Thanks for the advice! Unfortunately the problem is that ive already tried those things and he doesnt react how i would expect. Instead he bevomes withdrawn and gets into this constant low mood. One time there was one day in a week that we didnt see each other and i was breathing a sigh of relief. He called me at about 12am that night and said how he misses me and how we "could have seen each other today." when i said something about being busy his mood suddenly changed and he seemed so down for more then a week. I dont get any of these things. My dad worked out of the country until i was a teenager and me and my mom didnt see him very often or talk very often but we still loved each other a lot. So i cant help but feel like hes crying over nothing and its so frustrating! Nothing i do seems to help me at all. :/
Perhaps you could try talking about the direct problem, maybe with a big smile on your face, and when you're both together - in a good mood. You could mention how clingy he seems, maybe by discussing how much you love him, and that you're always close - if it doesn't work, then perhaps give it a rest and try again.
Has he had any issues as a child, or earlier in his life? For instance, my husband and his twin brother had a really tricky birth, and their parents separated when they were 10 - and I think that could've been what gave them separation issues. If your man has had some sort of tragedy as a kid, maybe you could suggest Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), to help soothe these problems. I know that when John and his twin went to CBT, loads of things came out from their past; bullying at school, hearing their parents fight - all sorts. They cried at most sessions, I think - but it really helped them.
He might see you as a dominant role model, someone to look up to - so perhaps suggesting some activities where he can take centre stage would be good.
Perhaps you could try talking about the direct problem, maybe with a big smile on your face, and when you're both together - in a good mood. You could mention how clingy he seems, maybe by discussing how much you love him, and that you're always close - if it doesn't work, then perhaps give it a rest and try again.
Has he had any issues as a child, or earlier in his life?
For instance, my husband and his twin brother had a really tricky birth, and their parents separated when they were 10 - and I think that could've been what gave them separation issues.
If your man has had some sort of tragedy as a kid, maybe you could suggest Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), to help soothe these problems. I know that when John and his twin went to CBT, loads of things came out from their past; bullying at school, hearing their parents fight - all sorts. They cried at most sessions, I think - but it really helped them.
He might see you as a dominant role model, someone to look up to - so perhaps suggesting some activities where he can take centre stage would be good.
Keep me posted!
xx