My friend's birthday is more than a month from now, but I can't stop thinking about what I should get her. The past few weeks have been really hard on her, and I want to get her something awesome. I saved up $850 but I don't know what to do. I told one of my friends that I had no idea what to get her, and he just laughed and said, you know it's more than a month from now, right? He must have told her I said that because she called me later and told me it made her day that I was thinking about her and if she could give me a big hug over the phone she would. But she also said I shouldn't worry about it and just having me be there is all she wants. She said she didn't even need me to bring a gift at all, and if I wanted after everyone else went home I would take her to see a movie or somewhere else and that would be my gift. I told her I liked that and was going to do that. She told me to stop stressing over it and that just doing that would make her birthday perfect. But I'm still thinking about what to get her. I don't think just hanging out with her is good enough, and after the difficult time she's been having she deserves the best. But I don't know what to get with what I have. I think jewelry would be the obvious choice with how much money I have available, but I still don't know what to get. I can't just ask her what she wants because I told her I wouldn't worry about it anymore. I was thinking of taking her to the mall and seeing what strikes her fancy, but I think it would still be obvious that I'm thinking about what to get her. I'm still not sure what I'm going to do yet. Is it wrong for me to be thinking about this so much this much time before it even happens?
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I'm gonna be completely honest. Friends can be really amazing people to have around, I would of course, be devastated if something tragic happened to mine, but I'm not sure I could ever spend 850 dollars alone on them for their birthday. Maybe as a wedding gift I would. Depending on the relationship I have with them. But thats a lotta doe! Just out of curiosity... do you feel something more than friendship for this girl? If you do, tell her that. Did she have a really bad illness? Cancer? (Not trying to sound like a bitch) But I probably would understand your side better.
Maybe you could give her some of your money, and she can just go and pick what she wants. But are you really gonna give her 850 dollars? Thats a little much. Then again... I don't know what she went through. Just think this over, and don't stress it too much, especially since you still have a lot of time.
I think if you spend such an excessive amount on her you will embarrass her and she will feel awkward about your friendship. Taking her to the mall and paying for a dress / bag / shoes she likes would be much more appropriate.
To be frank, this nonsense makes you seem desperate or grateful that she is your friend. Whereas, friendship is a two way street, and she likes you for who you are - you don't need to BUY her friendship. Unless as the other poster said you have other motives.
It's up to you but I think it will backfire on you!