I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my second child and I HATE it! I love my first child but and hated being pregnant then but I don't remember hating it this much. I'm already trying to get labor moving though it isn't working and I know it's because my body isn't ready, but damn it I wish it was. I have a friend who just found out she is pregnant 3 weeks ago and she has already finished decorating her nursery. To top that off all I hear from her anymore is how she throws up everyday and she can't fit in any of her clothes and needs maternity clothes. Though a week before she found out she was bragging how she had lost an inch off her waist and needed smaller clothes. She's got more baby clothes than I do for crying out loud. Seriously the only reason I'm pregnant now is because the condom broke...damn rubbers. I think my husband tricked me personally. I hate being pregnant, hearing all the people ask me stupid questions like when am I due, what am I having, is it my first, what my symptoms have been. I hate it all, then once the baby is born I have to deal with everyone wanting to hold the baby or know how labor was and how long, if I had pain medication. Then some people even judge if I did have the medication or if I don't breast feed. Seriously if you want to know so much about pregnancy and birth, go get knocked up your damn self! Just because I'm having a baby doesn't mean I want you to know how the kid was made. Am I the only woman that feels this way when it comes to being pregnant?
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Surely your frustration with him is why you're feeling so negatively about the pregnancy, the association is so thick I can taste it. And I know my friend who had a baby recently got really annoyed with how much people will nag you when you get pregnant.. "eat this, don't eat that, are you really drinking coffee??" and the like, as though being pregnant gives everyone around you a liscence to give you medical advise :P
But I think it's really important that you talk to your husband about how you feel, that's not something I'd wanna let sit that could come up later down the road and cause a fight.
You sound very angry!
I know how you feel, my twin boys came as surprises, and I was only 18. Their conceiving was the only time we didn't use a condom, it too was only when my period went by later that month that I actually took a test. As it happened it turned blue, and I was married 15 days before my two lovelies came along!
The people who coo and fuss over you and your little bundle of joy probably aren't doing it to spite you; rather from interest and care for you both.
Don't take it personally - maybe they do it to every preggie woman
they see!
Your friend seems as though she's experiencing a different pregnancy to yours; she might be more prepared, more stoical amd have more of the classic symptoms - but that doesn't mean you can't celebrate your pregnancy, too!
I never had any morning sickness at all when I was pregnant, no baby clothes for the twins' arrival, and I was holed up with backache half of the time! Don't let it get to you, girl!
As for your little one being an accident...
Sometimes in life we just have to grit our teeth and enjoy the ride. My two were unplanned, but now I don't refer to them as accidents - I like to say that they're surprises! Who knows, maybe your baby will enrich your life. I know I'd be devastated if anything happened to mine.
Pregnancy is a wonderful thing. It's the tool which forges life from a tiny atom, a journey with twists and turns more magical than you could ever have imagined!
Good luck, and feel free to contact me (or reply) with any questions you may have!
Rock on, the pregnancy ladies!
Even strangers like to celebrate it - your expectance.
My brother in-law's fiancee is pregnant, and I almost feel rude to give advice - but I think pregnancy is amazing!
Enjoy it, girl!
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The result, however. IS wonderful ^^
Nurturing new life from nothing is beautiful.
I loved my pregnancy - but everyone's different, and that's okay too!
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But pregnancy is great (at least for me)!
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Do you have any kids?
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I prefer not to have kids before I actually get somewhere, or atleast manage to see various places around the globe and have a decent job ;o.
And that's great ;O.
I bet they look adoreable :3.
I hope you see some great places :)
Thanks, they're gorgeous and my absolute heart and soul - naughty little imps, though!
Bless 'em!
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I can see how much you love them, frankly I wish every parent was like you. :o
Yeah I probably will see some great places, I'm traveling across Italy next year, and I plan to go to Jordan after that (Petra).
I also want to see the Northern Light very much ^^
Could you explain to me what AS is? I'm not familiar with that term (:
And yeah, if you personally feel ready to settle down, then why wait huh? :D
Wow, I'd love to go to Italy! The Northern Lights? Beat that! :)
Have fun, my friend! :D
Oh - AS stands for Asperger's Syndrome! I guess I must start writing it properly ha, ha - so many people don't get what I'm on about (I guess I'm too lazy to type another 18 characters on the keyboard ha, ha ;) )
Can I just ask you a really random question? Have you ever experienced cyber-bullying on this site?
There was a certain user saying some really nasty stuff to me recently. Just thought I'd find out more :)
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And well, I've seem people attempting to, but I can defend myself, so it's never really bothered me.
Frankly, it humors me. Seeing people fail over and over again, however I do find it sad that some people actually get hurt or emotionally damaged because of this.
I was called a liar, and slandered by this certain user, and although I contacted IIN with proof, this guy's still going around calling people 'c***s' and being completely rude!
Here's what he said:
http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-that-i-love-to-look-at-myself-in-the-mirror-126392/comment-1148495
I want as many people as possible to know about this: as an Asperger's attachment (I guess) I hit myself when I'm really hurt, or angry. As a result of this guy, I had a set of bruises on my arm.
Thanks
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She used to hit herself and bang her head agains't the wall when she was angry, I used to hold her and stopped her when she did that, but it killed me inside. I've always wondered why she did that, but I guess I know now.
Thinking of her kinda upsets me, me and her broke up months ago but thinking about her and our time together (the good and the bad) still hurts me.
Meh, I just looked at her profile on fb, and saw a picture of her with her new bf, made me drop a tear .-. I'm so stupid. why do I even bother looking at her profile from? I know it only upsets me. I know it only hurts me but I still do it. I can be terribly stupid sometimes.
Anyway, back to the topic, because I'm really dwelling off here :I.
He sounds like the average troll to me, with a sole purpose of annoying others with no thoughts about the consequences. Or atleast no regrets for them.
What they don't know is that they're actually hurting someone, even when they're told they are.
Reminds me of a story of this troll, who hurt my dear friend once.
I got myself to "befriend" this troll, which lead me to know his weak spots.
I started abusing those weak spots, slowly pushing the troll into depression, it made me slightly bad afterwards, but he deserved it. He really did.
If you didn't want to be pregnant, you could of had an abortion or actually used the oh so many birth control ways available to women.