IIN to think that "Open" relationships are a crock of baloney?

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It's not "cheating" because everything is out in the open, and the couple is usually in the habit of sharing their feelings with each other often, so that everyone is always on the same page.

For some couples, the sex that happens outside of the marriage, is sort of like an intense form of masturbation; no emotional attachment is made between the spouse and the sex-partner. People in working open relationships still have sex with each other, and having extra sex-partners can be very exciting and stimulating for the couple and make their sexual moments with each other more intimate. An open relationship requires both spouses to have 100% confidence in their spouse that they will not leave them for someone else.

When you have a so-called open relationship where only one person is having sex outside the relationship, or if any aspect of it is hidden from the spouse, well then, it is not truly an "open" relationship, and should not be associated with this lifestyle choice. What it is called is; cheating.

I think that because too many people, who are in reality just "cheaters", say that they are in an open relationship to justify their cheating ways. Those people confuse the rest of society into thinking negatively about real open relationships because they can't tell the difference between the two.

It's not a lifestyle that I will ever lead, but at least I'm not so close-minded that I would label as wrong or a "crock-of-baloney" - that is prejudice thinking.

You make Love to your spouse and you fuck other people. I don't think it's that big of a deal for people who are not prone to jealous behavior. It may not be "normal", but that doesn't mean it's wrong.

You do have a very valid point there. You're more than normal.

same ^ this is true, they make little sense.

They want a serious relationship, but also the option to fool around. It's the easy way out.

I never understand open relationships. You must have some sort of immunity to infractuation or love for them to work. I just don't get it, and never will.

yeah i agree..i don't really understand relationships where you're allowed to cheat. you'd think if two people have a relationship, they only want to see each other and no one else. when people want to see other people, they should just go their separate ways. it's that simple. but whatever, that's just my opinion...

You have to be secure, honest, and open for it to work.
Hey, monogamous relationships aren't for everybody. Don't judge.

They can work, but both people need to understand exactly what it is and want it to happen.

I've found that is pretty rare. But I do know some people that it has worked.

It's pretty mainstream to think it won't work. The person that said you have to be open minded is totally correct. Most mainstream people aren't very open minded.

All relationships are open...its just whether the other person is ignorant about it....

It takes a special kind of evil to cheat. To not only betray someone but to get off on it is sick. I'm open to consider most forms of lifestyle. But if you care about someone cheating/ swinging/ fooling around should feel just wrong.

Its not normal and its not right.
I will never support it.

its only cheating if you do it without the others knowledge, or if you do it against the others wishes.

if you both like the idea of having other sex partners, but still love each other and trust each other completely, then its not cheating.

I don't understand that if u love someone, why you would want to sleep with someone else. But that's just me. I'd never do it myself but if other people can live with it then fine, I would never have this kind of relationship though.

You are normal op after being on this site I'm realizing more and more that most people are ignorant and don't see the world how it is but how they want it to be and whoever said intense masterbation come on can you really compare sex to masturbation if you are with someone that wants to fuck other people ditch their ass

To be in an open relationship you need to be "open" minded , which your clearly not . The people who enter these relationships are people who both want someone to go back to and share their company. The reason it is hard to understand is because it is complex and therefor not many people ever do this , but there is the few that do and it can work.

Fuck yeah, I don't understand this relationships neither. These days people are crazy, but don't give a damn fuck, just ignore them and stay with one girl. I say it's normal to hate this people @_@