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IIN that my daddy said this to me?
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He's daddy by adoption, since I was a baby. He's always given me the best because I can comfortably say he's rich. So best schools, all the disney world shit.. In other words great childhood etc. Taken me to college now I have two degrees just graduated recently, second time at 23. So enough background info best dad in the world. However I told him that I was pregnant and he said alot of things. He's in Indiana and am in California, at my uncle his brother, so the distance I sent an Email telling him what's going on. The reply was so hurtful. He told me about all the things he has ever done for me in details . Literally since I was a child, how he has always given me everything perfectly detailed I even forgot some of this shit.. I was like damn, I had no idea I was such a loser and great dissapointment and a burden. I replied the mail and spoke my mind too, mainly saying sorry for being a burden etc. He replied immediately saying he did not intend it that way and that he was sorry for saying that, he even called me sweetheart yet he has never. He offered to fully support me finacially, me and the unborn baby. His tone changed completely and he was nice again offering me more help than usual. Now I don't want a dime from him so I don't know how to tell him that. I don't want any help from him at all, I could totally use the money but I don't want it. It doesn't sound right anymore especially after all he said to me.. Should I tell him I don't want the help? And Iin he said those things? (no insults, he's still dad)
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ok 2 important things, 1 yes it's normal he said those things, he was upset. Don't be too hard on him, you told him some super shocking news and he was upset, you said in the very next email he was over it so cut him some slack, don't let one bad episode change your relationship.

2 TAKE THE MONEY! You said you could use it swallow your pride and take his help not for your sake but for the child's.
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@: MR.mr
I guess that's what i'll do.. Thanks for the opinions.
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While you were getting your two degrees, did you ever think about taking a class in writing? If not, think about it. Tell him you are a big girl now and you can take care of yourself. Thanks but no thanks.
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@: jethro
What do I need proper writing for? Am addressing a bunch of strangers so why the fuck would I care about my writing.. You try being born French and learn English with no fucking accent or no direct translations problems then tell me about my writing!
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You need proper writing because it shows that you are reasonably intelligent. Strangers or not. But now that I understand that you are from France, I imagine that both of your degrees were purchased or they are for Essential Oils and Douchbaggery. I know people from Asia who learned English and they have no accent. Furthermore, they write and speak beautifully. So if you feel as though you have accomplished something, try again. You are not special, regardless of what your step-daddy tells you when you are in bed together.
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@: jethro
Lol... You must be one disturbed guy... :-D.. You sound Jelous, why don't you get your dad to buy you degrees too.. Poor baby! Who gives a fuck what I write as long as you get it.. Dude, don't reply if it's not grammatically correct for you.. Lame ass bitch! One more thing, he's not my step daddy you idiot get the difference.
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LMAO...The word is spelled jealous not jelous and you are lecturing me. Oh so your adopted daddy and you sleep together. That is different but just as disturbing. But at least your offspring wont be an inbred monkey.
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@: jethro
Are you sure your dad Isn't your grandad too??? Incest must be very common in your home.. You must be sleeping with your grandma too. Did a priest rape you in the ass or maybe your uncle did otherwise your thoughts explains how messed up your childhood was...sorry for having it rough son! LOL
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lillygirl
@: jethro
You are a fuging flagpole. You want me to write it correctly?

You insane bedbug...

You don't deserve to even be here.. you harassment to your family...

You fartbreather...

Just shut your piehole and keep it shut...
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Ouch. I am so hurt. Misandry doesn't suit you. But I understand it that lesbians just can't help themselves. Reply with yet another account name. You already used at least two. See you next Tuesday.
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@: jethro
Lesbian isn't an insult and shouldn't be used as one
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Yup. Tell him that you will feel better about yourself if you don't accept any money. Also tell him his love has always meant a lot and that you hope he still will give it to you.
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@: McBean
Told him I prefer being broke and happy than getting his wire transfers with lectures. But he did apologize and I know he would never let me suffer he literally pays for all my expenses including my apartment.. Am thankful though.. Not everybody gets that.
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Normal he's pissed, since you were knocked up by somebody you failed to even mention in your post. Your life is set towards a path of dependency at this point--rely on your dad so we aren't paying your wellfare. Your dad will always love you, so stay close. Just realize that you didn't become the woman he could be proud to call his daughter.
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RamenNoodleMaster#3
@: felixy
omg, only a small percentage of the US national Budget goes to welfare, a solid 30% goes to helping build schools in other countries, starting unnecessary wars in the middle east and helping the rebels in Syria who have done nothing to prove that they are on America's side. so tired of conservatives acting holier than art thou to people on welfare, non conservatives pay taxes too and i'm sure you would need some government assistance if an illness or injury rendered you unable to work.

If i was her i'd work on rebuilding her relationship with her father and perhaps the baby's father as well.
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Really, the welfare bit doesn't bother me as much as the future for the kid does. No doubt the woman's father looked forward to be a proud father and grandfather, but his girl has gone and thrown it all away. This is why you use protection until marriage.
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He had given almost everything to you, like school, vacation and what you reply to him is such a (errr idk how to say), so it's understandable that he's mad on you. Plus he's still a good daddy at all and you're so lucky because believe me, if it happened to my country, you would get nothing from your parents except rant and isolation from your family (my country hold this virginity tradition so the things like pregnancy before marriage is absolutely not tolerable)
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True, he's the best dad ever! I understand what you mean.. Some cultures obssess over these kinds of issues.. Thanks for the reply.
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RamenNoodleMaster#3
do u live in the middle east?
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nooo, not in the middle east but still in the Asian, southeast asian to be exact :)
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lillygirl
Hi there... I don't know you but I am so happy for you... Being a mother is the best feeling and so is being a father... I know your dad loves you and you know that more than me..

Everything is okay.. he was just shoked.. replied on impulse..

I read your replies... Your dad will feel happy while supporting you.. and his grandchild..

Wish you a happy life ahead.. hugs and kisses from me..
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Thanks honey... Hugs and kisses from me too.
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Lilygirl is right. He's in shock at the moment but as soon as he first sees that baby, he'll forget about how angry he was.
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I hope your baby is black.
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Haha, why is the race important??
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My dad would probably disown me.
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@: Rihyae
Mine did for like an hour.. Lol
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That is normal. After all, it seemed to me that he adored you so much. He was probably caught off guard by the news. And he most likely considered you his sweet daughter. No dad wants their daughter knocked up. Although I don't know whether the man involved is helping you care for the baby.

He changed his initial reaction because he had time to process it. Men need to process things since they are so different from us girls.

I am happy that you are having the baby. I won't say whether you should take the money or not, that is your decision. But think carefully of the child's needs which are going to grow as the child gets older. And most of all, think of yourself- job, bills and such.

if you decide that you don't want the money, I recommend saying it something like this- " thank you for offering to help, but no thanks." or something like that.

anyways, congrats on the baby!
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It's true my dad adores and loves me so much.. I think sometimes even more than my brothers who are actually his bio sons .. Anyways thanks a lot, I'm excited about the baby too.. And even if I refuse the money, he will still send it anyways. Thanks for the reply.
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He should have never said anything to make you feel like a loser. You got pregnant, you didn't kill anyone! More importantly, you obtained a college education beforehand. You're far from being a loser. You should be proud of yourself for getting a great education so your child can live comfortably. My daughter means the world to me and no matter what I'll always love her and she'll always be my heart.
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I agree with you completely. What hurt me the most was the part where he was counting everything he has ever done for me.. Then immediately changed his mind and apologized.. Maybe he feels like he's done too much for me. Thanks for your reply.
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Hugs☺ You're doing great
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xfg39
You owe it to your dad to get an abortion. Think of all the money he wasted on you.
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@: xfg39
Im not killing my baby period!
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xfg39
Then you should kiII yourself for the sake of your poor dad who invested in educating a brainless cow and now has to support the moron's offspring.
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@: xfg39
I considered that but death was too scary for me.. How about you suck my d*** bitch! because you, are the real cow, so irrelevant and out of context.
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@: xfg39
You're heartless for the abortion comment. Think before you type, imbecile.
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xfg39
hi
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