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I am a 22 year old male in love with my best friend of 12 years who is also a 22 year old male. I have never had any feelings like this for another guy, but I think now I might be bi. He claims to be straight, and this is why I am writing to you. We have been best friends forever, and have always been extremly close with each other as normal friends, but I think I might of had a crush on him for several years. I never paid too much attention to it, so it was not a problem. I would do anything for him, and he says the same about me. I always had a sense that he could be gay, or bi, as he has only had one girl friend, and I have never seen him talk about girls, or sexual things. He is a very closed quiet person, very to himself. I have been his ONLY friend for as long as I can remember. Anyways, About 2 years ago, I asked him to be my business partner, and thats when I really started having heavy feelings for him. Whenever we worked, we would
use the same computer, and sit very close to one another on the couch. As time progressed, I started putting my hands on his leg, and then his inner thigh, and so on. We both never said
anything about it, and just acted like nothing was ever happening. One day, it progressed to me rubbing, and playing with his parts. I could tell by how it felt, that he was enjoying
this. This kind of thing went on for quite a while. It was always the same, him just sitting there, and letting me do this to him. He never returned the same kind of action to me, and we never said a thing about it. I started to try to be more aggressive, and trying to build my self up tp kiss him. We were constantly cuddling together, and we would tell each other "I LOVE YOU" Several times we almost kissed, but it did not happen. Then about 2 months ago, I wanted him so bad, I could not take it anymore, and I asked if I could kiss him, because I was sure he would be cool with it. He freaked out to my suprise, and was acting like we had never done anything remotly gay, and told me that he is completly straight. He did not talk to me for several days (the longest sense we met). He said he was freaked out, and he might never talk to me again, as he did not feel like he knew me at this point. Like I was a completly different person. After a few days, he decided he wanted to be my friend, and he would try to forget about it. Well, now we are closer than ever , and we were all over each other tonight, and almost kissed. But like always he pretend like this is normal, and he is straight. Please let me know what you think about this. Is he gay?
Should I confront him, or just take it one day at a time? I know how lame I must sound, but I really love him, and I feel like I will take it as slow as I need to, if I can be with him at some point. Am I wasting my time? Please help
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(Continued from above) - Fast forward to now and I'm still confused! We never spoke a word about that day. And here is where it gets awkward if you didn't already think it was. He has a new girlfriend now and just a week or two I let her use my phone and she went through it and found some "gay" stuff or whatever and told him she thinks I'm bi or something.. which I am...he actually confronted me about it so I told him. I told him yeah I am bi. He told me it was fine and he's still my best friend no matter what and not to worry about it. SERIOUSLY???? Like he didn't know? We only hooked up for a year, were basically a couple at one point and flirted for the rest of the time and his flirting was dry humping me and grabbin my cock.lmao. and then I told him that I was so confused because although Id consider myself bi I've only ever had feelings for him and that I still love him. He told me he loves me too and I'm his bestfriend.
So the story ends pretty much the same way it started. A couple days ago we were hanging out and he leaned in to kiss me after all this time but he did it like he did before , jokingly, but I leaned right him and kissed him, just a quick peck on the lips, he jumps back but this time instead of being weirded out by it he just laughs and says you kissed me! All I could think was oh no here we go again.......now all I can do is hope ill be stroking and blowing him sometime soon =) its been on my mind constantly since that kiss and that's kinda how I stumbled across this forum ...so that's it...ill keep you guys updated, that is if anyone even looks at this.if no one does oh well I needed to get that off my chest ... sorry so long, there really is so much more just figured no one would have the patience to keep reading ..lol..if you did read it then thankyou ;)
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My story is kind of similar to yours...im in the closet and im also in love with my best friend but i dont know if he is gay or not... When i first saw him i instantly liked him and thought he was cute (weird because he is not really my type) i never really became close with him until we sat at the same lunch table in school. During lunch we randomly started to get closer and he would start acting gay towards me (slapping my ass, staring at me, always touching me,etc.) in front of everyone. I dont know if he was just joking with me but of course i started really liking him. We started getting close by going to a lot of parties together and i wish that i could get him drunk to see if he would do anything to me but he cant drink because he is diabetic. We now hangout all the time and he sometimes does very gay things and it always makes me want to just kiss him! He always holds my hand randomly, gets his face really close to mine while he talks and his friends have to pull him away from me (they think he is gay and im turning him even more gay), he always tells me he loves me and doesnt want to leave me, and he always hugs me and doesnt let go for a while which i have to get him off of me so that my other friends wont know im gay (but really want him to never let me go). But heres where it gets weird, he always talks about girls and recently kissed a girl for the first time (tongue) and i think he wants to do a lot more with girls ( ive kissed a lot of girls before while he only kissed 1) also a while ago i texted him and told him i was gay and he said he would still be my best friend but he will never be gay (im hoping he said thathe wouldnt be gay only because someone in his family was reading my texts when he was texting me) and i told him i was lying about being gay because i didnt want our friendship to change. Its soo weird because all my friends think we are gay and an actual couple but i dont know what to do and want to know if he is gay or not so badly because i love him and just want to kiss him every second of the day.. HELP ME PLEASE!
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hey.. I'm 25 years old and I'm pretty sure I am gay. I have been best friends with my straight guy friend for the past 6 years and he is also 25. we call each other brothers. he is the all American guy, played soccer all his life and every girl thinks he's so hot. I've come to realize within the past year that I think I really 'like' him. I would do anything for this guy. it's been eating me alive because I have not come out to anyone and everyone thinks I'm straight.

but here's the thing.. whenever we get drunk, I always sleep at his house, in his room. we start off both on his bed, me sitting by his feet and I always end up , massaging his feet.. the his legs.. and sometimes up to his thighs. I'll ask in hone middle of, massaging, "does it feel good?" and he would reply, "yeah" softly because he's about to knock out. the next morning it's always as if nothing happened. this has occurred about 7 times. and then last weekend we went camping along with his other brother. his other didn't want to sleep in the tent so the tent was left to me and my best friend. we had been drinking and once we were getting for bed and in our sleeping bags, he said, "how do you want me? massage my back ya?" and of course I did. I put my hands under his sweater so I could massage his skin and there were points where I would massage his pelvic area and I could feel his pubes... trust me I was scared every time it went near his private area.. and then same thing, next morning, it was as if nothing happened the night before.

it drives me crazy bc I care so much for him and I can't tell anyone about this. someone talk to me please..
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And here I was thinking that I was the only person that has been caught in this madly confusing, heart wrenching situation. Believe me when I say I know how you feel.I've been in love with my best friend for 7 years.I am now 20.. So here's how it happened to me.
I moved to a new school in 8th grade. The first day of school I met this kid(not the now bestfriend) and ended up going to his house after school. That's where I met his brother, I liked him as soon as we met. This was when I was just starting to be curious about guys. Anyways me and him became friends and started hanging out everyday after school. We took the same bus and lived right down the street from eachother.
After not to long he became "flirtatious" with me. Ass-slapping, winking, stuff like that. So I started doing it back. One day he pulled out his junk and hit me across the face! I was stunned, all I could do was smile. I'm guessing because of my positive reaction days to come after that the flirting intensified. We'd fake kiss and get closer to actually kissing each time.it drove me crazy because I really did want to kiss him so bad. So one day I leaned in that much more and landed one on his lips. Here's where it starts to get weird, he jolts back after in shock like wtf? Says eww or something like that and you actually kissed me? I thought that was the end right there, I was devastated .in reality that was only the beggining.
One night we were drinking and we were flirting like usual and we kissed.we headed to the bedroom and started feeling eachother. We both went down eachothers pants and started stroking eachother. We continued to do so until we both came.The next day though it was like it never happened he even made it clear that he didn't remember anything from the night before. I was so confused.
Fast forward a week and at night he was going to bed and as I went to leave the room he grabbed my arm and told me to come to bed with him and to sleep together. He didn't have to ask me twice =) .... I got into bed with him
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Wow--this story is similar to mine. My best friend and I sometimes sit close and I give him massages. He has allowed me to pull down his pants and seems to enjoy it. I also have seen him look at me in the urinal and he has angled himself so that I could see him. He likes to spend almost all of his free time with me. But he never reciprocates. I get very turned on by him, but am unclear as to what he wants. He absolutely denies being gay and talks about women, but never seems to pursue them either. Any thoughts?
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@: hiker
I know exactly how you feel.... I have male friend that I have been trying to figure out for years! It is often very frustrating! I met him when he was dating one of best gal pals...who broke up with him because she felt she was dating me..hello. I could tell he was interested in me by the way he looked at me. The first time he came onto me, we were in my friends hot tub, when we were touchy feely under the bubbles with other friends. I felt terriable about this, and was concerned my friend was dating a gay man. Needless to say, he and I lost touch with one another... then all of sudden hes back in my life. We went to outdoor concernts together and he holds my hand through the concert and through the streets. Yet when I ask him if hes gay, he says no?? He acts like my boyfriend... and I feel like we are friends without benefits! He calls me when I go on dates and acts jealous! Now we are snuggling... and still he claims to be straight... talks about girls in front me as well... all of sudden he has dirty magizines around the house! I told him...is this for my benefit or what? Yet he doesn't seem to mind when we either fall asleep near one another... and I end up massaging him.... and kissing him everywhere....and pretends hes sleeping... like that wouldn't wake you!!! Yet he still presists to be straight... and makes me feel like I am lossing my mind sometimes. Not sure why I have feelings for this man... there are so many things we relate well too...we just can't seem to get past this major issue. Or should I say, he can't seem to shit or get off the pot! This is horriable... I know positive thinking and be helpful...but at times I just don't know... maybe there something wrong with me? I find myself falling for him... and we never had sex...we didn't even kiss on the lips! I could go on and on about this one!! It's annoying... I suspose we could prepare notes!! Help!! This is going on for years...will this man ever feel comfortable to finally make this official..or am I nuts
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From your story, sounds like your friend is attracted to men otherwise would not be a willing partner to your touching. If someone says no, best not to force it. Likely he is indecisive and apprehensive about his own sexual orientation and is reluctant to admit his attraction towards men. Whether he is gay or bi doesn't really matter, that he says no does matter. Let him resolve his own issues, not for you to do or to pressure him. A lack of communication and honesty from the both of you is a hindrance to your personal fulfillment and likely his too. I don't play games with women, but that's just me, so do as you please.
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(Continued from above) - I got into bed with him and we got really close and started rubbing eachother, we unzipped eachothers pants and pulled out eachothers junk and began stroking eachother off. I then asked him if he wanted me to do anything else( I've been dying to blow him) and he told me to "put my mouth on it". I smiled, kissed him and slowly pecked him down his neck, his chest, onto his stomach, took a deep breath and started to blow him. I did so for a few minutes and then finished him off by jerking him off.(wish I just finished by blowing him lol) anyways he finished and he finished stroking me till I came too..
Next day, same thinh as last time, like it never happened and he claimed he didn't remember what happened the night before.. we continued doing this everyweekend for some time.him saying he didn't remember stopped but we still never would talk about it we would just do it and then it would be like we didn't..I figured something wasn't right because it was usually me pleasuring him, he would beat me off but never would go down on me and sometimes wouldn't even pleasure me at all.I really didn't care though because I loved being able to do that to him.
We started telling eachother we loved one another and we would fool around regularly, not only when we were drinking. I've never been so turned on by someone in my whole life. The slightest touch by him gave me a raging hard-on. And he was always slappin my ass or something which meant I was almost constantly hard whenever I was with him. To be honest I'm getting hard just writing this. It was along time ago but I still love him, now more then ever.. we always told eachother it wasn't gay if it was only me and him doing it.
So before this turns into a novel ill try and shorten the rest lol. So next thing I know he starts dating a girl! I was in shock.. well he still told me he loved me and we still fooled around but then it slowed down and then eventually stopped..she was blowing him everyday so why'd he need me anymore you know? He dated her for the next 5 years, we stopped hooking up by the end of their 1st year together but continued to flirt with eachother. I was still madly in love with him and he would barely give me the time of day.
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nice english, seriously only a few gramatical errors, anyway, i think he might be gay but i know how you feel im gonna post a story soon about it but i am so afraid of telling my friend that i love him cause i dont wanna lose him, its hard and when it feels right just ask him, if you have AIM, MSN, or any instant messanger, I'd joke around on that first, say like "Hey i love you" or something like that and see how he responds, if its negative say "jk" or something like that. lol if anything didnt make sense let me know, good luck man
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good to see i'm not the only one who's going through something similar. unlike most of you who have commented on this story, i've only known the boy i'm crazy about for 5 months (since school started). we have only just recently started hanging out (the past 5 weeks or so) but i know we've noticed each other since the beginning. on countless occasions (before we started hanging out or even knew each other) i would catch him staring at me and he would catch me staring at him. sometimes i'll look away and glance back at him and he'll still be looking at me. i think a normal straight guy would've already deemed this "gay" and would not have even wanted to hang out with me. most things about him come across as gay as well. the way he composes himself, how he says certain words, how he walks, etc. he claims he's straight (that's why i have yet to approach him about my feelings) however he never talks about girls with me when we hang out. when we're with friends he is often quick to turn down the subject of girls. it's mainly the staring that has me confused though. i've lost count of how many times we have caught each other looking in to each others eyes. when we watch movies i can feel his eyes burning a hole in the side of my head. we were on a set recently in class and i happened to look over at him. he was looking directly at me and the lights lit up his eyes. i stared back at him for about 30 seconds and he eventually just looked away. i just want to kiss him once but i'm afraid the rejection would be too harsh. i'm aware that he "likes" a girl in our class but he won't do anything about it. he's very shy and does not speak much, but i think his actions are speaking louder than words. when he looks at me and smiles i just want to melt. it's driving me crazy! perhaps he's bi... i can only hope :(
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dude, i'm 16, i have the same problem, i have a best friend, and when i first met him i thought he was so sexy, but there are two problems, i'm in the closet, and i dont know if he is gay/bi. but there is a rumor going around school that he had sex with this guy, and he really loves me and i love him, sometimes i catch him staring at my privates or at me period. im confused. What i can say is invite him to sleep over and start wrestling...it could lead to something more :)
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It actually makes me feel better now that I know I am not the only one with this...dilemma.
Here is my story:
I just became friends with this guy (same age as me) and we have been friends since last August. Now I really didn't think too much of him at first, but soon I started to slowly but surely like him. It's weird because when I first met him, I thought he was a little full of himself, and little arrogant and self absorbed, but then I noticed that during English class, no one asked to be his partner, so I figured he was just an impressionist and that there was more to him than that. Me being the curious person I am, introduced myself and things just took off from there. Now I really didn't start to fall for him until we had a phone conversation one night. I let him know that my first two years of high school I "experiment" a lot with both sexes and that I was what you would call "bi-curious". He didn't seem to have a problem with it, he just didn't understand it. He then told me about his experience with girls and only girls and so we started understanding each other from then on. Now here is where it gets weird, and the confusion sets in...When he has stayed over my house, he always finds some way to sleep right next to me in my big room. Whether it be on my bed or some random place on teh floor, he always trys to snuggle right next to me. Also, every single time he sees me, he feels the need to rub my head or my shoulder or back (my friends have noticed this too). Once when I was sleeping on my bed, he jumped right on top of me and started rocking back and forth like we were gettin' busy. He has actually licked my arm and my hand before but didn't seem grossed out, and he seems to like to but his hand in his ass reagion an awful lot when he gets relaxed. You think that is weird, well the wierdest time came when I stayed over for his birthday. Our friend fell alseep and I was on the floor, that is when he leaned over his couch and put his ass in my face, and asked me "Would you each a cherry out of my ass if I asked you to?" or "Would you give me a rim job and F**k me really really hard?" When I didn't say anything he kept asking me (even though it was making me hard that he did that). Long story short, that night ended with him showing me his balls and also trying consecutively to look into my pants. To be honest, I am so confused because I really do love him so much, and he gives all these gay signs like smaking me in the ass all the time and trying his best to get near me no matter where we are, but at the same time he says "huge tits" this and "big tits" that, and also the porn websites he goes on he knows the stars names by heart as well as the name of the sites. He has a gay posture about him (with his voice and all), but he tells me that he is somewhat anti-gay.
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(continued)we got really drunk at his friends house and for some odd reason he decided to pass out early, he took off his pants and went under the covers, i think he told me to sleep next to him so i did. we started spooning and i rubbed his chest and his stomach, eventually working my way down even kissing his back. i know he was awake but faking he was sleeping. it was kinda awkward cuz our other good friend was in the same bed...lol but i dont think i woke him.. so i eventually got down there and he was already hard. and so was i. he has a big C**k btw. so i jerked him for a little while. as i was doing that he arched his back and pushed his butt into my crotch he kept doing it. i wanted to have sex with him so bad but we deff would of woke up the people in the room. so i just let it throb thru my boxer briefs. i know he was loving it. eventually he turned and faced me "still sleeping" and i kissed his lips but he only gave me a little peck back for some reason. i kept trying to kiss him but he never used tongue... while he was facing me i put my junk on his and jerked them together. in like 30 sec he came all over me. then he rolled back over and went back to sleep i ended up spooning with him again and like 20 min later he got hard again so we did it all over again. sept this time i knew he wanted it in the butt so i fingered him for a little bit. i wasn't sure if he liked it...so i rolled over so my back was towards him and i could feel him wanting to put it in but he must of known we would of been to loud. i reached behind me and put his unit between my legs and cheeks i could feel him throbbing thru my undies. then he shot another load. the whole night was amazing. but after a while he got up and slept on the floor. i think it was cuz the room was really hot and the floor was nice and cool.
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I am in the same situation with one of my best friends, we fondled around and jerked each other off when we were stoned then the next week we did it sober but now we havn't shared a bed in ages... I always check out his arse when he's bending over in his tight pants and like to start wrestling with him cos I get hard so easily. I'm really jelous of your situation that sounds amazing, hopefully it wont be that hard to move on and find another hot guy.
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(end) we both woke up and i could tell something was wrong. not only were we hung over. its like he regretted everything. so i felt even more awful. we talked about the party for like 10 mins then he looked at me kinda weird like and said i have to go home now and collect myself... god i felt sooooo bad. then i messaged him today in FB asking if he was ok. he didn't reply but he posted comments and stuff to the other people at the party. so i wrote him another one saying we should talk, and clear some things up. did i do the right thing? i know hes unsure about himself. and says "oh im not that gay" joking around and saying "no homo" that really bothers me. but earlier that night he looked at me and had this cute sexy smile that made me melt. i asked him "what?" he smiled kept looking at me for about 3 seconds then looked at the ground and said "oh nothing" i knew right there he was thinking about kissing me. i don't want to brag but i have a great smile and full lips, and any chance he gets to make me smile he takes it. i know im deeeeeply in love with him, i think about him everyday i just don't know what to do i feel like i screwed everything up between us some how. i know he needs time to think but were supposed to hang out in a couple days and its going to be awkward as hell. hes bringing his GF too.
so i googled "im in love with my best friend bi" and thats how i got here. i just needed to vent and if anyone has any suggestions email me at hwoodjones22@gmail.com i really dont know what to do. im so worried i might lose him again... ive never been more in love in my life. my chest hurts just thinking about it. i miss him sooo much.
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n2645t (40291) and daspoot
me and the friend i was talking about are in a committed relationship now and we couldn't be happier, I've found my soul mate :D
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im so fucking jelus of you orian!
what can i say. my situation is getting bad.
i cant seem to admit it to him we are still together after all this time and still havent missed a day of seeng each other! im starting to drink after seeing him getting my self fucked, not only because of him but becaues of me beeng in the closet! starting to get a glimps of my future! it used to be grow up get a good job and make a family wo wo wo!! WHAT FAMILY!!!!??? what the hell am i supposed to do with the rest of the god damn life of mine sitting around and drinking because im gay and in love with my best friend!! damn.. what am i supposed to do?? well i guess i should let him know, coz since i relized im in love with him i dont seem to have moved forward! i just make sure i see him coz that the only thing i care about for some time now!
thats it.. im done with this crap!! or he gona know and accept me for who i am or i can finaly move on... love comes again! especialy in our ocation!
P.S sorry about spelling.. im pissed!
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I can't really give you any answers to your question. Only thing I can really say is that a guy defines his sexuality by either one or both of these sexual attraction or by what he's been taught to like. I am currently in this situation... I have no idea if the guy likes me I think he may have winked at me,but i don't know maybe his eye twitched. I did tell him i told him about a discussion in the psychology class I take that everyone likes both sexes its how they define their selves that define them sexually and i told him i wouldn't be opposed to the idea of having sex with a man,if of course i felt attracted to them, i told him he looks really attractive but he only smiled he kept looking at me the entire time we worked there i looked at him too i caught him i think looking at my crotch twice and i let him catch me. I don't know why but i just feel like if I tell him he'll say he likes me too but we work together and I know that it will complicate things with both of us. I can't let that happen not because i am a high ranking official on the job but only because I know how i am in relationships I want to be around that person all the time. I want to make sure they know how loved they are. Here's the thing I know that even if we were to be together, if we were to go out it would be for a short time span and i am the type of person who likes to have long term relationships. I know i'll meet him again we're going to go to the same college but with like 50,000 people that will be a bit hard to do.
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whoa, its good to see im not the only one with this problem.
i honestly dont know what to do anymore.
i have the same thing going with my best friend..we just recently started talking again but it was for different reasons.
anyway he already knew i liked him, and it turns out he likes me too...or so he says.
he loves it when i rub him, massages ect. and he actually made the effort to kiss me once.
it seems like it would be fine right?
well when i confront him about it he says he doesnt know what to do, because im the first guy hes ever been attracted to.
it pisses me off because i have really strong feelings for him, and he says stuff and then hes not sure. i dont know what to do and it really hurts. :/ any ideas?
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@: blah13
ok so i am reading all of these stories on here about how you don't know if your straight guy friend is gay...well I have a situation where I don't knwo if my gay guy firend is really gay. We have known eachother for about 7 years and we have been bestfriends for about 4 years. when i met him i knew he was gay cuz he was so open about it. about 4 years ago i moved in with him cuz him and his bf broke up, so we became reallt close. we spent all of our time 2gether, did everything together. about a year after that he made a move on me and we slept 2gether. i didnt think much of it we were drunk and i figured it was curiosaty. but then it happened again and again and it went on for 2 years. Now, not only do we sleep 2egther but we also act like a couple. we have the fight and break-ups and make-ups. when theres something wrong im the first person he calls we cuddle we watch movies, and when i go and do things with my friends or other guys he freaks out and gets mad that im not with him. these are just a few examples i could go on 4ever. the point is im in love with him and i know he loves me 2 but he wotn admit that hes bi and he keeps saying that he cant have a relationship with a girl yet thats exactly what we,ve been in for the past 4 years a relationship without a title. is he gay or bi? and how do i go about this? this is more a question for the gay guys out there..is this normal guys? what should i do? thanks
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@: faith
faith, I seriously doubt theres a 100% gay or straight man out there.... You could always put it to the test, like tell him, you're putting a lot in a relationship that supposedly doesn't really exist, and that if he cant be in a relationship with a girl then maybe you should be strictly friends
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didnt want to question him cause i was scared of what he would say. During the time passed we started to do things a couple would do but hes straight. I kept questioning it but never to the extent of him beign gay or bi. Until one night we went camping when we were sleeping i felt something but i pretended to be asleep so i turned to face him. Him thinking that i was sleeping he got closer and closer until our lips touched he started softly kissing me so i wont wake up i was shocked i turned back around i knew now that he has feelings for me but i fell asleep and nothing happend. The next morning i wake up and he is spooning me his arm around me i couldnt believe it This actually happened. i couldnt talk to him because i suppose to be asleep so i let that go and pretended nothing happend. At first when i started sleeping over his house i slept in a different room . Nights passed and he eventually asked me to sleep over to his bed i agreed. At first we slept in shorts and pjs and now we sleep in underwear. the time passed and we got more comfortable with each other and we sleep all over each other but we never do anything well a hand job but that was a while back. We care and love each other but i feel like he is scared to be wirh me because he is from a christian family like myself but the signs that he sends me makes me want to tell him but when we are with our friends its completly different. So its like a secret thing and its so confusing and hard to talk to him. its even harder now that he started smoking pot and we got in a big argument about it so we havent spoken for 3 weeks and it hurts because we hang out literally like evryday and now that i havent seen or talked to him i feel depressed and now i dont know if i should tell him or give him time. I called him and he didnt respond so now its even harder to talk to him...
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So I have had this friend for a couple of years now.. We are really really close.Close enough that we share/steal each others clothes and know alot about each other. The first thing that triggered my mind about him being gay is that he always steals my underwear. At first I thought it was just because he like the name brand stuff but now I think he just likes them because they are mine. He LOVES to steal boxers, briefs, compression shorts or whatever... Last night he had some on and I asked him to give them back, so he just turned around and stripped right there, I mean wouldn't most guys go in the closet or bathroom? He will always come talk to me in a towel or be partially naked...its like he is totally messing with me. Another thing is that sometimes we fight ALOT, we both can get pretty quick tempered and tell off the other one. For some reason we always make up and everything goes back to normal. The real issue I have with our friendship is that I am totally attracted to him. Like I always steal glances of him... especially his waist line because he loves to lift up his shirt or just have his hand in his pants...it drives me CRAZY! Anyways so I know how I feel about him, and I'm really not sure if I am gay/bi/straight or whatever, I just know I'm totally into him. We always sleep in the same bed, which is A Okay with me. But its him who always wants to sleep together. He never wants to sleep alone. Even if I have another friend over, He wants to sleep with me and gets PISSED if he doesn't get to. More than once we have even slept 3 guys in a queen bed just because he wouldn't get out of the bed. Is that normal for 3 "straight" guys? Whenever we sleep together, I always try and scoot closer to him and try and touch him in any way. At first it was innocent, then I got braver and braver. Now I can totally touch his penis and he gets ROCK HARD. I always stroke him for a little while over his shorts, sometimes I will reach into his pants and actually grab it and play with his dick and feel around. I can tell he likes it, OBVIOUSLY... but then after a little while he will turn away or put his hand down or pretend to wake up and until I back off. Whenever it happens he likes it, I know it. Also, sometimes he will casually press his penis against my leg or knee if the situation presents itself. Sometimes he will smile or I don't know make a gesture that suggests our night time encounters, but he NEVER EVER says anything about it and NEVER acts like anything happened. Is all of this in my head or could he actually have feelings for me? Someone please let me know if you are in the same boat or have ANY advice. comment or message me PLEASE
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Im in a similar kind of situation as all of the guys here and a thought just occurred to me. maybe the guys we like really just like having a secret homoerotic relationship. it gets them off. its like a fetish. me and the guy i like are mostly straight but one night we both got drunk and he fell as if he was off balance and then conveniently "fell" on my lips. i didn't say anything i just pretended like nothing happened although with him. so later he starts a wrestling match with me and around the middle of it,it got really intense we started cuddling more than wrestling but then we stopped still i played it cool. finally when i was sitting on the floor he sits right next to me and holds me reall close we start rubbing each other but nothing sexual and he finally says "you can kiss me if you want" so i did but i felt like i had to play it cool and just peck him on the lips a few times so he wouldnt think i was too eager to suck the face off of him like i really wanted to. then later he passed out because he was so drunk and i put him to bed. i felt like i missed my opportunity but he textd me the day after and wants to hang out tomorrow. we had been getting into intense wrestling matched before but and i had noticed some signs. so what i think is that he likes having a secret FWB that no one would find out because both of us are technically straight and no one would benefit from telling anyone because it would complicate both of our lives. he's my best friend why would i tell anyone this secret. so i think that may be where my guy is. he likes being wih me in secret and i would actually OK with that. just a thought i had it may not describe your situation but i figured i would put my story up. good luck
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Down, I went through something similar to this when I was 15 with my then best friend. Just like you guys, we'd mess around, flashing each other, skipping in the same beds.  I was so in love with him but too afraid to tell him. I eventually got the courage to make a move one night after we were a little drunk.  That was the beginning of us messing around for almost four years. Unfortunately, the summer after we graduated some shit went down (family drama,) he ended up moving out of the country and we lost touch. We never openly talked about our fooling around. Looking back, what I regret most is that I never told him exactly how I felt at that time. I wasn't sure if he was "gay" or if it was just experimenting for him. I knew he loved me as a friend, but I was too afraid to find out just how much. I wished I would've had the balls to be completely honest with him.  After I graduated HS I realized I was (and still am) a gay man. Unintentionally, he helped me realize that. He eventually got married and has a family now. I've talked to him on FB a few times, not about anything serious, since our lives have gone in completely different directions, but we still to this day have never really talked about it. Anyway, my point is, be honest with you mate and try explain to him that you're curious as to what exactly is going on in your relationship with him.
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It comforting to know im not the only one with the same problem. My story starts about two and a half years ago i met my best friend at work when he started his first shift when i saw him i knew he was someone different i knew i wanted to start a friendship with him and i believe i did have a crush on him but at the time i just didnt realise it. As our friendship progressed we became closer helped each other through thick and thin told each other everything... Well nearly everything we told each other that we would always be there for one another and he told me i was the best mate he had ever had. My attraction to him had grown so much at times we would mess about and wrestle sit close to one anothet and then my world was crushed when he got a GF during that time we didnt speak as much and i felt as if i was losing him and then they broke up everything went back to normal and thats when he told me that he thinks he might be bi my heart was racing he said he wasnt really attracted to his ex GF and that he hasent felt attracted to a girl for a long time so mabey she was a cover up... to get my foot in the door i told him that i thought i might be bi too because i wasnt comfortable telling him im gay cause no one else knew then. he later told his mum he was bi and months later at my friends party he came to me and told me that he is defenetly bi he told me he kissed a guy a few years ago before i knew him so i took my chances and told him i liked him he seemed ok with it he looked at me and smiled placed his hands on me then placed my hands under his shirt and on his six pack i went weak at the knees we quickly sprung back when my friend walked in the room we where nearly caught out. throughout the nite we got very close touching and when we where lying down he put his arm around me and pulled me in close he later told me that we would talk more about us tomorrow and smiled as he walked away i msged him the next day and he told me he was into girls and the subject of him bring bi never came up again my world fell apart his dad found out about him being bi and when his dad talked to him about it i believe he paniced and he denied it we didnt talk much we would fight sometimes but later patched things up we didnt see each other as much as we used to but now just over a year on we are slowly starting to talk more again but the subject of him being bi still doesnt ever come up he talks about girls now and then but not so much to me but he also hasnt acted on them. Something back then made him tell me he was bi and made him become very close with me that nite but i am scared about bring the subject up again in fears everything will go backwards again i am trying to moved on and i am trying to settle as friends but a part of me still wants him i have passed at the chances of touching him or kissing him for the first time in fear, even though i want to i just dont know what to do??? Should i bring it up again or make a move i dont know???
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also somewhat unrelated but i get the impression sometimes that they would like to have a 3sum with me because of the odd joke or how comfortable they are with my presence but this could be wishful thinking
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OMG! So many people are in the same boat as me. Me and my best friend have been friends for years. We do everything together, even work. We have been drunk alone alot of times. But on New Years we hooked up. It started out with us holding hands amd later whenthe lights ere out we started kissing. After making out, we started touching each others cocks. After givinghim a bj we held each other. We slept in seperate areas but the next day at work, he pretended nothing happened. I told him we needed to talk, and ee never did. Later that night Itxted him and asked if he remebered what happened, he said yea and it zhouldnt of happened. He said we were not gay but we were just drunk. We havent talked about it since, its been a week and I want to tell him that im bi. I also want to let him know I like him. I really think he i bi or gay. He doesnt come across as straight and has only had two girls who he never hangs with or really talks to. I am so confused. What should I do?!?!
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dear DOWNSOUTH 504.

I am facing exactly same situation like you.. but issue here is that.. he never express himself.. whether he likes it or not and also he got a GF(which i dont like him to speak with her) for the first time i had sex with him when i was too drunk as he is the one dared to have sex with me as he took my hand on his penis during sleepand asked me to suck and he alwasy sleeps with me and keeps his hands on my chest and rubs my head and chest some times but after having sex with him he is not sleeping with me as he is sleeping alone .. anyway second time we were too drunk and I dared to put my hand on his penis and played around for an hour(definitely he knows it) and after an hour he just put his hand down as like he woke up and third time we had hard sex as he asked me to fuck and suck him and i was too excited and i have done everything what he asked me to do.. but after sex.. he said to me that gay sex is not good and he doesnt have any feelings while doing sex...if he deosnt have any feelings than why he asked me to do everything and also why he asked me to fuck him..but next day morning i stopped speaking to me but he is the one started speaking to me again... we fight each other a lot and we become together after 1 or 2 hours.. but my problem is that I love him too much .. still we speaking each other ... but am not sure whether he likes me or not .. and also sex with me.. am going crazy with his behaviour.. can anyone give me suggestion whether i can proceed further with him or not..he gets upsets whenever I speak to other guys..... guys.. i really love him .. plzz suggest me something..
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OK its weird how we all have a similar situation. I met a friend online and ever since we have been very close. We talk online all the time and play game alot. He has other friends but is only goofy around me. He says things to make me feel good and talks to his parents about me all the time. Every day I talk to him I feel happy and warm. We can talk for hours about anything and feel so comfortable around each other. He does sweet little things such as send me a little text throughout the day among other things. He does not like to talk about girls. I am gay but wonder about him. H e does things that make me think he is. But it could be that we are that close that he can joke about these things. He does look at me then look away when I look at him. He did have a girlfriend but they did not work out at all. Its hard not to tell him how I feel but I am going to do it because I need to know how he feels.
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I so know how you all feel.
I meet a very amazing guy last year and we have become like brothers since.
We live in each others pockets and share a room together.

He sayes he is stright but you would never guess and many people tell him that he act gay.

He does have a girl friend but he hasnt seen her in ages due to College.

Since meting him I have fallin for him more and more everyday.

On 2 different nights and must admit due to Alcohol & Drugs. We have done some things
1. He got undressed and lied next to me in bed, he let me touch him a few tims and even got the biggest hand on. ( he is huge LOL) Told me he really didnt feel unconfortable.

2. Was a lot more. He was in bed and i pull his tool out and gave him a Bj. He told me he liked it and let me go for ages. But than sort of turned away and feel asleep ( very drunk)

The next day he was so cool about it all, as for me I thought i would lose his friendship. Even to this day he hugs me, kisses me, tells me he loves me and thing have not changed at all with our friendship. But im so confused is he gay, bi or just likes to have fun.

I know he has been with his girlfriend for 3 years but WHAT DO I DO

Can any1 give me some advise please .
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I understand your feeling.

About me, I consider myself as a bi but I prefer to be considerd as a questioning guy.

I am in love with my best friend and he knows that. ( we talked alot about my sexual orientation before and I just came out with him last week ).

I and my best friend are really close. We do every thing together and never hide anything from each other ( even when i have strange feeling with him, i just came up to him and told him that). We had sex many times. The first time was when we were both drunk. After that we just do it for fun bc we are both single.

Actually, I really hit on my him at the very first moment i met him. However, I had to tell myself that it 's sth really wrong. In the end, i can not denny it so i just told him that and begged him to love me because we do everything for each other.
But he did not love me, he told me that he is totally straight.

We are still best friend but I don't know what to do. I am not confuse about his orientation bc I really believe that he is straight since he has no reason to lie to me.( we already had sex, if he is gay or bi he would just tell me ).

Our friendship is kind of stucked on that now ( even we are still very cool with each other ).

Can any one give me a suggestion?
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@: conech
same ere. ive just waited for him to make the move always worked for me , but i didn't tell him that i had a crush on him or that i love him . i am scared incase i do that ill lose him or hell stop asking me to bj him. witch he really likes .

so im stuck really.

I was thinking about getting a b/f maybe to rub it in his face but i don't know how hell react to it.
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ok so i'm in a similar situation but the thing is he's got a girlfriend and they are both my best friends. i always hang out with both of them and i've slept over with them several times. they're usually really affectionate and it turns me on to watch them makeout but i don't wanna be a pervert. a couple time during our slepp overs when they thought i was asleep i heard them fucking on the bed next to me and it was so hard not to jump in and join them. also they shower together when his parents are out and they don't care that i know and seem to think i can't hear what they're doing but they're really loud...
like i said they're both my close friends and both of them are attractive at first i fantasized about double teaming her with him but i've begun to realize i'm really more attracted to him than her neither of them know i'm bi but i think they suspect and they all always joke that i am gay but i deny it
he likes to wrestle and he's stronger than me so when we do he always wins every time he pins me down he gives me the most amazing "there's nothing you can do now smile" and we stare at each other for a long time....
he rarely drinks but one time he did he started kissing everyone (before they were dating) and when i woke up he was spooning me and another time we had to sleep on the floor and he dryhumped and fondled me a little in his sleep
every time i see him i wanna throw my arms around him but i'm too afraid to say anything because i don't want to ruin my relationship with either of them...
what do i do?
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Some of the guys like other guys to touch them or even kiss. But they don't want to return the favor because they are straight. That maybe their fantasy and they only want other guys to do it. I know a friend that is straight and his friend is gay. The gay guy always give him bj or let him do it but this straight guy dont do bj back. They both may like the feeling and the straight guy may be bi. But he never admit he's bi. From your story, this guy really like from what you're doing. Why don't you just take time to do more stuff while doing it, like kiss. Let's see how he reacts for a few times. If you tell him now. He might not talk to you again and maybe loose a best friend. I think he's wonder about being with you and enjoy that. From what you said.. he got mad then he came back and talked to you again... and you guys continue to do it...i think he wants to have the feeling from a guy do it for him, but not want to be gay or bi. Why not ask him to do it to you???? TO see what he will say
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i think you need to get past this, youre friend really doesnt know what he wants and you do. I think you might be invading his personal space so just be cool and let him do the moves not you if you think hes bi/gay. also i think hes obviuosly not ready for this type of relationship if hes still adament he straight so just be a friend to this guy if you cant stop being friends and try to move on for youres and his sake.
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This is very sureal..no idea my situation is shared by soo many...mines a tad bit more complicated. So I was 13 when i met my younger friend 10yr. We met at the local skatepark and i have had strong feelings for him ever since...we see eachother only at the skatepark and we had a few sleepovers in the past when we were younger (just cuddleing)...since i work full time and go to school full time my social life is almost non existant...im 20 now and hes 17...we dont see eachother much or hangout like we use to... i think he wants to be closer with me but dosnt know or is afriaad of his feeling for me. what the hell should i do?
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this story really helped me... knowing that there are others that are dealing with this same issue makes me feel, well... normal...

and umm... I dont mean to be "that guy"... but... can someone please read about my dilema?... I really need ome kind of insight on a similar situation
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Same situation here. But I like my guy friend and I never had intersest for a guy before.
Except I had like 8 girl friends but as I felt for them I feel for my guy friend.
And he shows that hes bi or gay by taking of his shirt and telling me to touch his abs, and it's as if I git possed or something and I cant resist but touching them. And we whoukd sometimes trade clothes for the day and change in front of eachother and both of us don't seem to have a probem with that. He will sometimes take m shirt off and I whould do the same for him. Sometimes eachothers socks we lay down and cuddlle and move our feet around to touch each other. And when I was sleepig He was only wearing shorts and he took my shirt off an got on top of me and I was either weak and lazy to get him off or I was enjoyibg it.
I find this so hard to beleave since we both date alot of girls and we double date to.
Now we sleep together shirtess and cuddled up and I don't know what's wrong with me. It
s like im straight for most of the time and then I have spurts of gayness for a while.
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PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE HELP ME!
okay, so my Best friend is a guy and i am also a guy, we've known each other since 7th grade and now were seniors in high school. I started developing feelings for him sophomore year. Now he's been in numerous relationships with girls and he's had sex with his recent girl friend, but he has a lot of problems with her so they don't have sex a lot. He tells me all the sexual details because i'm his best friend and that's what best friends do. Now since i have these strong feelings for him, its hard to hear all these stories, but i put on my best friend face and act like its AWESOME for him.(Before i go any further i have to explain my situation about my sexuality. I'm calling myself bisexual right now because i don't want to totally rule out women. I see a guy and i'm attracted to him, but i also see a girl sometimes i'm attracted too. But i'm more attracted to guys) Now, he has absolutely no idea i'm bisexual, and i have no idea how to tell him, and the fact that i'm deeply falling for him. I feel like we flirt a lot, but i don't know if he would call it flirting. I touch him as much as possible, like a peck feel or a gentle ab punch/slap to feel his stomach. I also compliment him as much as possible. Now what he says or does to me i consider flirting. He'll sometimes joke around about having rough sex on a table or counter, etc. He will pick me up by my waist (i'm slender, he's fit) and air-hump and grab my ass while doing it. WHICH IS THE BIGGEST TURN ON FOR ME! AND SO HARD NOT TO JUST ATTACK HIM AND KISS HIM. He smacks my ass A LOT. Oh and he always looks at my lips when i talk, and when he looks at me a chill runs down my back, the way he looks at me cant be described. I don't know how long i can take it not letting him know how i feel. AND I MOST DEFINITELY CANT LAST ANY LONGER NOT KNOWING IF HE FEELS THE SAME WAY.
Please help me find the answer i'm looking for.
Much love.
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Man i totally understand! I am really stressed about my current situation also! I met this guy in theater class and he seemed arrogant and cocky but i never thought that we would ever become friends! Eventually we both got cast in a play at school and we slowly started talking more, it just happened out of no where. One day before we were even close he just randomly call me and ask me out to the movies, and we were bros ever since. He always called me and asked to hang out like every single day. At this time he was staying in the dorms and i was staying in an apartment. He always came over and we played video games together, but i noticed he loved spending time with me. He has a girlfriend and he doesn't know that i'm bi. With him being at my apt so much he became interested in moving in with me, so eventually he did. Now we hang out, and i'm loving every minute of it, and he loves to watch movies with me. However we never snuggle or anything. He seems straight but the only thing that i wonder about is that we look in each others eyes a lot and stare at each other. Straight guys don't really stare in each others eyes, so i try touching him just a little(like arm or shoulder) he let it stay there for a little bit but then move. I don't think hes gay but i'm crazy about him. I wanna slowly move away, but when i do he notice it and send texts saying he love me!
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I see that everyone has the same problem. Ive met my best friend in my freshman year of high school we got close quick. We started hanging out and day by day we just got closer and closer. The closer we got the more and more i started to fall for him. He was and still is my best friend i can tell him evrything all of my secrets i told him, all my rough past evrything. I never lie to him he is the only one of my friends that is close to actually knowing me...but there is one thing that i have kept from him and that is that im bi and that im in love with him and it is crazy i still get butterflies when i think of him...during the freshman and sophmore years i just keep falling for him...i remember him being in my physics class and just by looking at him my heart would race. In the halls we walked together he waited for me by my locker he texted me just to see how i was doing and if i could hang out with him. Just the little things that just made me really happy but i
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i think that you should continue in the cuddling/fondling and see how he reacts or if he begins to return the favor. also, instead of ASKING to kiss him.. just wait for an opportunity to come up itself. i think he is confused and scared and doesn't want to admit that he wants you so he tries to act like nothing is going on and denying it. wait until you two are "canoodling" and when you're getting really into it just get your face really close to his and hold it there. see if he looks away or not. if not.. just kiss him and see what happens. if he tries to get angry with you for it talk it out with him and explain that he had given off signals that he was in to it and you care about him more than anything.
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Im In The Same Boat , Me and Me Mate have Been Friends For 10 Years , Pritty Much The Same story i dont know whather hes gay, bi or straight. Hes Only had one g/f witch was the other week. then he split up with her about 2 weeks later but never done nowt with her. where my story changes is that i have done stuff with my mate and plenty of times. the first time we were only kids and id didnt think anything about it but he kept on asking. then it stoped for about 2 years untill the other week on the monday, once again he asked me to suck his c**k i dont know why i did, but i couldnt help my self. we never gone anyfurther then me giving him bj. but there bout 3/4 times a week

My advice to You Is Let To You Is That admit ur Bi or Gay , for some reason that works. after the 2 years i turned 18 and admitted ive done stuff with other lads and i don't know y it just turns him on. and we been doing stuff ever since. I Reckon if he is straight like they all say but most of them are curious to see wants it like to get head , kiss sex of another man. also he keeps asking me what it like to have sex with another man stuff like that. also we've nearly done it. He sed what's it like , i replied ill show you, just the he jumped up and sed away then, his brother walked in. and after that i waiting for him to say, you don't want to jump in you might scare him ... GL

Matthew
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But, given that he already knows that I have an attration to guys, you would think he wouldn't do things like that, when he knows it will turn me on. Also, once I get slapping his ass really hard and he seemed to enjoy it because he kept haning on to me. Once when he was sitting in his chair, I knelt down and hugged around his waist and he didn't say anything. And also I have seen his hairy ass like 3 or 4 times because he keeps showing me. On the flip side tho, even though we are supposedly "best friends" he just seems so distant. It is great when we hang out, but he just seems to want to be by himself all the time and as much as I want to spend time with him, he seems like he only wants to like once a week, if even that. And if I dont msg him or call him, then he will never call me or message me either...I think about him every single day, and he considers me one of his closest friends but a sign of love is usually wanting to spend more time together...He hardly ever calls me unless I ask him to now. I really love him a lot and I want to ask him and bring up every situation but I am so scared that he will be freaked out or even hate me for it. To be honest, I think he has feelings for guys (or at least me because every gay notion he does is on me and me only, never on friends), and he has gay tendencies, but he may be afraid to come to terms with it. So maybe as much as he does want to be around me, he may be distancing himself to keep from doing anything he may regret. We are supposed to hang out again 2mrrow, and I want to see if he will try anything just to make sure. But I would really like someone's opinion on this because when he mentions things like "Oh that goth girl is pretty cute" I get confused, but then when he takes off his boxers and flashes them in my face at night then moves the blanket when he knows I cant see, that makes me even more confused. HELP PLEASE lol
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Hi I'm 17 years old, I'm so glad and surprised that theirs other guys that have the same problem I have.....I'm in love with my best friend, I think about him all day, I want to be with him 24/7, I cry when we argue....anyways, he claims to be straight but I'm not sure if he is, hes never had a girlfriend, he never talks about girls. When I get mad at him, he gets sad and makes-up with me. I go to his house like once a week and we wrestle, we get so close, he gets on top of me and I get super erected. I grab his ass while hes on top of me and he doesn't complain, I also slowly rub his face and he doesn't get bothered by it. I have tried kissing him, but he turns away, also when I hug him, he pushes me away (sometimes he lets me).....I'm super confused, I don't know what to do, should I stop with all this? should I continue?.....the thing is, If he really doesn't want me like that, I'm going to be emotionally destroyed...
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I personally dont kno when to tell him or if he just playing with me all these questions and confessions that i want to tell him but i dont know when it would be a good time to... we have been bestfriends for 5 years and with the smoking thing i dont know if he is goin to talk to me..
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Well Well, what can i say! As all of you idd like to share one of my stories with you guys. Do i like/love my best friend? Yes i do, its not that ill die for an expiriance with him (ok i will :P) but i really respect the fact that he really cares for me. I have been out of work latetly and he is helping me out with food, milk ,bread ect, and always there for me when ever i need him. I love him for that.


The last few weeks we are spending a hell of alot of time together, havent missed a day i could say since new years without seeing each other.
The point is that i have never sed to anyone that i am gay, i still havent gotten used to it.I have alot of fears about what other ppl could say and here were i live no one admits they are gay/bi. Its a pain in the ass wene you cant express your feelings the way its is with out warrying about to many negative thoughts.


Back to my friend... Well all i can say i havent got the guts to admit to him the truth. For the same reason as all of you. Scared just incase we ruin this perfect relationship. He has sed and don many things that made me fall for him, for ex: we are sitting together on the couch and he throws his leg over mine, hugs me everytime we meet, everytime we say goodnight, We have sleept together but i never took the chances of tuching him, oh yeah and we wrestle alote, broke my nose the other day haha, but what really fucks me up is that i need to keep quiet for the time being coz he has a gf. I dont know how long they will last but im not making any moves while he is in this relationship.

All i know its up to us to deside whether we are going to tell our friends we love em. I believe time will show and reviel the truth.
I will make my self clear thought, i have desided verry soon at least letting him know god gave me the life of cock all the way. i cant say im really happy about it. it hurts! But what the F**k. ill take my chances when the time is right.

If we like wrestling so much i should suggest we have a crazy night with whips and handcuffs. ARRGGGHH!!!!! idd like to see how that turns out. He is defenetly going to be in for it :D well i think!

The funny thing about it its like a dream come true. I cant say living a gay life is bad. We all have many opportunities ahead of us, lets face it. im not the only one chatting here. And so many ppl reading these chats seeking for answers only our hearts thems self can lead the way.

Wish you all gay/bi boys good luck on the way, and guys, please tell us what happend with the rest of you. did some of you fuck up on the way and lost the closest person? Or are you fucking all night crazy? verry simular stories and probably simular results!

I can say i already feel much better writing this storie. lots of ideas and hope! go ahead and share your dream stories with us. we all need to tell this somewere!
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So,I met this guy online,and we begun talking all day long,even stood nights to talk,and this week we couldn't talk cause he had to learn,and I realised I really miss him and that I want us to become more than friends,so this monday I will tell him.He told me he is gay but he really doesn't act like one and he told me he hates being gay because where he lives that is shameful.We are planning to meet this summer,and I wanna kiss him and blow him and omg,fullfill all my fantasies,but all that he has to do is say yes now:(I am also disturbed by the fact that we got married in game and he told me:We are getting married as friends,right?not lovers? and I said yes but was really dissapointed.Also,he never gave me web,and I would love to see him,he sometimes give me the impresion that he thinks he is ugly,but omg,he is really hot.We started talking about j/o and when we do it,and so on,and I get so hard when talking with him.Anyway,will tell you guys if he refused or not,gosh,can't wait.
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So here is my story. I am actually dealing with this situation with two of my friends one in particular at the moment. I have known my one friend since 2nd grade and we started doing thing one night when I asked him to get naked a lay on top of me and he did. We went on with this game of me telling him what do while either he or I got off. Then he just started doing it without me telling him and now it's to the point were I give him a little head then we rub to get off. Other than that we never kiss at all and show no affection towards each other and we have not done it over a year now. We had a little encounter in his pool with some foreplay but it never got any further than that.
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Anyway I have another friend that I always try to snug up against at night when we sleep over and he let's me rub him until I get off. I will grab his ass while I jack off and he acts he is sleeping while this is all happening. Well one night after I backed off because he moved a little bit and I actually thought he had no idea I was stroking him, he got up and grabbed a blade out of his book bag and threatened me with it. I went on about how I was sorry for everything and he explained that he knew what was going on and was afraid to say anything. I admitted to him that I was bisexual and at that time he meet his girlfriend and things started going downhill. I was afraid he was going to call the police on me for molesting him and I was paranoid. It wasn't until recently I left him a TBH on Facebook saying I wish we could just be friends like we used to be. So we met up one night with a friend of mine and watched a movie and he ended up leaving halfway through to go pick up his girlfriend.
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Then one night he was arguing with her and I asked him to come over and have a couple drinks with me to try to make him feel better. We just kept on drinking and catching up on times and he just brought up the one night in conversation. He told me about how he didn't mind what I did to him and said he actually liked it. I was so surprised he said any of this but it kind of made sense because I sort of knew that there was no way after touching him at night so many times that there was no way he didn't know about the other times. He went on telling me about how he liked it so I told him we were going to take three more shots and I was going to tell him something that will blow his head off. So he rushed over to get the liquor and ended up falling humorously. I poured the shots and we did them then I told him about my other friend and what we did together. I asked him if he had done it with anybody else and he told me about a person and I looked them up on Facebook and confirmed he was real. I showed him some gay porn on my laptop and asked him if that was what he liked and we made out for about 5 seconds or so. I told him not to do that because it would be cheating on his girlfriend. I went off into the corner to take a piss and when I came back he hugged me and we french kissed for a little while and I grabbed his ass. I told him again he shouldn't do this and I sat him down again. I told him his girlfriend wouldn't like it and he was cheating on her. He told me to post "you’re a fucking whore" on her wall because he had good suspicions that she was cheating on him with another guy. So he made out with me again. He put his legs on both sides of my chair and we started feeling out each other’s ****. I stood up and told him I was going to **** him like an animal and where are we going to do this asked him if he likes to pitch or catch and he said yes to both. So he leaned up against a car in a car and I grabbed his ass and he walled me over to a snowmobile. He pulled down his pants past his knees and I gave him a proper blow job with a little bit of fingering till he cummed. We made out again. I sat him down again and he cried on my shoulder for and bashed on himself for cheating when I just told him it was Okay and he kept crying.
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So he got up and started running to get out of my garage and I would let him because I was afraid he was going to run out into the middle of the street. So I pinned him down to the floor until I guess he passed out. I got him a blanket and put a heater on him because it was cold. He pulled down his pants and just shit on my floor. I was in disbelief until I took the blanket off then there it was. So... I ended up cleaning the mess up and almost puked several times. I finally woke him up and let him outside and lost him. I looked all over then finally went inside of my house to find he took his clothes off in my living room and passed out again in my bathroom. Poop stains all over the place. It was 5:30 at this point and I knew my parents were going to be getting up in a half an hour. I helped him into the bathtub and turned the shower on for him and laid on my bed in my room while he washed up. I knew he was taking too long so I went in the bathroom and turned off the water and he turned it back on. I waited again until my dad woke up and started bitching. My Mom got up and I threw a towel at him. My parents were both pissed off. He finally got up and put on the towel and dried off. I threw his clothes underneath my bed until my mother left and I put them through 3 cycles in the washing machine to clean them up. When he got up he asked me what happened and I told him about how he pooped. Before he left I told him he was hitting on me and he completely denied it and said he blacked out. He left and went to work
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The next day he called while we were both alone and he asked me what happened and I told him most of the story. He just wanted to me to tell him it didn’t happen but I wasn’t because it did happen. Now he was trying to say that I rapped him to make himself feel better and he said if he was ever gay he would blow his brains out so I gave him the suicide talk to make sure he was Okay. I texted him last night asking him if he was Okay and he went on to explain that he is a sex freak and he tried to have sex with everything only when he is drunk. He says only I am like that when I’m sober and he isn’t. I said yes but I realize that everybody doesn’t want to love me back. Now he is supposed to come to my birthday party with his girlfriend this week. And he proposed to her and she is underage by 2 years. I would like to just be friends with him and maybe have sex without anyone knowing and him not feeling guilty about it. I am leaving to another state for the Army in 1 months and I do not think it will hurt. What should I do?
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If i can answer any questions at this point I would have to say that a no-strings-attached relationship would be perfect because it seems that when you try to get close and affectionate with each other you end up loosing your friend(s). Just have sex and nothing more unless you both can come to an agreement on a having a relationship otherwise. It's either you want to have sex with them or you are actually in love.
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I was dumped by my girlfriend of 4 years and I am now 20 and since she dumped me, I started spending alot of time with my bro and some of his friends, we usually have a few beers at a bar or hang out at the "mancave" (one of my bro's friend's appt) anyways... I am now feeling something (havent figured what that feeling is yet) for one of his friends, alex. We went on vacation down south the whole gang together (me, alex, my bro n some of our friends) and me n him spent most of our time together, which is prolli why i feel this way about him and we had such a connection it was like i never had with anyone, we smiled at eachother, sat close beside eachother, drank together, and spent two nights outa 7 just the two of us alone and we were having a blast (nothing happened) haha and we were drunk one of those two nights spent together and he poured his feelings onto me, he cried n so did I.. lol quite the testosterone party hahaha but anyways after that we had developed an amasing chemistry n such and recently we all went for supper n i forgot my cell so i borrowed my bros and wanted to text my friend from his cell and saw alex's name in the inbox so i opened the texts and saw that he texted my bro goodmorning every day, and i love you when he was drunk at a party... I know for a fact my bro is not gay but I am convinced more than ever, Alex has something for my bro (i know a few texts isnt enough to make that sort of statement but i started to observe his actions with my bro, always touching n grabbing eachother and he always enjoys it more and when hes drunk gives hugs, touches my bros back, his leg etc.) and he also does that to me but in a more reserved manner, anyways, i dont understand anymore, and I think I'm jelous haha though I know my brother would never do anything with him. So what do I do? walk away? or wait and see whatever is happenig between me n him or between him n my bro and mainly, is it just a rebound because hes giving me attention? Twisted huh?
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My story is sort of the same, I'm 18 now but when I was in year 10, 15 I became close with a friend that I'd hung around since year 7, he had a girlfriend and I was also close friends with her, he'd been with her on and off for years and years, anyway he began to stay at mine every weekend and would tell me he misses me and we would text all day and night. I always thought he was really attractive and he would sometimes say things that made me think he might be bi, or gay. Most days at school we would muck around together and push each other and just do things so we could make contact with one another. One night we had a few drinks together and had my friend and his gf over for a bit, my friend and his gf laid on my bed so myself an my best friend laid on his mattress that never moved on my floor because we was over so often, they began to kiss and touch eachother (by then it was dark in my room) so my best friend and I started to make kissing sounds like we were kissing, my friend and his girlfriend eventually besideded to leave so my best friend and I began to tickle eachothers stomach, he went down and just under my underwear strap, so I did the same, before I new it we were pulling eachother and this continued and we did more and more with one another for months, I eventually broke down into tears one day and told him I loved him, he just accepted it but said he didn't feel the same, we eventually ended up together and stayed together for two years, keeping it a secret from his family, and most of mine, only close friends and family new we were an item. We eventually ended everything because he wouldn't dump his gf and accept that we were inlove and wanted to be together, he was always to scared of what his family would think and after two years I'd had enough of him being sexually active with his gf it tore my heart apart. We now haven't had any contact for a year and in that time his hit my friend with a pole and he needed stiches, we've abused each other and I got his gf that his been with for 2 years pregnant, she lost the baby and now is back with him. It is a very twisted and weird story but nothing is ever simple, I miss him everyday, I will always love him and I know he'll always feel the same way.
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I like how most of the stories are the same, mine is the same too i have a best best friend and im in love with him! He some times does some things that make me think hes bi/gay (im bi) wean he spends the night he gets really close to me wean we sleep togeather he rubs up on me and tells me "let me touch your abs" i ofcours let him he told me "i like you ...alot"but then does not say anything the next morning,i told him if he was bi or gay and he told me he was straight and said "what ever i said or did last night was a mistake" and he never said anything about it..... It made me want to cry because for a sec i thought he really liked me/love me.... But wean he still spends the night over he does the same and tries to take my pj's off and tells me he loves me but then he sais he does not and he sais hes straight! I dont know what hes doing to me! Hes playig tricks with me! Leeding me on and then making me sad! I really love him and i cant tell him i love him because then he'll get wierded out i tryd kissing him but he would always turn away and laugh... What do i do?!
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Well, where to start. I am an 18 year old male and I have had sex with two girls on three separate occasions all in which I was drunk. I have a problem I think with being intimate in general and so I hide behind alcohol to fulfill any sexual desires. I don't think I am gay,but I sometimes think about dudes and being intimate with them, and I am also really picky with women. This is where my story pertains to the blog: I am a freshman in college and I rooming with a kid I went to high school with. We weren't really friends in high school, so after about a month of being around him, we became pretty close. We eat every meal together, we have classes together, we shower together, watch movies together, party together, etc. I never really had a bunch of guy friends(close ones that is) and I don't have any brothers, so being with him was really cool and I felt like we were pretty close. I find myself really attracted him on many levels. He is really cool, he ls always happy/upbeat, he has an awesome body, and we have a bunch if the same friends. I tried telling him that I in essence have a man crush on him and he said he cares for me a lot too, but he thinks it is because we both dont have brothers and whenever he hangs around guys he feels like that with all of them. I was pretty crushed because throughout high school people thought he might be gay and he has been with a comparable number of woman with similar circumstances to mine. Now, once we were drunk with some close friends and we were talkingand he opened up about how he thought he was gay when he was younger because he had all these girl friends and he helped them get dressed, but quickly dismissed that idea and talked about he wasstright. I look at him in the eyes and he looks back, he makes jokes about my dick being big, he massages my shoulders, he texts me goodnight, I catch him staring at me in my sleep, we buy eachother things frequently, but he claims he isnt. someimes he makes jokes about me being gay because of what I told him, but I really don't think I am gay. I feel like he has this power over me because of what I told him and I get the vibe he feels the same way but is scared to act on his feelings. I am curious about fooling around with a guy and I think I care so deeply about this because this is the first tme I feel like it could actually happen. I don't know what to do though, suggestions?
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Wow. I've read a lot of these. And it seems like sex is the main subject. I haven't known this guy for long and I'm still pretty young to say that I love him but there's this way that he makes me feel. And it seems as though there are a lack and an overabundance of words to correctly describe how I feel about him. Like any guy I picture stroking his junk and passionate kisses and groping and feeling-up but more than that I think of his smile, his laugh, his eyes, holding his hand, his arms, back and stomach. It sounds cheesey but too often people can differentiate between being in love with the person or the relationship. One thing that is certain is that I'm definitely in love with this guy.
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I have been through something like loveing my classmate,too!! we were kind of unfamiliar classmates before the third year(the last year), and then we sat nearby in the third year,and started
talking,joking,mocking each other .at the beginning, I had no feeling of love to him,but we kept sitting together like almost six months,one time, he tried to disturb me by keeping looking at me in the math class , I felt weird about his looking, so I looked back to him,too. and I saw the way he looked at me , I felt shock and shy, it seemed as if he was looking someong he liked very much.after this moment,our friendship changed, we started having more actions when we was together,like ass-slapping,hug from back,touches,being company. I felt happier and happier when we together,and I felt sadder and sadder when we didn't together , I hoped that I could often be hugged by him longer and longer,but after I texted two friendship-breaking texts,we really started getting aloof,and I was very sad ,I didn't be sure if he liked me , after all the things, we made up our relationship in three weeks ,but we had already been diffrient after that breaking texts,cause I left school, couldn't see him much more, and really started leaving the kind of life which having him aside, I was really sad at home, but in the end, we met each other the one last time before I left my country, we met in his community,and I sent hime some gifts for "GOOD LUCK",then before he went to his apartment , he stood at the door of 1F of the apartment almost 10 seconds, and we was between 10meter long,so I really thought that he had feeling to me before, but he didn't say that still,so I can't really say"I was right!!!" but now,after 4 years, I can say"Thanks,my love!! ciao~~~~"
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I remember when I was 11-16 years of age when me and a best friend slipped away after school every day , doing kind of secual activities. It started in year 7/ 7th grade (Just beginning puberty)when we enchanted funny looks and talking dirty, in year 8/ 8th grade we actually started to become really close to the stage where we where putting each others hands down each others boxers and stroking. But in year/grade 9 we started to have sex. The next school year / grade we both began to realize what gender we liked. I became bi and so did he. We decided to keep the past a secret and just be friends. That lasted 2days until we was going out again. Some how though the word went round school that we made sex. We just called it a rumour but we still met after school to do our duty. He then told me that he was going to say that he use to be gay and now is bi. He then said that he never made penisv to anus contact with me. He got bullied and soon was told his mom/mum was ran over. He went to me and said that he wanted to kill himself. I asked him why and he said about his mother. I hugged him infront of every one as he sat there crying. I told everyone to f off and leave us alone. Then the gang leader I was in came to me and my friend and said "Don't tell anyone, I'm gay to." I nodded my head. That's the end of my story.
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hey.. I'm 25 years old and I'm pretty sure I am gay. I have been best friends with my straight guy friend for the past 6 years and he is also 25. we call each other brothers. he is the all American guy, played soccer all his life and every girl thinks he's so hot. I've come to realize within the past year that I think I really 'like' him. I would do anything for this guy. it's been eating me alive because I have not come out to anyone and everyone thinks I'm straight.

but here's the thing.. whenever we get drunk, I always sleep at his house, in his room. we start off both on his bed, me sitting by his feet and I always end up , massaging his feet.. the his legs.. and sometimes up to his thighs. I'll ask in hone middle of, massaging, "does it feel good?" and he would reply, "yeah" softly because he's about to knock out. the next morning it's always as if nothing happened. this has occurred about 7 times. and then last weekend we went camping along with his other brother. his other didn't want to sleep in the tent so the tent was left to me and my best friend. we had been drinking and once we were getting for bed and in our sleeping bags, he said, "how do you want me? massage my back ya?" and of course I did. I put my hands under his sweater so I could massage his skin and there were points where I would massage his pelvic area and I could feel his pubes... trust me I was scared every time it went near his private area.. and then same thing, next morning, it was as if nothing happened the night before.

it drives me crazy bc I care so much for him and I can't tell anyone about this. someone talk to me please..
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Nice story dasboot! i know exactly how you feel!
kinda in the same situation! Good Luck! wish you all the best!
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Similar to my wonders. I have always been a straight person. Never gay or anything. But things happened with my friend and I whenever we drank. One time him and I got back from the bar and we started fondling each other. then we sucked each other off but stopped before cumming. I asked him once if we could date and he said no but he'd like to have me but no strings attached. This only ever happened when we're drunk and I remember once we told each other to forget about what happened. We did this like all the time once we were drunk we'd do this sort of thing. Haven't seen him in 2 years though, drinking was getting out of control. Anyway justshare my little story.
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