Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost eight years. We are both mid twenties and we have two kids. It was rocky for the first few years and we had a lot to learn about each other. Now we own a house, both have stable jobs and are comfortable. So, the big kicker is he has no intentions of marrying me at this point in our lives and I'm not sure I'm ready. However, there is no affection from him. He is a hard worker, doesn't drink, is a great person and dad... But, he never comments about how I look or how much he loves me. He does not hug, kiss, snuggle, or any of that (and yes I've asked politely). We do have sex and it is more than satisfying, but there is no passion, no yearning. I'm young, thin and not bad on the eyes and if I parade around for him in my undies I get no reaction, none, nothing, nadda! I get hit on frequently and I always ignore it and turn them down. But I want affection. Is it wrong to consider leaving someone who is stable and a good man just because I want physical contact? And how fair would that be to my children? Should I stay and live an ok stable life but never truly be happy, or be selfish and risk everything to find a person that will love me AND show me they love me and not just be a stable person?