I met my ex-girlfriend when she was pregnant, the first boys dad wanted nothing to do with her was homeless and running from the police, I have been the only guy in the boys life and he calls me daddy. I feel bad for saying Im torn as to what to do. When I say Im not sure what to do because she has taken him from me for small time periods before while we werent split up like this, she says well you tell him that hes not coming to daddys and that you dont love or want him and tries to put him on the phone, meanwhile I do love him with all my heart and am taking him for the long weekend to my cottage with his brother and sister that are mine. But if I say I worry about losing him (having him torn away rather then doing what everyone tells me to do and just try to get over him now) but all the people who tell me this have not raised any children regardless one who wasnt theirs and one they love the same as their own. I believe I have no legal rights and it is a big risk he's only turning 3 in january. Should I feel like this is this normal?