I've been with my bf for 4 years now. He smokes pot regularly - I never touch the stuff. Initially I overlooked it because I was in love. He then started growin it in the basement and since it was hidden from sight, I overlooked it. I've since bought a new house that we were supposed to move into. He started saying he wanted to grow there and I refused. He then said he would stay in the current house one more year to sock the $ away but we'd stay at both places. I moved all of my things and made the place really nice for him so he would know I appreciated the 'sacrifice'. Nearly 3 weeks later he's made no mention or implication that he's going to come to the new house. When I say I'm not gonna stay and we need to go spend some time at the new house, he says I'm supposed to be wherever he is and gets mad. I feel totally duped! I can't stand living out of a box. I want to be at the new place. Fixing it up and moving on with a positive and healthier life. I don't think it's fair that he said one thing, then has BS actions. And, keeps asking when we're getting married. He also wants me to get a mortgage on a house across the street so he can live there and do his business closer to the new house. Oh geez - so many issues here. I am pretty certain this is not a normal relationship. What to do and why am I having so much trouble doing it?