Is it normal for a woman to have mental/psychological disorders that usually males have ? like paranoia ,Autism , schizophrenia ,psycopath, these illnesses are usually found in men and rarely in a woman , but my female friend whose 42 has all of the above illnesses .

I highly doubt your friend has gotten those diagnoses continuously from a mental health "professional" (if at all). It is much likelier that she's using serious mental illnesses as a shield for a series of inner conflicts that she's not ready to resolve.
My diagnosis? Smack your friend in the face, have a big cry session with her over wine, hug a bunch, and let her vent.