All right, so me and my friend have known each other for about a year now. He is a year younger than me,nd i am a senior in H.S. It all began when we had a class together over a yr.ago in march '10 he sat two rows away from me and i always though he was cute.I am bisexual myself,but we were just classmates, then one night my friend invited me to this kickback nd he was there,we did smalltalk nd exchanged names. so I came up to him 1 day in class nd we started talking. we grew close.Then one day me him nd a friend were prank calling people on the phone. He lay next to me and my friend sat next to him. i noticed his leg went on top of mine nd he started rubbing his leg so i got hard nd quickly backed away from him nd we never talked about it.I then realized i fell in love with him. Then a few months later I decided 2 come out t2 him since we were best friends.He was cool about it, and he supported me.Then afew days later we hungout nd after he stayed over my house. It seemed weird cause he neverslept over my house. I sleep in a small cramped room. He slept next to me and he pushed himself closer to me than ever. I felt my mind go nuts and i put my arm over him. then suddenly we jerked eachother off I was about to kiss him when he said "no not that" I then started to give him head, and we did that for a minute when he suddenly shoved me. he told me he wasnt gay and that we should never do it again. i understood and never spoke of it again. This however fucked up our friendship, he wasnt the same anymore nd I was more in the need of a friend than I had ever been in my life. He knew who I was. I was real with him. The only person I was real to.I later found out that he had been very busy in his sport, and that I was too harsh on him because he wasn't aware of the problems i was having at home or anything. I sent him a text saying sorry then on facebook he sent me an IM, i responded and he said it wasn't my fault but his and that he still wanted to be friends I told him I respect who he is completely and that all I want is his friendship. In reality I love him so much that I would settle for anything. just a weekago we hungout again. On our way home we found an old shed. We lit a joint and began to feel it. were about 2 leave but as i opened up the shed to get out he stopped me and he told me he wanted to talk to me about that night. I listened to him and to my surprise he told me that he wanted to try it again. I asked him if he was sure and he said yeah so i got closer to him against the wall and pushed myself against him. He quickly grabbed me and felt me up and i did the same thing to him.but this time we lasted for several mins. nd he came a little in my mouth. He said we had 2 leave so we pulled our pants back up,nd he told me we should maybe do it again,but in a room. I told him yeah nd we left. is he gay/bi? what should i do? idk if i should tell him how i feel, plz help!
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Until he figures himself out and/or accepts his own sexuality, it would be better to keep things on a purely friendship level. From my eyes, he probably does have some measure of feeling for you because I find it difficult to imagine that he would have sexual activity with you otherwise.
Whilst you are perhaps entirely comfortable with your sexuality, he is perhaps coming to terms with his and that can be a very confusing and turbulent time.
I advise not telling him how you feel because that could result in him pulling away from you entirely, not because he may or may not return the feelings but because he will be scared to admit them, not just to you but to himself.
Be his friend and support him as best you can but until he decides he is bi/gay and decides what the actual deal is between you two, just be his friend and nothing more.
I really hope this helps even just a little bit, I'm sorry if it hasn't though. :(
I was literally losing hope these past days. There is nobody I can confide this to as I can't put his reputation or anything in jeopardy.
I love him a lot, and I will refrain from doing anything sexual on my part. I really don't want to lose his friendship.
I am entirely comfortable w/ my sexuality but the fact that he is the only person I have confided to just makes it so much worse.
I know I just have to be patient, and I am completely ready to accept weather he does feel something for me or if he doesn't.
I love him so much and he's pulled me through so much shit this past year I don't care if he'll never love me back. He's my best friend first after all. I will also refrain from telling him how i feel now at this point.
I can't begin to tell you how much bigotry and hatred ive gotten from other threads which i tried to get help from.
today i truly feel more at ease.. thank you.
god bless your soul.