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I'm a guy, and I hate sex
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Sigh, yes, I do. I hate it.
Why?
I find the sight of female genetalia unshaved gross, for starters. I am no gay, either...I should remind you before I go at this.
I have no been able to have sex because I never felt comfortable with it. Plus, I hate women. My whole life has been a wasted effort. Soem girls have been good, yes, but, by the time I meet them, I am already too damaged and hurt to actually step forward with them.
I can not get myself to do it. I don't party, I don't go to bars, I don't generally flirt around. I am 22 years old, mind you.
I hate sex. I see it as a pointless act. I don't see what is so good about it. I don't see what holes it fill's *pun nonintended*, or what use it is for other than for the sake of fun...fun I cannot find.
I am not sure I will ever find a way to enjoy sex. I have already decided I am gonna die a virgin, and somehow, I am okay with that, knowing I did not loose it or give it away to someone who did not deserve it.
I want to to be special...I do0n't want to bhe like the rest of my generation. The price I pay for being different.
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I'm 21 and while I don't "hate" sex, I just don't care about it. I've never wanted sex, I'm straight, and otherwise a rather typical guy, I love sports, drinking, but I just never liked sex. I'm not repulsed by it, just neutral. There are so many other things I'd rather do with my time. I don't really date, because I don't really feel that urge to. I have a good social life, allot of friends, and I like my classes, and all that. I look at it this way, if your an atheist, religion just isn't part of your life, if you don't want sex, than sex just isn't part of your life.
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i'm a guy and i hate sex as well .. and i'm not gay too

i think it's the shortest way to destroy an essential virtue ... innocence

i think it's like hunger .. only a need that can be filled one time only ..

and like food .. you eat more food .. you become fatter .. you have more sex .. you become an animal ...

there are alot of things more important than sex .. in fact everything is !!

some people say that love expresses it self with sex .. that sex is the the most true expression of love .. well i say .. bullshit!!

love ain't about that at all. love is about caring for other people, listening to them, being there for them in hard times, encouraging them, supporting them, making them believe that you can sell the world just to make them happy ... that's love ..

well if you wanna say i'm soft, idon't care, but that's the way it is!!
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I wish more men were like you.
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someone gets me, i am female and with a guy who is sex addicted and I can not get out. I am glad you understand it really gives me the strength i need to maybe get out of this awful controlling relationship that is just tearing me apart everyday.thanks all you sex hating males i need you all as friends plz find me soon, come take me away from this hellish life where sex is it and i can not compete.
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I think I already love you! :D Just kidding but I hope to find someone like you once in my life.
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Dude i dont think ur not normal.. its kinda good to see there is someone in the fucked up world that are like me
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Sex is overrated. At least you aren't controlled by your penis. You might be able to think straight and be nice to women!
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Well, maybe you're just asexual and don't have those sorts of urges. If you want to be celibate, be celibate, it's not a bad thing, it's your body and you should do what you want with it. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons; if you're considering because you feel bitter that sex hasn't worked out for you so far, then vowing celibacy for the rest of your life is probably just going to make you more unhappy. I'm not saying that is the case, I don't know you so I wouldn't be able to tell, but just try to keep an open mind in case you find someone you are interested in that way.
I think it's pretty normal btw :)
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You have the rights not to have sex. The reason we have genitals so you mate. But most people use it for entertainment. I find it gross. I'd watch cartoon: not real. It's sick.
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Oh my God, THEY DO EXIST!
I love you! Except for hating women, I know sometimes we can be bitchy complex impossible to understand nagging emotional obsessive talking people. But WE'RE NOT ALL LIKE THAT! If anything I will listen to the guys point of view and try my best to understand his opinions about life and etc.

Anyway, it's GREAT that you can concentrate with the opposite gender without thinking about sex every second. But it's sort of weird that you HATE sex. But your normal, you just don't like sex, doesn't make you wrong in ANY way. :)
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So girls do like guys like that? I was searching for a long time on google today trying to figure out whats wrong with me =/ Im the only guy iv ever heard of like this until I saw this guys post finally I didn't feel completely alone im only a sophomore though not in my 20s so its harder because I have to be with all the other kids who are total opposite of me and only think of sex everyday and at my school the guys are bad but the girls seem to be even more sex addicted every girl or guy iv ever met is like that I was worried i'd be alone for ever =/
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@: PV0011
yeah I'm definitely like that type of guy. Actually a man with no strong inclination in sex, is type that I hope God would let me end up with. If ever not granted, I rather be alone for the rest of my life.
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I'm so happy people like you exist. (: I'm like that, but female.
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I don't know if sex is "pointless" but i can see where you are coming from, the only reason sex feels good is because we need to reproduce.
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me i hate sex.birth and cum running out..sucks..i wish men look women as a person not a piece of ass.to all men don't like sex,needs to win a award..
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what do i get men that are perverts.i be haapy find man hates sex..
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Oh wow I didn't know that there were so many guys like me on here. I thought I was the only guy out there that didn't like sex lol its hot, gooey, sticky and grose!
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I am a female with the same thoughts and I am being mentally torn apart by my supossed husband and I am looking for someone with the same frame of mind to give me the courage to leave his but.
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Omg I that I was the only dude in the world who didn't care about sex as much as other dudes do, I thought something was wrong with me I just don't care about it, I feel like its more important things to think about then just sex I'm not gay either I love females and only females that's why I thought I was just werid
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plz contact me i too could care less about sex and we share some common ground here thanks.p.s its nice to know your out there. :)
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I'm middleaged, and I've never liked it. Not much, anyway. I just labored under the misperception that I *had* to like it, and I'm ashamed of that, because all it brought me was sorrow and murderous rage. I don't like women, either, not a heckuva lot, anyway. My wife--we live in a sexless marriage--is one of the few I have the time of day for.
My main gripe about sex is the aesthetics of it. It smells bad. It sounds frightening. It feels gross while it's still feeling good, which doesn't work for me. Other people's bodies, unclothed, largely turn me off, up close and personal. And, the fact that this gutter, farmyard behavior is considered "the proper form" (and if you don't wallow in it with glee, somehow, *you're* the weirdo), just makes me nauseous.
Don't mistake me. I love to give and receive affection. I hug everyone. I was never embarrassed, even in adulthood, to kiss my Dad. My wife and I cuddle all the time. And, as for the gay thing, I tried it once, and it was more alien--for me--than sex with a woman.
So...is it normal? Take heart, dudes and duchesses. There is no known state of human beingness which is "the correct form". There's only what Bill Maher calls "sanity by consensus".
And, to the adamant virgin: I envy you. You don't know how much. I wish I could have been myself in this Life, instead of trying to be "normal".
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I agree with you (helloclarice) that sex can sometimes be aesthetically unappealing. Not all guys/girls are as hygienic or waxed as well as models/film actors, and the lighting is never as flattering in real life as it is in magazines or Hollywood movies. I have been with some very attractive girls, though, who were Playboy quality in a physical sense. Some of these girls still had problems actually doing all the things described in the sex-manuals as 'normal'. In North America, despite the popular idea that sex is everywhere and you are 'very cool' if you're doing it a lot, it's still not talked about that much. I think it's the whole California, west-coast ideology, the Hugh Hefner Playboy mentality that dominates popular tv shows like Sex in the City, and Desperate Housewives. It's still kind of hush-hush, and sex really isn't something that just comes naturally. It's challenging to do well, and it sometimes doesn't work, even with the most attractive partners. I've met girls who were stunning, but awkward in the bedroom, and despite amazing bodies, found it painful and uncomfortable. Real life is so totally at odds, and so much more complex than television and film suggest, that it's really quite confusing at times. Sometimes the chemistry is right and it's very natural, other times it just doesn't suit the relationship. I've found it easier to be friends with some attractive women I know, than have a physical relationship with them. Of course, what is attractive, is purely subjective. Sex is a very odd thing though, I have to admit. Saying no to a sex with a girl, if you're tired, or not into it at the moment, still provokes a strong reaction. It still seems as though girls can say no, quite freely, but as a guy if you say no, it's socially unacceptable. It's one of the few double-standards that work against us guys!
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dude, I think you're awesome. just for the record, I'm female and hate sex. not only is a lot of that s**t diseased, but like you said it does no good and I think it's disgusting. by the way, let me break it to every man that's reading this. women do not have orgasms by intercourse. if they say they do they're lying or acting. women, go ahead, disagree and try to make men feel better. be as out of control about it as you like. rock on.
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CEE
its normal but the part about doing it to be special is a dumb reason to hate it
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What you should have done was deck that bitch im with you on this one sex has got to be the most boring thing you can be able to do on gods green earth thats why I cut may dick off.
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I'm the same way.. Is there a place to meet people that just want to be together? I enjoy hanging out and I don't mind sex.. I'm just not that into it like most dudes
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there are plenty of woman who hate sex and I want to create a chat room for it, just for people like us who get totally disgusted in that area. I just am not sure how.
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i don't care about sex.it is for a man fun,not mine..what get pg..no..most men look at women as slave,bank,sex,mother..man at top page said,he hates sex,he can be my best friend.we need 90% more those men ..
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After reading this, I just felt I need to apologize for thinking that all men only thinks about sex. It is really engraved in my mind that sex is everything to men. And a man who doesnt inclined to this kind of act is nowhere to be find. I hope I could find someone like them, a man who doesnt care about physical intimacy and just be happy without this they called "BONDS".

I have this idea that once a couple engaged in sex, it would be hard for them to remove in their routine, that it will be definitely the thing they would always seek from their partner, am I right or not always the case?

This is what I dont like in sex especially in a relationship, I think that the genuinity of love you have for a girl/man would be replaced with worldly lewd desire from each other?

Thanks everyone. I feel the my refute about sex is normal. :D thank you guys! the rare species in this earth. I love you! :D
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Aye im an 18 yr old male I have had sex to tell you the truth I could easily find hundreds of ways to better spend my time Idk what it is but I absolutely hate sex other then being the way we mate I feel it is useless it is also the reasons for all the abortions aka the murder of unborn babys and for all the people who dont want kids don't have sex anyway I agree that it is useless
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I don't think it's normal at all. The part about sex is somewhat understandable but to hate women altogether is just wrong. It's obvious that this hatred toward women fuels your dislike of sex. Why would you want to have sex if you don't like the person you are with? You make the wrong choices all over again then blame all the women in the world. No my friend, the fault is with you. Don't ever expect your situation to change until you sort out all your problems.
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First ok I agree with you on the part about girls that done shave that is gross but other than that I dont see it. I think you are too up tight and too into yourself. Go out and party you are young and thats what you should be doing having fun with friends and just let all the cares go. Im 19 and I have had some ups and downs with girls but that doesnt stop me at all. I believe that what happens is all what leads me to here. I think sex should be taking seriously and only if you love somebody. Its a sexual attraction towards 2 people and its a good thing I dont see how its possible to hate sex or women for that matter.
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@: Ramit10
It's simple you think for 17 years about how much people deserve to die start punching pregnant girls in the stomach preform castrations on men by force and preform the procedure on your self or at least that's how i learned it's possible
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how can you hate women? they are beautiful they have a beautiful body and they are some really sweet women out there you most be gay
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@: chewy
*cough* I think your retarded... Growing Up I found men to be more sweet as women are always bitches and bring up shit that happened like ten years ago and use that to ruin people's lives.
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