Thanks jb and thanks for unjumbling my mess of a question. Glad your still around , thought we'd lost ya.
You know things you mention do eat at me when she does this stuff, I've thought a lot about that angle. I won't go into it but she has had a very tough life and she is basically all she's had since she was 7 or 8 - 21 now. Trust is huge to her and she'll usually wall off feelings/talk, that might leave her open, or smothers it with a tough front or , she attacks. But, when she's not jumping the gun she is so gorgeous,fun.
Gonna go with your advice and give her some time too. And yeah I couldn't spend my life untangling her head but hey if she could just level out a bit,trust.
It's surprising then, that she has shown her weakness is jealousy. A bad bf could really use that against her. You should tell her that you know this is her weakness but she should lighten up as you've no interest in anyone. The worst thing you can do is get frustrated and yell, "Give it a rest!" although this may be what you want to say. In reality, she can't help let it out coz she's looking for reassurance.
I'm sure she will calm down when you make it plain that you don't even want other females around.
I am always absent for a while, when it is exam time for my teenage son. I get the unenviable task of printing out past papers and collating the relevant information for him :o( I supervise him while he studies otherwise he would be playing computer games or texting his pals. However, they're nearly over - and he'd better get straight A's or I will scream!!
You know things you mention do eat at me when she does this stuff, I've thought a lot about that angle. I won't go into it but she has had a very tough life and she is basically all she's had since she was 7 or 8 - 21 now. Trust is huge to her and she'll usually wall off feelings/talk, that might leave her open, or smothers it with a tough front or , she attacks. But, when she's not jumping the gun she is so gorgeous,fun.
Gonna go with your advice and give her some time too. And yeah I couldn't spend my life untangling her head but hey if she could just level out a bit,trust.
I'm sure she will calm down when you make it plain that you don't even want other females around.
I am always absent for a while, when it is exam time for my teenage son. I get the unenviable task of printing out past papers and collating the relevant information for him :o( I supervise him while he studies otherwise he would be playing computer games or texting his pals. However, they're nearly over - and he'd better get straight A's or I will scream!!
Good luck.