. If you live in Colorado, maybe we should talk. ;-) haha http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-286879 2009-04-11 13:24:10 drinking is bad and i don't want to be bad =/ and plus I have no one to go out with. People think i'm a loser... I don't drink, I don't smoke, I've never been kissed, I don't drink cofee, I don't wear makeup, I don't talk about guys, I don't sex dance. Boring loser. . . http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-285700 2009-03-29 12:40:03 That's weird that your parents don't let you watch rated R movies.... you realize that PG-13 movies are for 13 year olds right'' If you're 19 you can do whatever the hell you want you don't have to listen to those overprotective idiots. Go out, have fun, get wasted and have a good time! That's what college life is for sweety you don't have real responsibilites yet so enjoy yourself! Meet friends in classes and hang out with them all the time, believe me, life is wayyyy better and more fun when you share it with other people. If you've never drank before, don't judge it. I have sooo much fun when I go out and drink with my friends, just don't overdo it to the point where you're puking, that means you went too far. For your first time I recommend you drink like 3 beers and see how you feel. If you like the feeling, go for more. And if you have never kissed a guy, I assume you're a virgin too, don't wory it's perfectly normal. You will find someone, don't try to hook up with random guys just because you feel like you're weird, wait for the right one and it'll be much better. I hope this advice helped, it may be a little different for you though because I'm only 15, but I wish you luck girl! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-285140 2009-03-24 14:51:02 haha! I am a girl, I dont know why he thought you were a lad. Dont worry about being a "looser" if you dont fancy it dont do it! Drinking is the worst thing, I swear if it was just found now alcohol would be a class A drug. It causes the most deaths out of all the drug family. My friend was 21 when she lost her virginity so dont worry about the kissing thing, you probably just havnt found anyone that deserves you yet. I would only caution you about taking risks, they can go wrong but sometimes they can go right! you only learn from mistakes so sometimes just think screw it and take a risk once in a while you never know what may come out of it! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-283767 2009-03-09 09:33:12 Go look at my picture and you'll see i'm def. a girl . lol http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-281869 2009-02-17 19:53:47 LOL I AM A GIRL! lol http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-281867 2009-02-17 19:52:42 Seriously, stay away from the alcohol. Don't worry, you will find a girl. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-ve-never-been-kissed-or-drank-am-i-a-loser-26713/#comment-281622 2009-02-15 18:15:12