Is it normal dating an older man?

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A colleague was 18 when she met her (now) fiance of 40, a divorced father of two sons. Twelve years later, she's 30, he's 52 and they're about to get married. He's extremely physically fit, looks young, and has a young outlook. It works for them.

They're happy and good on them. Problem is, I think they're the exception. They're together because they kind of fit. He's not the creepy older guy who can't cope with women his own age. He just happened to meet someone of a different age that he gets along with. This is all according to her, by the way. I've never met him but I've seen pictures.

So, yeah, you came here and asked to be judged based upon a couple of ages. I know what people are going to say and 95% of the time, they are right. Maybe you're part of the 5%, maybe you're not. But you know that better than us. And also, if you're even asking us the question, maybe you're not ultimately convinced it's normal, either.

Well, im 33 and he is 46..we have been dating for 2 yrs and talking about getting married. I have to ask you a question, do you have kids or does he?..I have my daughter and he has 2 kids from ex-wife.. I want another baby not now but when? I have to think about his age.. I cant wait to long because he will be 50 yrs old soon..something to think about?..
When he ask me if i would marry him I was excited and happy but then, this is my first time getting married this would be his 2nd..I never lived with any man including my daughters father who i was with for 15 yrs..and he has......something for you to think about..Me and him we have lots of fun together we do things everything together..
Age was never an issue..but for you ..
you need to think about it..what do you want from him? just to have fun or something that can grow more into something....

Coming from the perspective of someone who is near the same age as the gentleman you are interested in, he is your superior, and always will be, in life-experience. This may not mean a lot to you today, but you will understand when you are his age and you view people your current age as less sophisticated.

So, if this lack of sophistication does not bother him, then there must be something special about you that attracts him enough to break normal social rules. Maybe it's your tight body, your youthful exuberance for life that hasn't yet been tainted by years of the reality of real life. Maybe it's your naivety about the world that gives him a powerful, needed feeling that he cannot attain with any intelligent women his own age; brains plus innocence can be sexy.

Only you will know when, or whether, the age-gap is too much for you. You may not even want to discover his true motives for dating someone as young as you; he might not even be aware of his motives either.

Go for it, your young. Worry about it when he asks you to marry him.

You are over 18, he is over 18, that is all that matters. Age has little to do with it, people get hung up too much on what others think. The only question you need to ask is are you happy?

I too am 43 and all I can say is, as long as you are both happy being with each other and it is a real relationship (meaning just not based on sex)then it can not be bad.
I WISH YOU BOTH ALL THE BEST!

Maybe your dad went to school with him??? hahahahhaha