I am a 29 yr. old white american girl. From my own experience, I can say that it is better that you choose what you want most. Don't stay in this unnecessary state of confusion. If you are true to yourself, you will do what you want, and not what your family wants. I dated an Indian man, my same age, for 3.5 yrs. He came to U.S. for Masters and that's where we met. That relationship change my personalty. I in fact, became a bit discriminatory against indian women, as they were the soul reason why I couldn't keep my boyfriend. The best yrs. of my life were ripped away from me. We loved each other and even spoke of marriage. But, in the end, though he was very torn, he chose to comply with his parents and have an arranged marriage. Do what you need to do for your own self as long as you can be happy in the end with your partner of choice. And certainly never string a white american girl along if you believe it is wrong in the first place :)
I feel sad for you. I really cannot believe why men cannot marry a woman he loves. I live in India, but it's nothing like this here. Our parents are open to their children. We are open to marry whoever we love. And my parents encourage me to marry a white woman because of my attraction towards white women. So, I hope to find the woman of my dream.
Im 33 yrs old...I so feel you on this one... I dated a polish girl for 3 years... We met at work and synced so well, everything was so good amongst us, except for the fact that I was Muslim and she was Christian , and that I being south Asian was brown skinned and she white. We never let any of those 2 factors come in between us, but her family didn't like prospect , ESP her best friend... At the end of the day her friend brain washed her into splitting us up, just cos of color and religion... I uses there are other forces we have to tackle with.
I empathized with you even though it's your past. I was in the same situation in 2001 when my BF had to choose between myself and the bride chosen by his parents. The irony is that I have an Indian background but is very open minded and modern. I am currently dating an Argentinian guy who was brought up in Ontario, Canada. I choose not to get hurt again because some families are too hook up on arranged marriages. I respect my culture but I prefer to follow my heart..
We're on the same boat, my Indian bf (5yrs together) was forced to marry in just 2 weeks because of me (European/white), he was begging parents over 2 months and in the end all went down to the hell. I've spoken to him afterward, he's torched by all this, he can't even speak to his wife about common things. I asked him to get divorce. I feel so pity for that girl too! I sometimes think Indian parents do this because they're not happy in their own marriage so they expect their children to do so:(
Indian man exclusively attracted to White women
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