I have a feeling mine has to do with empathy. Because I just can't stand being around people that are down because that drains me a lot also. But thanks that you think it's cool.
Maybe you don't have that much empathy, not saying thats bad. But that's the reason your self esteem is boost in other ways.
I could see that. Although, I have had a lot of experiences so I am able to empathize with people. However, I feel that whenever I'm around happy people I have to force myself to be happy because my regular disposition isn't happiness, but rather curious about the lives of others. Being around people who are depressed is actually kind of nice for me because that means that they're easier to talk to. People who are happy usually see talking as boring, where as I like it. I like figuring out people, and those who are sad usually let me explore their mentality and together we can bond off our conversations.
I didn't mean to make it sound like I dislike people who feel down because I do like being there to "help" them instead though. I try to make them feel better and happy. I tell them things that I do normally to boost my self esteem up. I do give sympathy at times to people especially when they are family and friends; just not often.
I think it's really interesting how you are around people. Does it ever annoy you when people try to help you feel better then because you did say you don't take pity either?
I will admit that I did think that you disliked people who feel down, but after reading that I can see that you are a very helpful person. I think it's great that you're there to help them.
Well, when people try to help me, I don't take it as a form of pity. Usually the person helping me carries a nice approach. For example, I remember a while ago in journalism this guy and I had a conversation where he was deconstructing me. I made a comment about how I am a separatist and like to be alone. He quickly then retorted that I could not be a separatist because I enjoy talking to people too much and understanding them. That conversation was actually very interesting because the entire time I've been in that class I always thought he was this jerk who used people, but he was actually a very nice guy who just happens to look like jerk, he even acknowledges this. Anyways, if my friends ever offer their hand in help I take it. Whenever anyone extends their hand I will sit down and talk to them because it makes for a great bonding experience. I offer my hand plenty of times to people, mainly guys really, girls are a different story. I open up real easily about my emotions and past, and due to this expressionism I can bond with whoever is helping me get through some tough times. At the end of the day, I made a new a friend and obtained knowledge about an individual's mental process.
What I ment by people who are down that drain me are the ones who complain non-stop about how terrible their lives are and just need to get out, but choose to just drag people down. They just drag me down and they find out later I don't want to be around them anymore... I just try to help and it is stressful for sure. I lost a friend because she dragged me down, but she was pretty immature for her age also. As the years went on while I grew up more she hasn't changed any at all. She does make right choices, not always a bad influence but just drags you, plus she says a couple of cuss word in every sentence. I use to put up with it, but I have to live my own life now.
But that is cool. I try not to make assumptions as much as possible because you just never know until you actually get to meet the person, which you did't. You sound like you have quite a bit of friends actually. I'm rather open too, I'm not scared to tell people about my life and past just as long as they don't think that I feel down because of it. I don't, my past has helped me a lot through the years but also hasn't helped me on certain things but I just have to deal with it, can't change it.
You sound like someone I would really like to meet truthfully. I like rather interesting people... All of my friends are really different. I never hung out in groups though... I pretty much was the person that hung out with a person from each group.
I would like to meet you in real life as well. Although, I don't really bounce around from groups of friends. There are only really 4 people that I like to hang out with during lunch and they each have their own group which I am a part of. And honestly, I dislike whiners a lot. I mean I've never really met anyone who just outright whines about how "terrible" there life is because they didn't get the latest Iphone. The people that I meant I like talking to are those that are open about their past because that means that we can bond easier. I'm glad that you left your friend, she does sound a crude person, then again I can be crude myself. Also, I don't have a lot of friends, I have like maybe 10-15 people total who I talk to on a regular basis. However, I don't mind talking to random people because they could have an interesting perspective on life. Although, I am painfully shy in most situations. But my curiosity to understand an individuals way of thinking is too interesting for me to be crippled by my shyness, at least in some cases it is. Oh and I don't really switch groups to hang out with during lunch, in all honesty, I actually dislike the main group that I hang out with at lunch, the only reason that I do hang out with them is because my two best friends hang out there but if they're not there then I see no point in going.
Maybe you don't have that much empathy, not saying thats bad. But that's the reason your self esteem is boost in other ways.
I think it's really interesting how you are around people. Does it ever annoy you when people try to help you feel better then because you did say you don't take pity either?
Well, when people try to help me, I don't take it as a form of pity. Usually the person helping me carries a nice approach. For example, I remember a while ago in journalism this guy and I had a conversation where he was deconstructing me. I made a comment about how I am a separatist and like to be alone. He quickly then retorted that I could not be a separatist because I enjoy talking to people too much and understanding them. That conversation was actually very interesting because the entire time I've been in that class I always thought he was this jerk who used people, but he was actually a very nice guy who just happens to look like jerk, he even acknowledges this. Anyways, if my friends ever offer their hand in help I take it. Whenever anyone extends their hand I will sit down and talk to them because it makes for a great bonding experience. I offer my hand plenty of times to people, mainly guys really, girls are a different story. I open up real easily about my emotions and past, and due to this expressionism I can bond with whoever is helping me get through some tough times. At the end of the day, I made a new a friend and obtained knowledge about an individual's mental process.
But that is cool. I try not to make assumptions as much as possible because you just never know until you actually get to meet the person, which you did't. You sound like you have quite a bit of friends actually. I'm rather open too, I'm not scared to tell people about my life and past just as long as they don't think that I feel down because of it. I don't, my past has helped me a lot through the years but also hasn't helped me on certain things but I just have to deal with it, can't change it.
You sound like someone I would really like to meet truthfully. I like rather interesting people... All of my friends are really different. I never hung out in groups though... I pretty much was the person that hung out with a person from each group.