I grew up in a household with two younger siblings that I was in charge of. My parents were married for 15 years and one day my Dad decided that he wanted to just bail, leaving my Mom, who doesn't like kids with me, a 6 year old and later on, a baby from her live-in boyfriend. Being that my Mom is a career woman and does not like kids, I was in charge of the kids and as a result, dealing with kids is as natural as breathing to me.
So when I see my neighbor in my apartment sitting her fat ass on her computer while her adorable little daughter pounds on the screen door, day after day, wanting to go outside and play, it hurts me. I've almost been tempted to let her out and take her to a park with me. I love kids and it upsets me when parents have kids and treat them worse than one would treat a pet. They claim to love them and I am sure that they do, and I know from experience how taxing childcare can be but it's as if they see them as simply mouths to feed and checks to collect.
I can't have kids myself because I am working and going to school, but I would love to someday, and if I can't, adopt. I also know many couples, a few of them being homosexual couples, that would almost kill for the chance to have children of their own and all around me I see parents who see their children as little inconveniences... like I said, mouths to feed.
Is it normal that I get upset when I see parents take their kids for granted and treat them that way? And yeah, I know, I'm an asshole and it's none of my business, but I can't help but look and feel so bad for them. I understand that some people have circumstances and what have you, but I highly doubt that every parent that I see taking their kids for granted has a good reason as to why they act like this.
So when I see my neighbor in my apartment sitting her fat ass on her computer while her adorable little daughter pounds on the screen door, day after day, wanting to go outside and play, it hurts me. I've almost been tempted to let her out and take her to a park with me. I love kids and it upsets me when parents have kids and treat them worse than one would treat a pet. They claim to love them and I am sure that they do, and I know from experience how taxing childcare can be but it's as if they see them as simply mouths to feed and checks to collect.
I can't have kids myself because I am working and going to school, but I would love to someday, and if I can't, adopt. I also know many couples, a few of them being homosexual couples, that would almost kill for the chance to have children of their own and all around me I see parents who see their children as little inconveniences... like I said, mouths to feed.
Is it normal that I get upset when I see parents take their kids for granted and treat them that way? And yeah, I know, I'm an asshole and it's none of my business, but I can't help but look and feel so bad for them. I understand that some people have circumstances and what have you, but I highly doubt that every parent that I see taking their kids for granted has a good reason as to why they act like this.
This really really bugs me too!! I teach kids and only ask the parents to spend 10 minutes working with their kids 2-5 nights a week. When they don't bother they tell me they were too busy!! However, if that child were sick or injured and in hospital, they could find hours to travel to the hospital to sit with the child. Why do they only care in a crisis?
The UK government has said women have to go out to work when their youngest kid is a certain age (eg 7yo) so a lot of new babies are being born to stop them losing their benefits :o( It's disgraceful!
You have made her aware though that people are noticing her neglect of this child. Just wave at the kid when you see her or maybe you could give her a balloon or a little doll. Poor wee thing :o(
I agree with you, though. And some people really don't realize what childcare is like. They watch TV and see only the cute smiles and cuddly moments, which comprise 2% of child rearing. I don't know how one could be satisfied with doing the bare minimum for their kids. There are the people that will soon be running society, don't you wish to prepare them for that, or at least ensure that they will be a decent human being when the time comes?
I don't really empathize with such parents, because I feel they may have aged but they are still children, emotionally. (demanding, self centered, whiners...)
I hope that I mature into a giving, loving and supportive adult, so I can take good care of my smeagol babies. lol.