I'm 22 years old and I have never been asked out on a date. I'm not the most outwardly social type of person, but I'm not a hermit either. I'm generally a kind person and don't criticize or have a negative vibe.
But I am rather chubby. not obese, just have a little extra. I'm not sloppy with my apparel, I usually dress well. I can't help but think there must be something wrong with me. I haven't gone out on a single date, or kissed someone..or even held hands with someone. I've never been hit on, and when i go out guys never seem to notice..it's like I'm someone people would rather ignore.
And it's not that I obsess with having a boyfriend or am guy-dependent; it's just that when you get to this age you really start to think on it, you know?
But I am rather chubby. not obese, just have a little extra. I'm not sloppy with my apparel, I usually dress well. I can't help but think there must be something wrong with me. I haven't gone out on a single date, or kissed someone..or even held hands with someone. I've never been hit on, and when i go out guys never seem to notice..it's like I'm someone people would rather ignore.
And it's not that I obsess with having a boyfriend or am guy-dependent; it's just that when you get to this age you really start to think on it, you know?
I'm definitely more shy than most, but when a girl does that to me, I'm over there in an instant.
As hackneyed as this sounds (and good god do I hate cliches), the best thing to do is to "be yourself". That is, don't try to act a particular way that may or may not be more conducive to dating, because that'll lead to a relationship based on false pretenses - an illusion which is sure to shatter.
You are still incredibly young. It only feels like forever because your past is all you've known.
Intrest is incredebly atractive. And we can't read minds.
(Should you not mind going on a date with an older gentleman.)
Now you've been asked out. Feel better?
Maybe the problem is not your outward appearance or behaviour. Why wait for them to ask you out? If you see a man that you like (make certain he is single), ask him out.
Hmmm , dunno , any pics - no you don;t have to but maybe there's too many trim and taunt types around you or , maybe your vibes not as welcoming , vibes huge.
If you look good, and you know you do, then you tend to feel pretty good as well.
You should do this for atleast 3 months straight. And start visualizing guys hitting on you etc.
I know it sounds all flip flop and LOA Bs but its not.
Now as for action, easy, basically all you have to do is be more social and friendly. Like one comment said, Start smiling and looking men in the eyes when you talk to them. Basically your mindset will eventually become a reality and guys will start to see you like you see yourself. At the end of any 'chat' you can say, so, what are you doing tonight? Or later? The rest will happen on its own..
Weird that you're having troubles but normal, most guys these days dont talk to women they don't know for fear of rejection. The guys you talk to probably are sitting back there wondering if you are interested in them or if they seem interesting. Thats the truth. I blablled alot lol but I hope this helps