Idealized Importance

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Maybe it's not that you forget the bad in people, but you openly acknowledge the good in them. Of all the abnormal habits to have, I think this is one of the more awesome ones!

they'll only think you're a stalker. i wonder if you have good relationships with the people who are currently part of your life. perhaps it's better to concentrate on those.

Yeah, you might think that they'd label me a stalker - but i don't think you understand the content. I know for a fact that they don't see it as a stalker. I don't usually send any way for them to reply to me, because as i said - i'm not looking for anything in return. But most of them have tracked me down to tell me what they thought of the letter they received. To date i've sent letters to maybe ten girls, and at least half of those were in tears when they finally got ahold of me, because i had made them so happy. Several told me that it was the most beautiful thing that they had ever read.

Don't you ever wonder whether you had an impact on someone? Do you ever have times when you feel like you're not that special, like you're just a rock skipping off the surface of life on earth? I mean, even those of us with lots of friends and family - we all wonder how important we are to people in our lives. Most of us don't realize that we DO have an impact on others - i'm just one of the few guys that actually tells people how important they are...

I think that's pretty awesome, actually

Not only is that great, but it's one of the most unselfish things I've ever heard of. I think it's awesome and you should keep on doing it to people.

I dont think most people do that, but its a good thing to do. I like to check in with people i lost touch with over the years. I usually try to catch them on AIM or MSN or whatever though. I have the same feelings towards people I dont see anymore. Sometimes i sit around and think "my old friends were so great, my current ones are kind of crappy". Ive done that my whole life, but as soon as i move on to a new group of friends and lose contact with the previous group I remember all of the good times we had. Oh yeah, and you arent subconsciously idolizing people if you are consciously aware of what you are doing ;)

You're absolutely right- it ISN'T normal, but it should be.

A while ago I had given my friend a huge psychological lecture/explanation for some things that needed to be brought to his attention. I really said everything that there was to be said and both of us were angry and frustrated when I was through.
A few days after that he told me that he thought about what I told him and that it made every bit of sense, and that he truly appreciated it. I find he's more compliant when I tell him something is wrong, as though he knows from experience I'm just telling him for his own good, and that the advice is right.

I just entered university and I'm having so much trouble finding friends that compare to the ones I made in high school. I haven't lost touch AT ALL with my older friends, but I feel as though I will never find anyone like them in my new school. I guess I just need to give people a chance, like you said, there's good in everyone that can be acknowledged.

It's a good feeling to be appreciated, and I know the girls recieving the letters will feel the same. If someone can say honestly that I helped them become the person they are and that they looked up to me for it, that's an unbelievable compliment. Your feelings are completely valid and you're an awesome person. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.