im 18 and i have a huge intimacy problem!!! HELP!!!!

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This gut feeling...is it because you're afraid of failure or disappointment in the relationship?

ok well this is what you need go to a bar get wasted and pick out the first average looking joe you see and do him trust me its going to work :)

Intimacy problems usually stem from a fear of rejection. Maybe a past boyfriend humiliated you, or maybe your dad has brought you up to think that sex is something to be ashamed of.

Whatever the problem, it's not going to go away by itself. It may sound a bit daunting, but you need professional help. You're at the age now where you'll want to start exploring sex and stuff, and if you don't fix it now, you'll kick yourself 10 years down the line. You'll think 'sh*t, I missed-out on so much'

Maybe your Dad is also letting you know not to freak out about it all that much. 18 is young. You just aren't emotionally ready for a big deal relationship - it is not in your comfort zone. So relax.

PS - Don't young people just date anymore without all the emotional & sexual baggage? Well, maybe that never was the case. I dunno...

iv made plenty of stupid decisions in my time involving relationships, to be honest i wish i had never got into them and just stayed single, cos all they did was mess me up.
just take it as it comes, eventually u will come across someone that u feel comfortable with and wont mind them being emotinally close to ya.
good luck

I have the same issue. Any time that I am attracted to a boy I have this intense urge to get to know everything about him. I love to joke around and we usually hit it off perfectly. I just have a huge intimacy problem. I am not affectionate at all, and I tell myself that I would be completely satisfied just being friends with him, and it never goes any further. Although, I sometimes think about how much I'm missing out on. I would like to connect with someone on a more romantic level someday, haha. You know, just to experience it.
Another problem I have is that I am not impulsive or spontaneous enough when it comes to relationships. If I acted how I felt when I felt it there wouldn't be a problem. Instead I hold myself back trying to get a feel for the kind of person they are, and by that time I've convinced myself not to do anything.

thanks this comment actuall helped me alot =)

thanks this comment really helped me out =)