I will never have sex

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First off you shouldn't have sex with anyone until you are perfectly comfortable with your body, you could become emotional dependent on them and sex, only have sex with someone you feel extremely comfortable with. Second off you need to learn to love your body. Also people have five senses, we base a lot of our knowledge on sight but sight isn't everything. find something you love about your body, and keep in mind that your skin may repair itself, look for natural remedies cream and other vitamins which might make your skin feel and look better. maybe talk to a dermatologist. Then keep in mind the other senses, taste, smell, touch, and hearing. All senses play a factor in sex if you feel insecure about how you look do it in the dark, or in darkly lit rooms, it will be harder to see the stretch marks. I hope you become more secure with your body and stop feeling so depressed. the dark times in our lives are not the best but there is always a light after the darkness in the tunnel, just remember that. GOOD LUCK!!!

I had a friend growing up that was severely overweight, and she was always depressed about it. The thing was , even though she was fat she still had boyfriends and eventually got married to a nice man that seen the beauty she possessed in her heart. Since then she had an operation to reduce her stomach size, and she has lost a lot of weight and really looks good. I can tell she feels a lot better about herself and her self esteem has improved a whole bunch. I am sure she is having problems with a lot of loose skin, but I know some of that can be cured with just regular exercise. The point I am trying to make to you is hold your head up high and be proud everybody has their imperfections, and it sounds like you are already improving yourself. You will be so much healthier for losing all that extra weight. I believe there is somebody out there for each of us a "soul mate" so to speak, and you just haven't met yours yet.

Keep losing those excess pounds, and you can address the loose skin problem after you get to a healthy weight. Good Luck.

I am sure that you will sex and if you don't then it's really no big deal. Just gotta have faith ya know.

Glad your feeling good...Hope it works out for you.

Yeah, I always said I would die a virgin, but I likely won't now. Either way is fine :)

Hold on there.

In addition to weight, you seem to have a major insecurity issue.

Lose weight and (more) guys will go for you. As far as skin probs, don't be confused - use coco butter and maybe tone (or tan) and you might be surprised at the results.

Trust me, there is hope. I myself am in a wheelchair, unlike many gals, and my BF still loves making love with me.

Stay Strong!

October Marie

Hey, welcome back October!

'Nada!

:)

Tobra

I thought you were a lesbian

Hardly.

I can be (very rarely) bi-sexual. I like guys way to much to form a lasting relationship with women. But if I see a fem who is REALLY attractive to me... :)

Though I am in a committed relationship (to a guy!) these days.

Nice to see you again.

Tobra

Is he handicap too

You can always become a lezbo and lick pussy. Or take pictures of your snatch and sell them on the internet. Personally, I'd love to score with a fat chick... it would turn me on to see her wiggle and jiggle while I thrust my 7 inches of rock hard manhood into her.

uhm. no.

Does he have a big penis?

It's J.U.S.T. right. :) :) :)

OMB

Suck it up! Ur beautiful and dont let anyone tell you differently! That attitude is what makes you ugly not your weight or your skin.

hey girl ,, i dont have the money to afford u the plastic surgery , but if i do ill sure pass it to u .. have a lovely day ..

some people have fat fetishes. also u can always do it in the dark

its u body no has rights to make fun of itu should have sex when u feel like it it is perfectly normal at 21 to be a virgin. ppl die as virgin but thats there busines if i was u i would have sex when iam ready. and iam half black

hey girl, hows you?
Just reading through your story. Im 21 too, and Ive had to kids so I do know about strech marks...hate them. Ive used Bio oil, palmers sterch fade cream and also plian old almond or olive oil. its doesnt take them away, but it makes them look better. I totally understand where your coming from, you dont feel confident about your body. Im not being rude babe, but if you dont love your self, then no one will. You have to do what ever it takes motivate yourself. Becuase when your motivated, it gives you drive, purpose and power to do what you was unable to do before. You say your fat, loose the weight...put some tunes on your ipod and go for a power walk every afternoon. 30 mins aday. will make you feel so much better inyourself. aLL THE BEST!!!x

Ow, i'm skinny & i have those. Trust me, I will never wear those kinds of stuffs too, even I love to swim. But you see, you cant' say things that you don't know yet. You just need love. ;)

hire a male prositute

wait till your special man comes along

I'm 6'2,200 lbs. i'm not brad pitt, but i do try to take care of myself, keep myself looking good. the thing is, i love overweight women. they drive me crazy. i have no idea why this is the case. all i know is that when i'm with an overweight girl, i come about five times harder than with a typical "hot" girl. Hotness is subjective.

gd idea

dude really?!
get over yourself
more people have it way worse than you do.

everyone has their flaws, and i'm sure there are uglier people than you.

u need to talk to someone professional cuz no matter how skinny u get ull never be happy, i gained 30lbs from having a baby and ive lost 20 i am kinda happy but always want more. my friend is almost 400lbs she recently lost 30lbs she never thought she could lose weight but shes had losttsaa bfs guys pay attention to her more than me im 170lbs..she has horrible stretch marks and scabs all over and she lets her tits half hang out of her shirts so of coarse she gets bad guys but sometimes their good shes only 19 tho shes still just having fun so should u.. motivate urself to lose weight instead of feeling bad about it.. i should take my own advice!.. but itll get better aloota overweight ppl have sex and get married.. but it seems u need to have some help to boost ur confidence and spirits and get u happy and loving ur life not worrying about ur body!!

You know there are concealers designed to cover scars (pretty much what stretch marks are, in a sense).

why do ppl like your even reply?

Oh sweetie! Excercise helps get rid of excess skin! You can do it, and we all have stretch marks ... well at least those of us with sensitive skin. I have stretch marks on my boobs and hips just from puberty!

Just find a horrible looking guy, and the two of you can go frolicking off, through the corn dog field's of eternity. Dont forget to put mayonaise on any ingested corn dog. I say this, because it has been scientifically proven that consuming more than the average amount of mayonaise, helps with stretch marks.

Most guys don't care about looks as much you seem to think. In fact, the main reason guys wouldn't go out with a fat girl is because it's very difficult to respect fat people, they just come off as degenerate and lazy. But stuff like stretch marks and acne etc. really doesn't bother that many people.

It sound to me like you have something called body dysmorphic disorder. By your own admission even when you lose the weight you will still be unhappy with your stretch marks, untoned skin etc. This is a psychological disorder, and there may be something more to it than simply being unhappy with your looks, such as low self-esteem or even depression. You should consider seeing a counsellor about this.

Aww girl :(
Don't feel that way, if you say you're not gonna have sex, it's ok, but saying it's because of you it's really bad. If you fall in love it's because of the person's soul. If he loves you, don't feel bad with yourself.
Skin is only like the package, we're all beautiful. :)

I used to be overweight...now I'm 145 but I used to be over 200 lbs in 7th grade. It gave me horrible self esteem because of the things people said about me. So ya know what? I got determined to change it. I exercised and ate the right diet for 2 years and I dropped the weight with no problem. My skin was pretty loose but over time (probably due to exercise) it tightened up a great deal. So don't give up! I never thought I'd have sex either but you'll be amazed at how easily things can change :)

once you say you will never do something...

if you genuinely decide that and believe that...

you are writing your own destiny

Urg, look at my profile. I am a decent looking guy and under the last part of it (For some damn reason, scroll down on my profile, I don't know why.) and you will see the following link

http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b86/Budwise_thefirst

I changed the heavy girl in some of those pictures to this.

http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b86/Budwise_thefirst/DressedUp2.jpg

She is far heavier than I am. Almost double but not quite. She is working on herself but she is doing it for her. I am a decent looking guy and I gave her a chance as she was just like you. She even has a very bad skin problem down below and was very scared of me not liking her because of it.

She has psirosis and athough not this bad, its quite bad in her "private" area.
http://images.google.com/images?rls=ig&hl=en&source=hp&q=psoriasis&rlz=1W1ADFA_en&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

But as a good guy who saw a girl who just needed someone to be close to her, I became her friend and it turned into more. I am truly happy with her but please ignore my other post as I was trying to get feeling out. Yes, her weight still bothers me but she is a good person inside and for that I am happy.

Just make sure you are happy with who you are, if only on the inside. A great guy will come. One good thing though, is that you don't have to worry about trashy men being interested. Just dirty, screwed up ones who are horny or a good guy and those are easy to tell apart.

I wish you could read this right now as you really need to hear this. YOU ARE FINE. AND A GREAT GUY WILL COME. Trust me, I was one for a great girl like you. Please look at the links I provided above. If you need to write and talk to get help, my email is Budwise_thefirst@juno.com but I am faithful to my girlfriend. If you need a friend, write. I was depressed and fat once too (Look at the pictures in my profile's links.) so I understand. If you don't write, thats fine too but have a good life.