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Is it normal for a Dad to sleep in bed with his daughters?
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First off, I am hardly a prude. I am very open minded, but I just think this is very weird.
My boyfriend is a divorced Dad & Father of 2 daughters -3&6.
When I came along, they were sleeping in bed with him, in his bedroom.
I told him that once I got there, they would have to learn to sleep in their own bed.
What happened is that now, a year later - he is still sleeping in bed with them, only this time he is sleeping in THEIR bed, in THEIR bedroom, while I am left to sleep alone in OUR bedroom.
He says he can't sleep in bed with me because he likes to sprawl out & I like to sprawl out & we have no room on our queen size bed for us BOTH to sprawl out...Meanwhile, he can smush himself into a full bed with his 2 daughters & sleep just fine.
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uhh..I know a lot of people are saying this is normal but in my opinion it sounds kind of creepy. I know from experience, my dad used to be the same way.

if you think he might be a pervert you should research into the signs of sexual abuse before coming to conclusions.

http://www.apa.org/pubs/info/brochures/sex-abuse.aspx
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I have a 3 year old who sleeps with my husband and I at least twice a week. It's cozy and we are comfortable together. It's sweet! No worries.
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OMG same problem i had but i made my bf stop having her sleep in our bed it was way too wierd bed time u too should be alone in bed its a time for romantic intimacy i am so against it i mean maybe once in awhile if she had a bad dream i understand but everynite and u need to let him know the seriousness of this situation he SHOULD NOT be in there bed so innapropriate i threatened to leave my man if he didnt stop it i meant it too i would have im not dealing with anything that makes me uncomfortable good luck
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I would caution him to be very careful if (CPS) were to ever find out they would take his kids away. It is not right for a adult parent to sleep with his kids especially if they are little girls. I hope you will take note of this as serious and end it before he ends up lossing his kids mabey even forever
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@: matches
Are you crazy? Of course CPS wouldnt take his kids away, when I was little I slept in with my parents most nights and there was NOTHING WEIRD ABOUT IT. If a woman did it no one would have a problem with it.It's horrible to try and put some sexual or abusive connotation on a single parent trying to reassure his kids. They are probably upset about the split annd want stability and closeness from him.
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@: matches
moron.
theres not law against sleeping with your children.
if theres nothing sexual, he just likes to sleep with his children. its not normal, its weird. But its okay.
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Normal. Kids like to stey with there parents all the time and offen sleep in the same bed. Its more a comfort that their there. Well, in this case, one of them. Thouse girls might not fully understand why they only have there dad living with them. Its only natural since there staying with there dad and there mother isnt around that they stey with him to make sure he dosnt leave too. They simply dont want to be alone.

As for him sleeping in the same bed as them. His excuse may be fictional due to trust reasons. Maby its a request from the daughters? Or maby because there his kids and he dosnt want them to go or be taken away AND infact fears this. So he sleeps in the same bed to comfort not only them but himself. Making sure his children are still by his side. For all we know his ex wife could be trying to gain some if not all costody over the kids. In there time of fear that they will be split up they stick closer together in best attepts to avoid this.

Solution? Ease both him and the girls into sleeping in seperate beds and rooms. Say things like "its only across the hall, if you need anything just call dad and he'll be right there." it will take a while for this to sink in. For the first couple nights they will call for there farther. But you must be strong and keep at it. If its any comfort to the dad. Asure him that their not going to be taken away and are safe in there own room. He can triple cheak windows and doors are locked and that an alarm is active. They only want eachother to be safe and near, im sure.

Divorce is a hard thing for kids to go though. There still very young. Remember its tough on adults too. In his own way he may have moved on. But thouse kids are still his and his ex wifes. And somewhere inside he will always have a love for her, her children, his children.

Though i could be wrong. This isnt for me nor anyone on the internet to deside. We can only advise. Its for you to make judgement and decide whats going on. but dont asume... Thats the worst you could ever do. Try gaining more trust and talk to him... them. Dont take it personly, but he trusted someone once, enough to get married and have kids. Why should he trust someone else?
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Ollieo
Looks like he is doing this out of his needs, not theirs. It is one thing for kids to creep into your bed in search of comfort occasionally. Another for him to be in theirs, while shunning yours

I don't like the way he crosses boundaries. He is your partner and sleeps with you, not in the children's bed. This is just way too inappropriate & what kind of message is it giving the kids?

Tell him flat out. If he can't see that you are the adults, they are the children & that as adults you agree on what is appropriate way to provide care, make plans to leave & call CPS.
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When children are younger it is normal to sleep with them once in a while but 3/6 years old Daughters a father should not be doing this. You avoid problems in life.
And you are right to let him know they should be in their bed and how were you to know he would head to their bed, that's uncalled for and their bed is smaller? You are right on point girl.
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Lots of couples (especially after the "honeymoon period" wears off) need each their own bed to sleep well. If your boyfriend is honest that he needs to sprawl out, you should replace the queen with 2 good sized single beds in the master bedroom.
Then follow the advice of ComboBreaker, 'Ease both him and the girls into sleeping in seperate beds and rooms. Say things like "its only across the hall, if you need anything just call dad and he'll be right there." '
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Not many women would put up with this...
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It can be normal to a certain extent. My dad had to move into a one bedroom apartment and I would sleep in his king sized bed whenever I'd stay over. It felt very warmin because I lived in a different state and didn't get to see him much. He ended up dieing a year later of cancer.
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loseyername
in a different time this might be normal but with all this about sexual molestation and children at risk it's kind of a red flag for me to read this. idk I think it's kinda creepy but that's just me.
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Sounds like a bit of jeasuley behaviour to came out and ask tha question or maybe its not for you to look after another womens kids ,you have to remember that if His girls were their first don't hold it against them like some women do Talk to your patented explain the way this make you feel,better bedtime routine is needed......as or pervert your don't even now the man only from a couple of words that from a women how won't even tell her boyfriend she even asked this question cause her relationship would over to walk into a family and beleave your THOUGHTS you are not happy
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It's weird. I'd like to give him the benefit of a doubt but it seems like he's making excuses. Sit him down for a serious talk and ask him WHY he's doing this. If it truly is over space, I don't see why he can't sleep on the couch, you can consider buying a larger bed. I know! You can ask him if he still sleeps with them even if you aren't staying over.
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I think its normal ._. as long as they arwnt over the age of 8...
If they were teenagers...
THEN we have a problem
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THERES NOTHIN WRONG HE JUST LOVES HIS KIDS
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@: kia106
.says paedobear
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it seems to me that there is more jealousy in this issue for you. My husband puts my daughter to bed every single night...i move him to my bed when i go in and she will wake up and call for him. He is her security blanket and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Espcially you should be ok with it unless you think something more serious is going on. (like sexual activity). which way more than likely there isnt. you should look deep into yourself and see if it is "a serious problem" he sleeps with them or if your jealous. and i dont mean this in a negative way. jealousey isnt anything to be ashamed of. idk..i like that my husband is so connected with my daughter and it is a special bond but at the same time...i want my husband too. :) so iguess looking into harder You should have a deep conversation about it and come up with something suitable for both of you. instead of demanding it. i really hope this helps even tho im riding on the fence. but no one here can give you your decision. Thats your to make with your man. lol. Thanks.
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Well, i think it is normal. I mean, it's like you are the boss, but your not. You tell him that they HAVE to sleep in their own bed. ITS OK! They love him, he loves them! It's not like he loves you as much as he loves them! Jeez!
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HEY COCNUT it is not about who he loves more.. He is not suppose to love his daughters and his wife/girlfriend the same way, where do you come from...The mountains?
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WTF PPL havent you ever seen a mother dog take care of her pups? they sleep together! completely normal unless hes like abusing them. but hes not so it doesnt matter hes just napping with his kids wtf? every mammal does it i used to nap next to my parents mom and dad! its completely normal
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