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Is an 18 year old male in this situation normal?
First of all, I am an 18 year old male in college. I speak both German and English, an intelligent in many areas (history, science, linguistics, etc). I am decent looking.
However, i have had but one semi-relationships. We never even kissed except for pecks on the lip. I am a virgin.
One part of me wants to get a girlfriend, and make out and do fun things both romantic and sexual. I just want to see what it is like for real.
On the other hand, I find marriage personally to not be my thing, I despise children, and have a phobia of contracting an STD from someone. Also, I never meet anyone I am interested in. On the very rare ocassion I do, she is taken. I NEVER seem to strongly be attracted to someone, emotionally or sexually. It also seems I grow emotionally attatched to someone before sexually. I don't feel comfortable doing stuff with someone I don't know, trust and respect first.
Since it is rare I am intersted in anyone, and don't like the idea of a long term relationship and I don't want to be a player and use women because I respect them, sometimes I consider myself asexual 0r "a-curios". There is nothing gay or bi about me. I feel trapped somewhere between asexual and straight.
Is there anyone else like this of either gender? and how do I overcome any insecurities I may have about being exposed to other people or STDs? I'd really rather kiss first, then do other things later, because I don't feel comfortable loosing my virginity because I REALLY REALLY don't like children and am scared protection won't work and I don't want herpes.
However, i have had but one semi-relationships. We never even kissed except for pecks on the lip. I am a virgin.
One part of me wants to get a girlfriend, and make out and do fun things both romantic and sexual. I just want to see what it is like for real.
On the other hand, I find marriage personally to not be my thing, I despise children, and have a phobia of contracting an STD from someone. Also, I never meet anyone I am interested in. On the very rare ocassion I do, she is taken. I NEVER seem to strongly be attracted to someone, emotionally or sexually. It also seems I grow emotionally attatched to someone before sexually. I don't feel comfortable doing stuff with someone I don't know, trust and respect first.
Since it is rare I am intersted in anyone, and don't like the idea of a long term relationship and I don't want to be a player and use women because I respect them, sometimes I consider myself asexual 0r "a-curios". There is nothing gay or bi about me. I feel trapped somewhere between asexual and straight.
Is there anyone else like this of either gender? and how do I overcome any insecurities I may have about being exposed to other people or STDs? I'd really rather kiss first, then do other things later, because I don't feel comfortable loosing my virginity because I REALLY REALLY don't like children and am scared protection won't work and I don't want herpes.
Do you think it's normal?
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For the record I'm 17, female, have had a good number of boyfriends, been sexually active with all (I'm not a whore), and kissed dozens of people (girls and guys).
So for my advice. Don't think you have to do all this stuff and don't think your odd for all of this. Theres meny people like you, I know 3 as friends. Your scare of STD's is common and well my advice to get over it is just like all ways to get over a phobia. Face it. That would mean you would need to loose your virginity. You may think I'm nuts but it would work as long as you get the person and you checked first then your positive your both safe. Also since you don't like children (I don't like them either)then your like 99.99% sure not to have kids if you use a condom and spermaside. I cant give you a magic potion that if you drink it you will no longer be scared of this stuff. It's up to you to get over it. Oh right and you don't like long term relationships. Then don't have them! but don't use girls either. it's not difficult, you have friends who are girls? Right? well if so there you go. When you find a girl you like don't think of it as a relationship think of it as close friends. Be kinda like friends with benifits, but only let there be benifits if you want.
I hope my info has helped some way!
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Dr. Rachel I.A. Rachel
Imagine youself, still single, after 10 more years.
Now imagine yourself, single again after 10 years, with half your stuff.
It's probably too early in your life to give up entirely, but go find another pond to fish in.
Just stop worrying about what you think you should do, and only go as far as you feel comfortable going.
get out there and shag as many minxes as you can...ALWAYS wear protection ...
Be Bold ,but honest with youre brief partners.
Im forty now ,and thru a few too many drinkys over the years ,and a few too many Big Macs ,my pecker aint doing what he used to do.
Get in there Cowboy !!!!
You dont feel atracted because you are always seeing the same persons, you can't wait to see if one day you will feel atracted to it. You need to meet people, if you think someone is pretty, that doesnt mean you are atracted for her, you have to talk to her, meet her, know her, have your little moments and then you will know if its the one or if it could be and worth of trying. And she will judge you the same way, if she doesnt think you aren't pretty at the start !
Ok now about the STDS, thats something you should always talk with your partner, after you know her and you know when she is lying or saying the truth, ask her if she thinks she can have something like that, she may be as scared as you ! If you don't believe her, then just don't do it until you have the papers from the doctor telling she is healthy.
About Herpes, lol mate, thats rare, and you know how herpes is, you see it before you touch it. :)
I hope i helped you.
Good luck
Basically you are telling him to have sex with "pure" people, and making the "pure" people having sex with this guy who is gonna sleep "around all the time" if following your advice!
You are giving him an advice that the others can't follow !
And about the condom ? What you mean, no exceptions ?
I say that stuff is overrated ! If he knows the girl, if there is trust and confidence between the couple, if there is proofs, if she showed him the papers saying she is healthy, why would he has to use condom ? To not get pregnant ? Lol, overrated !
Superman
only 2 girls in the last 4 years (im 18 too)
and none of them i've talked too
others - don't interest me even lust -no lusting like rest of my friends who always keep talking of "i wud love to pork and chew up that piece of ass!"
i get so emotionall weak,and never ....well thing is whatever u said exactly fits my shit
maybe we need to loose that personality
yes we need to,but it'll be hard