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i want to be a good girlfriend, help!
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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a month, and he is so amazing, i have never met anyone like him, he would never hurt me and gives me chance after chance when i make mistakes, even my sister who doesnt like to admit when ive got something good said he is so rare, while she gets stuck with all the wankers, (no offense to guys). Anyway my problem is that i havnt got enough confidence to not worry about things, for months we have been dealing with problems of me cheacking out other guys, in the unconsious mind, i dont want to do it, and i know some of the reasons this happens is because i worry so much, i have got better and can walk around with my head higher now but i still worry. He is getting fed up with this and says if i cant be good we will have to end as if i cant be 100% confident that i can do it how can he feel confident in me too as ive hurt him so much. Please help me, how can i stop worrying? Becuase i really dont want to lose him, he is the best thing ever to me! and ino im in the wrong. HELP!
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Comments (24)
crazyme (4954)
2007-01-27 13:55:41
If you love him you will not check out other guys. But seem like you don't love him that much and you just want to keep him as your side. Stop looking at other guys and think of your bf only.
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Tomkat (4109)
2007-01-27 14:41:47
Like all girls, your only purpose is to destroy male lives, so yes it's normal I suppose.
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sisophous (3738)
2007-01-27 15:39:53
It's fine to check out other guys but don't do so while in your boyfriend's presence, it's simply downright disrespectful. If you did it discretely that would be ok too, but you seem to be irritating this good guy as you describe so likely I put you at fault.

Many girls are self-destructive, have low self esteem and like to torpedo good relationships. You seem to fit this mold. These same girls often chose loser guys and then complain when they get discarded.

Lower your expectations in relationships and show respect to your partner. The vast majority of relationships at a young age, end after a year or two. It's the norm and actually healthy to move on to new ones.

Your insecurity will likely doom you in the end, but make an effort and you can change. Optimistic people usually have positive outcomes, pessimistic thinkers lead to counterproductive results.
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roger49 (3711)
2007-01-27 16:36:25
Tomkat, you are really cynical. Sisophous is right, you can check out guys when you're not with your boyfriend, but when you're together, it isn't good. He should show you the same respect.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2007-01-27 19:15:17
YTou can check out guys anytime just do it discreetly
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GW_LOVER_MCR (5341)
2007-01-27 19:16:38
If you love you should treat him right!!
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salivate (5480)
2007-01-27 21:17:49
If your man trusted you you wouldn't mind you having a wandering eye as long as long as he knew you weren't going to act on it. You need to make him understand that you realise what you have with him is rare. If you have cheated on him in the past this will be very difficult.

You could try making a heartfelt gesture; like surprising him and taking him to a jeweler to buy commitment rings which you wear like a wedding band. If you are wearing a sign of your commitment to him he should relax a little.

If he has a crush on a celebrity you should encourage it and tease him about it so that he sees it more as a playful issue rather than a contentious one.

Above all just be faithful to him because it does sound like you bagged a rare one.
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smithee (4389)
2007-01-27 23:54:20
if you wanna be a good girlfriend, give him good head!
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george_bojo_II (5543)
2007-01-28 09:00:05
1 word:

Gobby
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omgurdead (5597)
2007-01-30 06:16:14
checking out other people isn't unfaithful to the relationship.

if he doesn't understand that, leave him.
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g0misradicallywhack (6027)
2007-02-19 16:14:04
If you love him, tell him all the time.
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Nodo_TheRanter (5564)
2007-02-19 16:22:20
He sounds like a little controlling punk. Dump his ass before it becomes a real problem.
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hellokitty (6436)
2007-03-08 17:18:05
let him fuck you in the ass...that should make up for it...or...let him fuck you in the ass while you lick your sister's pussy
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latkingz781 (6634)
2007-04-21 00:36:34
LET HIM FUCK YOU IN THE ASS, THEN YOU FUCK HIM IN THE ASS YEAH!
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kristina_696969 (6736)
2007-04-23 00:56:02
Use em and abuse em! That's what it appears you want to do. Or as it is said, have your cake and eat it!

girl why don't you just ask him for some time? tell him you need the time to think of where the relationship is going!
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Hippeh (7872)
2007-04-28 11:33:16
GET YOUR TITS OUT AND FUCKING SUCK HIS NOB!!... or you could talk about it to him... ^o)
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breecheese (9004)
2007-06-21 10:18:26
checking out other guys is normal. as long as you look but don't touch. there's nothing wrong with admiring an attractive person... but if you can't stop yourself from touching then maybe you need to look in yourself and think about whats really causing this? you seem happy enough, but maybe deep down you don't believe you truly deserve to be happy. it could also be as simple as that you're just not ready to settle down yet even though you've met someone so perfect. (been there)

so just practice some self control and take some time to reflect within yourself and really think about it. i'm sure you'll figure it out and if he really loves you he'll understand no matter the reason. :)
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feelssogood (8676)
2007-07-02 03:10:06
as said above the only purpose's of the female species are to procreate and destroy the hearts of men.....sorry im a lil heartbroken right now so im off da wall
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WHYme (8965)
2007-07-21 12:17:54
There is an old saying that goes.."If yuo love someone enough let him go. If he returns he's yours forever, if he leaves he never was yours." I think both of you should try that.

I a curious since you srote this months ago what ever has become of you 2!
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jansmylyf (9369)
2007-07-22 06:12:57
i guess you better stop doing it and also show your boyfriend you love him when my girlfriend does that i get that angry that she gets scard that ill just walk she does it that much it destroys your emotions let your boy know that you love him and dont talk bout other guys to him and youll see a change
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Happy_PandaUK (10562)
2007-09-12 18:43:07
Check out other guys! He probably watches porn anyway..
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flikr (10636)
2007-10-29 01:28:28
dumb his ass
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SlimFast (11113)
2008-08-01 01:08:32
@: sisophous
I agree. It's normal to check out other people. There's nothing wrong with looking at the menu. Just be discreet about it. He shouldn't get too upset about it because he may be doing the same thing in a discreet way so you don't even notice him doing it. I'm sure he thinks about other girls too. Not to leave you but he can't help it. It's human nature. The only thing that really matters is that you care about each other. As long as you do, it really doesn't matter whether or not you check out other people out and vice versa. It may make you excited, then take your excitement out on him. I'm sure he won't mind accommodating your needs. If he checks out other girls and gets excited, then you can accommodate his needs as well. Everybody wins!
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cabinet70 (4440)
2008-08-01 02:43:18
You sound very imature to me I suggest you grow up a bit befor starting a re;ationship
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