I am 30 years old and I can't remember a time that I actually liked my mom. She wasn't mean to me, didn't abuse me or anything, never kicked me out. But she was very controlling, lied to me, and still is very manipulative. I have grown to be just the opposite. I don't like the way she divorced my father and I don't like the choices she has made in her life. She makes all wrong choices for herself including her finanical situation and marrying a guy that I don't like. My brother and my sister feel the same way. Now that my mom lives in driving distance, I'm having a really hard time with it. She wants to talk to me everyday and it seems like no matter how mean I am she just doesn't get the picture. Then when she asks why I am saying mean things, I tell her what upset me to say them, and she starts crying and having a pity party and tells me she is going through a lot of things and that I'm mean. I would like to have a good relationship with my mother, but I know that we are 2 totally dfferent people and to have a great relationship where we communicate and I can tell her things may not be realistic. I just don't want to be so miserable when I talk to her or when I'm around her. I just started to see a therapist so hopefully that will helpe a little. Any advice?