So there's this girl at the club I go to that Ive had a crush on for a looooong time and Ive always felt she was "out of my league" but tonight while I was being all shy and flirty with her, this other girl who's really fat just straight up asks my crush if she can make out with her, and she says yes... (we're all girls)
I was like.. seriously? Im slim, fit, and hot, and this fat girl can just get some action just like that? I was jealous and then felt bad that I was thinking of the fat girl in a negative way, but I guess I felt more entitled. Should I just be that forward with crushes? Is it normal to get jealous and have mean thoughts like that?
I was like.. seriously? Im slim, fit, and hot, and this fat girl can just get some action just like that? I was jealous and then felt bad that I was thinking of the fat girl in a negative way, but I guess I felt more entitled. Should I just be that forward with crushes? Is it normal to get jealous and have mean thoughts like that?
Someone I know got all bothered about a girl rejecting him in favour of someone else. What was bothering him most is that the guy she went with has a different colour of skin than him or the girl.
He's not overtly racist and he couldn't justify why he was feeling like he was. Regardless of someone's colour, or weight, or anything, really, they're still just a person.
Perhaps you're bothered because a core value of yours (that people who weigh more are less attractive) was challenged in the way it was.
I feel bad for thinking it and I admit Im jealous but it would be untruthful to pretend like I didnt think about it, even for a second.
no let's all pretend we're "modest" and therefore part of the herd of average/unattractive people.
Ferociously hating such behavior to such an intense extreme is rather curious. I wonder what it is that makes you react like that to what you personally perceive to be narcissistic behavior?
Not everyone who points out that they're good looking or intelligent is truly displaying narcissism.
And there's a difference between "I think I'm attractive" and "I'M HOT!!" No, not everyone, but most people saying shit like the latter are, in fact, displaying narcissism.
Being around a person who says shit like "Yeah, I'm hot" makes the listener averted to and skeptical of whatever else the person may say. I'm not the only one who thinks this. Evidently if I was wrong I wouldn't have gotten any thumbs, not would have the other people here who called you cocky.
If you want a true definition of "cockiness" how about someone who is SO sure of themselves, they think they can completely identify, label, and accurately judge someone from a couple of sentences over the internet?
I'm physically attractive, so what? I should lie and pretend to ride the high horse and say that in life people don't notice things like looks and weight? Yeah, pretending the grass isn't green won't change that either.
I already admitted I'm not proud of having negative thoughts towards the large girl, but to pretend like those thoughts don't exist isn't cockiness, it's truthfulness. I only posted the question to find out if other people might have similar thoughts at times.
And I don't believe that you JUST think it's unattractive. You react WAY too strongly to not have "personal" written all over your hatred.
Stop getting so personally offended over all of this. I left one comment and many seemed to agree with me, please just accept this. If you think you're hot, good for you, just know that many upon many people will find you expressing this as cocky behavior.
You are not going to change my opinion. Give up. You can't win 'em all. I really do not give a fuck about what you think because you are literally just words on a screen for me and not a person. You can write me a novella about why you are right and I simply won't be bothered to care.
Before this turns into a sensitive and butthurt battle, I'm out. Because I don't give a shit. Here, you can have the last word.
P.S. You're still cocky
Who's getting personally offended again? The lines are becoming blurry... suddenly judgment sounds like projection.
I'm not trying to "win" anything? Why are you so obsessed with asserting your opinion? Can you not understand that in a world where you have an opinion, there exists other people who have their own? When you try to ram yours down their throats, they just might mention it's not what they want? It's exceedingly hypocritical. It has nothing to do with me being "right".
I'm not right. Neither are you. Because these are opinions. Opinions can never be facts.
Looks shouldn't be everything. So what is that girl is fatter than you, she must be a good person.
Maybe you think you are good looking but truely aren't to her. Just never know... everybody has their own personal preferences of attraction though.
I myself normally don't go for the masculine men. Yes they are good looking but that's not what attracts me. What attracts me most of the time is when the guy is sweet and is happy around me. I can't help but want to be around him when he is happy and has a great smile too. :)
Because if that's how you see the world, as hot and not hot, I wouldn't want to date you. And for all those calling the crush a skank or a ho, why?
It doesn't sound unusual to have a kiss or make out in a club, does it? Lots of judgement going on in this post and that does include me too.
You're probably better off. And its not always about looks either. Sometimes people just look for someone with a brain. I'm not saying that you don't have one, but apparently the girl that you had your eye on that night didn't, and the girl she chose over you didn't either. I mean, who just makes out with some random person? And how could she think that its appropriate at all to ask someone who she barely knows a question like that. Psh... you'll find someone who deserves you. Don't worry.
Besides every last one of you thats calling me shallow or full of myself or that I think Im the shit (which I never said once) are just hypocrites. Theres a huge difference between having a thought and acting on it. I guarantee you all of you have noticed a persons looks before. It only makes you a bad person if you act on it, and the only action I took was to post a question about it.
I guess its more of a thing with confidence and maybe I should be more confident in the future. Its not like I walk around the club thinking "Im so hot and fit and Im the shit" if I was truly that full of myself I wouldnt be shy.
Maybe she wanted some fat dyke man-looking thing and you're a sexy lipstick lesbian so you might not be her type. I went to a lesbian club once with close friends and it was like being a kid in a candy store, so many beautiful girls.
However I saw some of the prettiest ones getting their faces sucked on by some fat bitches who looked like-and I am being very accurate and serious-nasty trucker drivers. I was dumbfounded. So many strange things going on in the world.
And for straight girls-I've seen many that I'd probably be too intimidated to approach, yet they were dating some of the ugliest men around-guys who looked like greasy computer nerds, others who looked like just got out of jail (of every race).
I don't know why some beautiful girls are impossible to get while others will date Quasimodo, but that's how life goes. Now I just go after what I want and I don't really care what others do.
I just totally admire feminine beauty and I guess I sometimes feel inadequate when a masculine woman appeals to someone I like, like "whats wrong with me being femme thats not good enough?"
I know looks arent everything of course but Im not so concerned with looking morally up on the high horse that I cant talk candidly about looks. Personality is of course the main deciding factor, but still... when the gorgeous lipstick girl who puts models to shame is hanging out with the biker chick with more facial hair than most dudes with a 5 oclock shadow... sometimes ya wonder
Like you I also really, really admire feminine beauty and if you happen to have won the genetic lottery, then consider yourself lucky. I respect women like yourself who put in time and effort to look good. Perhaps your attractiveness intimidates others? Either way thank your lucky stars and keep fishing-you'll no doubt find some beautiful girl who's in a similar boat.
While looks "aren't everything", they are still very important-at least to people like me. It may sound superficial but the fact is that I can't be with someone I'm not attracted to. It's usually ugly/ordinary people who push that view.
I want a girl who makes my pulse race when I see her, who makes me want to travel 1000 miles to be with her and who makes me feel vital and alive. It's hard to find girls like that but I'd rather wait than to settle with an average girl who doesn't excite me at all.
Certainly personality matters a lot too-hard to be with someone who's an idiot or is just plain weird in a not so cute way. Hey it's also Evolution, that is why tigers are terrifying and extremely beautiful at the same time. Nobody mated with the ugly ones and they died off. :P
Now I just need to find me a sexy and sweet girl to shower her with some of that goodness too. :D
if you like your men to be rambunctious and can walk on their knuckles, hit me up. lol
But you never know, you crush might have said yes to anyone (including you), if she was just horny and easy. People like that do exist.
But are you single?