I Want To Do It With My Girlfriend But This Feeling Won't Let Me

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A lot of people have similar beliefs, but this is not normal. It comes from the belief that sex is dirty, that there is something improper or impure about it, that it is degrading in some way. Such erroneous belief has its origins in Christianity (as well as other religions) and has been widespread for hundreds of years.

You need to reject such belief and recognized that sex is perfectly normal and healthy, and that there is nothing improper about it. Accepting this at an intellectual level, however, is a far cry from accepting it at an emotional level, since there are undoubtedly hundreds of little things attached to this original belief that you have been carrying for years. You need to go through them, one by one, and reject them. Every time you have a bad "feeling," you need to introspect and analyze WHY you are having that bad feeling. Eventually, your emotions will be congruent with this new attitude.

Sure i think so, that you should make it special for someone you love but what isnt normal is putting capitals at the start of every word

Just give her the wood dude.

I agree with what wayoutthere said, but it doesn't explain why you wouldn't mind having sex with someone you don't care about. Sex should be something beautiful and natural enjoyed between people who love & care about each other, not some anonymous thing like a taxi cab ride.

But it still makes sense and seems common... I remember the one time I really fell deeply in love, I did not want to have sex with the girl and I didn't masturbate for months. So I guess we're funny like that...

I think thats very sweet of you. And i know how you feel, because my best friends boyfriend is sort of like that. Trust your feeling though, your feelings toward her might change afterward.

Your gf has a very low self esteem...

Mabey its because she's scared she might lose you, or mabey she wants to prove something to herself...

Well trust me if you dont feel 100%% ready to do it, then dont...

Sex will be much better when you wait until the rite time, you'll feel more save, secure and you will enjoy it much better...

Well either way, the choise is yours...

If you really love her, then have sex with her. It's not dirty if you guys are really in love.

ok
i'm not really sure if i'm getting this right, but i think you are a different breed of males. maybe a different breed of human being.

i mean, she's asking for it...

srsly. Give her the wood

You don't deserve her. Leave her without making her feel she has the problem. It's you. You are totally ignorant about sex and love. Leave her and do not, I repeat, do not lay your hang ups and immaturity on her.

I've seen you on here writing novels to people. This is the comment section not the local "Dear Abbey" column. LOL

It is extremely noble of you to respect her this much. I wish all us guys were like this. If you don't think she's fully ready, then don't do it, but most importantly - talk to her! If you explain your feelings, she'll be more likely to understand.

Isn't It Annoying Talking With All The First Letters Of The Words Capitalised?

"WayOutThere" I need to make something clear for you. The Bible does not say sex is dirty or wrong; it says fornification is wrong. God make men and women so when they can get married they can experience it. Study up on the Bible before you comment about Christianity.

Get Over This Feeling And Do Her.