IM PREGNANT AND MY HUSBAND DOESNT SEEM EXCITED

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a) already I can see there is a number of reasons behind his reaction i.e. previous baby problems b) this is both of y'alls baby (congratulations), but if he's not as excited as you I'd let it slide because forcing him to be happy like you're happy is going to come off as nagging and, ultimately, continues to make him not want to participate. Be confident and happy by yourself, without him. He'll start to notice you're off his back and, will almost presumably, come around. Maybe not after a couple of days or weeks, but he'll come around. Hang in there, kitty! :)

No it's not normal! Your husband is a idiot. Love is everything but your situation and your emotions about yourself is really sad...and part of that is because hes making you feel low and depressed when thats your so called "husband". I'm going to tell you straight up...Any dude that is serious about you would never in his LIFE make you feel that way...especially when your PREGNANT. It wouldn't even cross his mind. He never would hurt you in any way shape or form. He doesn't seem like he's excited for the baby either and thats just sad. If he really cared he'd be all over your stomach, talking to the baby,comforting you, buying stuff for no reason and you know just doing extra stuff to show he's preparing,happy/nervous and excited for you and the baby. A REAL man is supposed to be there for you ALWAYS and love you ALWAYS...he might have put his part in making the baby...honestly if he was a real man..He would be responsible for his actions and inactions. He inactions are breaking you down and you shouldn't be with somebody like that. Every man on this earth should know that it only takes ONE time and every time you better be ready for what is to come. He has no excuse. I think you should move on and find someone who doesn't play games and treats you like the queen that every single woman on the earth is!

omg and where do you live? It's so sad how there's men like yourself (real men in my opinion) and then there are douchebag assholes out there that call themselve "the man's man" and act all macho all the time. I need advice in the macho man realm, but I think you gave good advice.

Galaxy500 im not a man! LMAO. I'm a girl. A teenager to add to it. I'm a realist so ya i say whats on my mind and whats REAL. I get on people about stuff that they don't realize or take the time to realize. ppl needa put they brains to work man i tell ya..sorry im not that "man" you thought i was hahahaha

sorry I didn't look at the name as a last name for some reason or another. Well, then, let me just say that, in life, a lot of stuff happens that is not fair and, a lot of people expect fairness and equality, but that's not real. And, I wish men were more sensitive, but those types are rare.

Oh lord where do I start...I'm sorry but that comment reeks of ignorance. First and foremost I don't know if anyone can give a true definition of what a "real man" is since it's a matter of opinion and nothing more. He just a man and he's real. A real man. The term is often thrown around in judgmental (and sometimes praising) rants and doesn't really describe anything. Lables don't impress me. You also seem to come across as the one appointed by the rest of humanity to oversee what a person should or shouldn't do. Everyone is different and has their own emotional issues to deal with. It almost seems like you expect perfection and no flaws whatsoever. You say:

"If he really cared he'd be all over your stomach, talking to the baby,comforting you, buying stuff for no reason and you know just doing extra stuff to show he's preparing,happy/nervous and excited for you and the baby."

Well how do you know what is in that persons mind? These are just things that you would expect someone to do in that situation. You even get detailed with what he should do. I don't recall any of the fathers I know being all over their wives stomachs rubbing it day and night while speaking to the fetus. Maybe once in a while. You even go on to describe what emotions he should be feeling. Are you the emotion police? Having a child is a wonderful thing but is it so huge that it demands extraordinary attention such as womb worship? Do you honestly have such disdain for a person that is simply being indifferent and distant? You also spit out the words "always" and "never" so much it makes my head spin. No one is going to always do or not do something. We must think within reason here. We are talking about a human being that is susceptible to lapses in judgment. No one is perfect and will "always" make the correct decisions or "always" conduct themselves in what some would consider the proper manner. Most of what you wrote is based on cognitive distortions. Focusing on the negative points and nothing else will result in no real solutions. Finally, your last point: "the queen that every single woman on the earth is!" Well, I'd have to say that's a little bit of an exaggeration. lol
@ OP. Try talking to your significant other and see if he'll be open with you about what is going on. There's a host of different reasons that could be causing his behaviour. Depression could be one of them. I would strongly suggest couples therapy. Pregnancy doesn't always bring up the most wonderful feelings in some people even if you would like them to feel exactly like you do. They're a separate person and they're personality isn't a carbon copy of yours. You can work through it if you stay strong and really take the time to investigate what's behind the behaviour rather than focusing on how unpleasant he's being.

yo tommy81 two words put the SHUT to the UP.
haha
because I-DONT-GIVE-A-FUCK!
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latterrr BRAAAA

Hmmm...OK....Do you just naturally have a nasty disposition or do you just not like being told that you may have some fallacies in thinking? It's ok, I understand. I once didn't like it either. Hardly anyone does for most of us seem to think we have everything all figured out. Your reply to my comment didn't mount much of a defence of your ideals nor was it very tasteful. Perhaps it's because what you had wrote previously was based on emotions gone awry rather than well thought out rational ideas. I suppose you want your ideals left unchallenged so you go about your merry way and be 'right'.

Can I just say that adult problems are soooo different than teenage problems.... you'll see.

This guy ^ he thinks he's all cool wants to start an argument & shit. tryna say stuff about me that not even true haha..i guess...whatever floots your boat Tommy boy whatever floats that boat.
No duh Galaxy500.
Anyyywaysss
Lemme break it down riii quick really quick...
Any fool can make a baby. Takes a MAN to raise one.
Thats all i was trying to say. Men need take care of they business...Fuck what your going through you gotta baby on the way...act like they are worth it...basically. People needa stop bringing baby's in this world who aren't gonna be loved like they should be.