im not sure what to do

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Yes it is normal. And I think it is remarkable that you have this relationship. However, sexual needs have to met in a relationship in order for it to work. Can you think of some new clothes or cologne to help you out? What about shaving or a new haircut? Or how about working out with him and plan a diet for him to help him lose weight- if he is willing? There are supplements that can help build muscle and at the same time lose weight - they are expensive though. You can find them on supplement websites. Keep in mind you are 115 lbs, so he might be wanting you bad! But a little known secret, sex is the ultimate motivator for a man. Use it as a reward for every lb he loses. Now let me tell you my story. I am married and have a child. I love my family very much and would never do anything to jeopardize it. However, the sex is an issue because I always have to ask for it, its almost routine, and I could have had a better looking partner. So what do I do? It sounds sleezy, it is in many respects, but I watch porn. Its an ugly truth but its a solution. Maybe it can work for you or your boyfriend as well. Whatever you do, don't leave your boyfriend on the account of this. You said you have had many bf's, let that stop as soon as possible. People get scrutinized to easily when many bf's becomes too many. And cheaters get it even worse. If you love your boyfriend, then you will stick by him and just try to work this out some way. It doesn't mean it will work out but thats what love is - sticking by someone.

Give him a bit of foreplay, then let him down gently. This obviously can't go any further than that.

it is normal but its clear that you dont love him as a partner but as a friend dont lead him on if youre not attracted to him but want to use him to make youre self feel special and wanted its harsh sooner or later some one else will come for you and you leave this poor guy heart broken and hurt.

You are superficial.

think of it like this, you will get "over it" sooner or l8r, or 1 of u is gonna get dumped sooner or l8r

Eat loads of burgers until your the same weight as he is.

Ok I know exactly how you feel. I had my first boyfriend just before I graduated high school and I liked him as a person but I wasnt physically attracted to him. I didn't realize how much I DIDN'T want to kiss him until he tried to kiss me. Three days later I decided it wasn't right to have him and no want him. I told him that I didn't want to be with him and that I treasure him as a friend and I'd understand if was upset with me. He took a step back for about two weeks and its been two years since then and we're still great friends. I think you should let him down. It really is wrong to lead them on. I still feel bad about it. I don't think myself shallow for it because I tried to make it work (before I found out that I really didn't like him like that).

Dump him, you arnt doing him any favors. He deserves someone who is into him mind body and soul, and you deserve to be happy. Do it fast, try to maintain the friendship if you can, but it might be a lost cause. Attraction isnt something you can control, if you arnt attracted to him then it shouldnt be.

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