I've been married now for almost 2 years but I'm still insecure of my husband's ex gf. Actually our love story was a whirlwind my husband had a 9 year relationship and I had a 4 years rel. when we met each other we fall in love and decided to break up our rel and be together. my rel with my ex bf at that time was shaky and it wasn't hard to break him up although there were begging and trying to patch up moments but I already decided to let go, my ex has an attitude that when u have petty quarrel he'll threat u that he'll leave u and that goes on and on, I was dependent on him wishing that I hv the strength to let go and my husband came and then he helped me through it. On the other side my husband really decided to break his gf which he said he hadn't felt something to her ex gf, his ex gf was a result of the girl insists on him before. Is it normal that I'm still insecure of the girl.. she's not that beautiful. I just don't understand where this feeling came from. help
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It's completely normal to wonder about your husband's past loves to an extent. You said she's not that beautiful, but in truth it probably has little or nothing to do with physical attractiveness. You're likely just wondering what they had together, if they connected on a different level than the two of you do, etc, the list goes on for miles. Nearly everyone is curious about their significant others' exes at one point or another; the trick is not to worry about it too much. We all have a past, but it's over and done with.
In short, it's perfectly normal to be curious, but don't let it bother you or make you feel insecure. He married you and not her for a reason. If it continues to bother you, perhaps try talking to him in a calm manner about your feelings.
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ACE