I Want Babies Now

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normal, tis your hormones, cheering you on to reproduce. if this didnt happen the human race would cease to exist.

It's normal. I am 29 and never been married or had children, though I've had opportunities. To be perfectly honest, I had brief longings for children during very specific times in my life:

1) When I was about your age, 19, and I was madly in love for the first time in my life. It was bizarre because I knew I was too poor and too young and he didn't want children, but that feeling still popped out of no where! I ignored the feeling and it went away after a few months. We broke up not long after. (Whew - dodged a bullet there!)

2) At about 23, when I was visiting distant relatives who lived these beautiful lives in this beautiful place and had beautiful, angelic children. LOL. Even though I grew up in a nuclear family, we were never close or even really liked each other. When I saw how much love my relatives had for each other, some weird maternal/hormonal thing happened and suddenly I wanted to have a kid. I ignored it and it went away after I left.

3) In my mid 20s I worked as a child abuse investigator. Just the fact that you're around children all day that are so neglected and need you sooooo much automatically makes your maternal instincts kick in. I ignored those feelings then too.

I am so happy that I never had a kid when those instincts popped up. I was able to finish my education and start my own business and build a bit of stability for myself all on my own. I know most of it wouldn't have happened if I had an infant or small child during those years. Now I'm approaching my 30's and I may or may not have children, but I definitely know the feeling of suddenly wanting one.

first off i think that you are feeling lonely try to recall what you do right before the "yearnings". then make sure its not because you feel you need to stay wuth someone!

Its your maternal instinct kicking in. I am 18 and have those urges sometimes too. I am in college and I will see women my age walking around with their cute little kids and their husband and out of the blue i'll just think "oh, those kids are so cute. I would be such a good mother. I wish I had a child." I know this is ridiculas though because I definitley do would not be able to support a baby right now.

it's your hormones. i recommend you WAIT until you're older...i'm working right now as a live in nanny in england, and kids AREN'T an easy job. they take everything you have. while i love working with kids and being around them, it's completely changed my mind about wanting kids. i don't want them anymore. i would really wait until you're older and you KNOW for sure that kids are what you want in your life. good luck :) oh, and are you on birth control? cause that can definitely enhance hormones and maternal instincts

yep

Yeah I know what you mean...it doesn't mean you're ready for kids. Hang out with your relatives' children, don't make your own.